A dual mating strategy is used by people who feel desperate…But it is men who are more likely to feel desperate.

This post is inspired by, ironically, a TRP flaired man in here recently who essentially stated this, and I agree with him: Men are the ones more likely to use a dual mating strategy. The 1st strategy is to try to fuck as many women as available to him (“spread his seed”), and the 2nd is to invest in only one woman.

Even from TRP’s beloved pop evo psych worldview: How are women not much less likely to use a dual strategy? A dual mating strategy for us is just way more inconvenient and even life threatening compared to remaining single and holding out for a man who reaches our high standards (to be both attractive enough and dependable/trustworthy enough). Why take the risk of getting pregnant with a man who won’t stick around to take care of the child, leaving you more destitute? Or risk getting yourself or your child harmed or even killed for trying to commit paternity fraud on a so-called beta provider?

Because women are more likely to tolerate being single and sexless (and even childless imo) than men are, women are actually less motivated to settle. We see it here all the time with men berating women for being too picky and turning into man-avoiding, man-repelling single cat ladies. Women can only be as “picky” as we personally feel we can tolerate being without the kind of man we yearn for. And it seems many men in here still don’t get this.

Another example: Look at how men complain about how rude and unlikeable women in their 30s are when trying to date them. Because those women are “asking for too much” and are too serious minded because they really want to get settled down already, right? But if a woman truly wanted to scam a “beta” and trap him for his resources, why wouldn’t she put on the sweet and submissive act for him? Women are not stupid, especially as full grown adults. We know what really makes men in general want to commit to us beyond just sex. If women were truly motivated to do this dual strategy, we would all be acting more like pickmes the older that we get.

This is part of why I feel like the vast majority of TRP / the manosphere is simply male projection. And no, do not come at me with that arrogant “but TRP is just observing reality” line. You are flawed, biased, over-confident humans just like anyone else. Not to mention most of y’all aren’t even in the social sciences either. Also, TRP / the manosphere is inherently a male echo chamber, and echo chambers are notorious for developing warped perceptions of reality. So, talk about solipsism…

I could seriously go on even more about why I think the TRP dual mating strategy theory placed on women is very flawed and truly a male projection, but I’m trying to keep this post from getting too long.