Anyone notice that many women can't stand males having hobbies?

Lostyogi · 2025-05-20T21:43:28+00:00

You can have hobbies in my experience but those hobbies need to look like work🤔

If you make and sell furniture then you are good.

If you grow and sell flowers then your good.

If you just want to sit for a bit and be a virtual wizard then you had better believe a job for you will appear three minutes after you sit down.

KarateInAPool · 2025-05-20T21:52:12+00:00

Feminists can’t even stand that men aren’t into gluttonous vanity/narcissism like they are.

Guys will wear the same 5 articles of clothing and get made fun of by women for it.

SubstantialMajor2798 · 2025-05-20T20:50:39+00:00

😂😂 .. in my experience it was mostly the attention i was giving to my hobbies. Women don’t really spend time with non-living things like men do .. and they can’t take it for some reason.

Also, they need loop talks .. like an entire 60 mins conversation that leads no where. We are kind of objective oriented.. we want to get to the point and find a solution if there is one. And my partner seemed to think I give logical solutions to her gossips to end the conversation quickly so I can out for a ride 🤷🏻‍♂️

Call_It_ · 2025-05-20T23:20:10+00:00

Women will often scorn a man for playing video games, only to indulge themselves in hours of Netflix binge watching.

kmikek · 2025-05-20T20:42:02+00:00

Are you spending money and paying attention to something else?

RHOPKINS13 · 2025-05-20T21:05:51+00:00

Very recent PERFECT yet sad example of this...
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1kq149h/aita_for_not_letting_my_mother_in_law_come_over/
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1kqnwrq/update_mil_refuses_to_back_down_over_destroyed/

Njaulv · 2025-05-20T22:51:34+00:00

From my understanding it is that it bothers these types of women that men are paying attention to anything other than them. I have literally heard some of these types of women be bothered by men paying more attention to their children than they do to them. Obligatory not all women of course, just these types.

Deckardisdead · 2025-05-20T21:42:23+00:00

I was just talking about this. If you get with a woman and you have fun doing something they go out of their way to complain. Even if she knew you enjoyed it. Not worth it.

SgtSplacker · 2025-05-20T23:05:28+00:00

It's not about hobbies. Don't look at the finger and miss out on the universe of negativity and toxicity that some women have for men, and even other women for that matter. The negativity bias is strong with these people.

dougpschyte · 2025-05-21T04:31:18+00:00

https://wiki4men.com/wiki/Krista_Leighanne_Milburn

According to Ms Milburn, we are here to SERVE women, not to develop or enjoy ourselves, and definitely not to have fun.

What a joyless, narcissistic, self-absorbed bunch.

Always on the lookout as to how they can use you for their benefit.

Extreme-Bed3755 · 2025-05-20T23:31:58+00:00

But if you spend most of your time doing things for them, catering to them they’ll get bored and say you don’t do anything.

Gunslinger1925 · 2025-05-21T12:52:37+00:00

Throughout my master’s program, I faced criticism for not devoting my full attention to my partner, despite having explicitly communicated beforehand that my coursework would require intense focus. Last night, I turned in at 8:15 PM, utterly exhausted and overwhelmed, which only exacerbated her frustration.

I had no desire to discuss it, nor did I need a motivational speech—I simply needed time to gather myself and replenish my depleted mental energy.

Whenever I attempt to work on my computer, read an article, or immerse myself in a book, I am met with an interrogation so relentless it could unravel even the most seasoned intelligence operative.

This dynamic is increasingly exasperating. As an introvert, I require moments of solitude to recalibrate. Without them, I become irritable, confined, and anxious.

And the mindless conversations—they devolve into a series of perfunctory responses, devoid of any substantive exchange.

Moreover, why does every situation seem to center on her? A stressful day at work? Her. Sheer exhaustion? Her. An impending deadline? Her. Contracting COVID? Still her.

Comfortable-Side1308 · 2025-05-20T22:23:31+00:00

Women can't stand men enjoying themselves no matter the activity. Behind every man having a good time is a woman trying to ruin it.

Edit: this 9d old comment got three replies. Did this post get picked up by some feminazi sub?

HuumanDriftWood · 2025-05-20T21:38:20+00:00

I suffered from this terribly.

Emotionally broke me from who I was to who I am now.

Edit: men need things to disassociate or to be involved with other men (groups, teams etc), it's a primordial need as like women need groups either in person or online to gossip and winge and moan).

CryHavoc3000 · 2025-05-21T07:18:29+00:00

Yes.

Stay away from women who don't share or refuse to even try to be involved in your Hobbies.

If she acts like you have to drop everything for her, you are better off quickly running away.

AndyRoo2023 · 2025-05-21T08:03:34+00:00

Women ‘can’t stand’ a lot of phenomena that doesn’t revolve around them / include them, is what life experience will show us.

Not a problem as long men have the fortitude to be unconcerned with what they ‘can’t stand’…if being unconcerned is harmless to the situation. 🤷🏻‍♂️

TheRealJDubb · 2025-05-21T13:02:14+00:00

I was told that the time I put into hobbies rather than with the wife talking about emotions reflects my "dismissive avoidant attachment style", reflective of "core harm" inflicted on me as a child. Apparently I am defective? I thought I was just being a happy dude.

JACSliver · 2025-05-20T23:14:12+00:00

Because they are resentful and would rather tear others down than get a hobby and build themselves up.

RealStarkey · 2025-05-20T23:28:12+00:00

You are preventing her from her agency built in your hard work. Shes owed your attention and your income.

Nothing makes some women more crazy then seeing men happy without them.

Fearless-Scallion498 · 2025-05-21T05:43:32+00:00

They always say that's all you care about, like they're accusing you of neglecting them somehow.

Left_Welder_7960 · 2025-05-21T05:48:17+00:00

why are video games considered so bad?

I use them to socialize so isnt that good

mr_t_pot · 2025-05-21T11:21:32+00:00

Male hobbies often involve male-only spaces, so therefore, they must be destroyed or invaded.

Downtown-Campaign536 · 2025-05-21T01:54:17+00:00

Many women hate when a man they are with has a hobby that she views as "Not Productive" or "Beneficial to her" or she views it as "Competition for his attention."

If he has a hobby such as taking photographs. And it is a side hustle for him. That's even better because he makes some money from it that he can in turn spend on her. Oh, she will LOVE that sort of hobby. Especially because she can use that hobby of his for her own benefit if she wants some pictures taken.

Then compare that to things like video games. She doesn't care about his steam achievements. He is spending too much time on that game. It doesn't matter to her that the game helps him reduce his stress and is form of entertainment. She thinks he just wastes money and time on video games.

When it comes to her mans hobby women always ask "What's in it for me?"

If she has a piece of shit car, and his hobby is fixing cars... Oh, she is gonna love that hobby! However, if she doesn't own a car or doesn't need maintenance on her vehicle than it's worthless to her if he is blowing money on tools and parts. But she may still like it if he makes his own car nice for going out.

She will probably be okay if working out is his hobby as she wants her man to be more fit and attractive.

A hobby like "Poker with the guys" she is not going to like. He is probably gonna lose money, and she would only like it if he is a consistent winner most of the time.

Lawncare is a hobby she may like as her man is keeping the exterior of the house looking good.

Any hobby that benefits her in no way she will often find off-putting unless it is one of her shared hobbies. So, she is not going to like if he plays chess unless she also plays chess.

True-Lychee · 2025-05-20T22:22:37+00:00

That's time that some form of value isn't flowing her way. How dare you.

dougpschyte · 2025-05-21T04:51:32+00:00

Women can't understand the difference between a man and a tool which they can use.

alter_furz · 2025-05-21T02:15:13+00:00

that's how you would react if your multi-purpose house robot had a hobby.. or just relaxed on a charger.. instead of being useful to you every second of its existance

SimSimSalabim · 2025-05-20T22:35:36+00:00

reminds of me this Bill Burr bit

Emotional_Ice · 2025-05-21T12:41:51+00:00

It's a woman's duty to watch her man to see if he's enjoying himself, and to put a stop to that nonsense immediately...

FerretMouth · 2025-05-21T16:34:34+00:00

Look up how “men in sheds” has been invaded in England.

Upper-Ad9228 · 2025-05-21T04:56:46+00:00

also that women you met sounds..........interesting lets just say that.

Darth_Gooch · 2025-05-21T10:42:17+00:00

This is why I wake up at 430 to work out, and wait until the kids and my wife are in bed before I play video games or watch a movie of my choice.

TheSentinel36 · 2025-05-21T12:24:08+00:00

It's happiness, they can't stand for men to find joy in something other than them.

No_Taro_6903 · 2025-05-21T13:05:36+00:00

Yeah anything that takes attention away from them.

Sick-of-you-tbh · 2025-05-21T14:38:47+00:00

They want us to be more like them and have zero hobbies.

first-trina · 2025-05-21T13:29:04+00:00

I don't know why reddit is showing me a post from here, but I do have a strong opinion on this.

I see many of my friends fall for guys because they do interesting things like mountain climbing, Alpine skiing, restoring muscle cars, lifting weights, riding motorcycles, etc., but after they hook them, they then want the guys to stop the things that they did that initially attracted them to the guy so then they become less attracted to them. And then are confused as to why when it is obvious to any impartial observer.

Fun_Butterfly_420 · 2025-05-21T01:40:18+00:00

Bill Burr has said that women are jealous that men can find joy in simple things like watching sports. I don’t think it’s true in every single case but I do think there’s some truth to it.

27Buttholes · 2025-05-20T23:10:48+00:00

That's their problem

eben1996 · 2025-05-22T07:02:31+00:00

As a woman, this makes me really sad. I encourage my husband to have hobbies because they make him happy! We met doing a mutual hobby (dancing) and he still goes a couple of times a week (I don't right now as we have a young child and I'd rather not be out until 3am, but don't mind if he wants to), and he has an impressive pokemon card collection that he enjoys building, why would I ask him to stop? The only way I can imagine asking him to slow down is if it started affecting our finances negatively, but otherwise he is free to do what he wants

SatisfactionEasy3446 · 2025-05-21T02:44:53+00:00

They don't like anything that excludes them, even though they don't outright exclude them, and they want complete control of men and boys. They deeply envy the relationships fathers have with sons, as well as really being homophobic because we show how fine and happy we really are without them.

3gm22 · 2025-05-21T20:35:06+00:00

Yes. They want our identity to be dependent upon them.

douglasddx1 · 2025-05-22T02:40:55+00:00

Women only see men for what they can do for them. Having hobbies takes time away from them servicing them or working towards making more money (for them ofc).

ConstantPhotograph77 · 2025-05-22T07:04:38+00:00

Not good women. I would walk them to.the door while laughing

kameshazam · 2025-05-22T13:12:30+00:00

My wife is a geek, I can't relate.

opensrcdev · 2025-05-22T15:52:00+00:00

Back when I was in a relationship, I couldn't even get actual work done in my office without constantly being bickered at, let alone hobbies.

2025-05-24T02:13:13+00:00

If a man doesn't care about how he dresses, he's a "dusty bum", and if he dresses really well, he's" zesty"

If he's got a lot of hobbies and they make money.Oh he's a keeper girl

If he's got a lot of hobbies that help him take care of himself like working out, reading, biking or hanging out with friends? You don't trust him.

anon_enuf · 2025-05-22T10:19:45+00:00

How dare you invest time, money, energy & interest in anything but your woman. Get your priorities straight.

/s

DeepAnnoyance · 2025-05-22T15:04:47+00:00

Its not about the hobbies. Its to signal that she is wanted enough to be picky. In reality she doesnt have any options

Upper-Ad9228 · 2025-05-21T04:56:01+00:00

i have not been noticing it, that being said i have seen time and time again people (so not only women) not stand when men have nsfw stuff or long time gaming as a hobby.

2025-05-24T01:56:12+00:00

So true!

look at their hobbies completely self-serving, mostly consisting of removing body hair, since their only sexual marketplace value is their looks.

98% of women [especially Gen Z and millennials] Are not compassionate, empathetic, or self-sacrificing, but they spend decades pretending to be.

Sure, some are nurses, but you rarley see women doing dangerous jobs that are altruistic and help others: Police officers, firefighters, construction work, military.

Otto500206 · 2025-05-24T04:41:28+00:00

Most of these people don't have hobbies.

HugeIntroduction9313 · 2025-05-24T19:57:02+00:00

Who cares they ain’t in charge of us in what we do I’m not so why do they care what the issue

Far-Buy-4701 · 2025-05-29T16:32:00+00:00

Wild how one woman not liking a hobby somehow turns into ‘many women can’t stand men having hobbies.’ You sure it’s not just you she can’t stand?

Ok-Towel1712 · 2025-06-09T19:06:02+00:00

As a woman I haven’t met anyone who can’t stand their men or their partners having hobbies- the issue only arises when the said hobby leaves the woman taking more on in the dynamic because the hobby takes priority- most women just want balance, sure go golfing every weekend but be mindful if she’s exhausted from taking care of the kids and help her so she can explore her hobbies too. This attitude may seem unreasonable at first but it’s usually a cry for help. The exception of course would be women that think men shouldn’t have hobbies at all simply because their men but that’s not as common as you may think- hobbies are cool everyone should have them😎

Evening_Iron3376 · 2025-07-30T17:15:38+00:00

Hobbies are not for men. They're for rich people.

People said with interest, "Wow! Little Billie's Dad was a shoe shiner! I can't wait to see him as one! Maybe he's going to make his own shoes!"

Little Billie soon found his life force drained as he inserted his millionth sole into a shoe casing. He never got to have hobbies in his life because everyone just expected him to build shoes. They weren't even his own brand. Something called Speedass a company worth a billion of him. If only he had some means to distract himself from his work. The woman across the street just sits in her living room watching people wear the shoes he makes at sports games and gets to drink wine. He really isn't sure how because she never leaves the house and yet has billions trading goods on the Internet.

joelberg · 2025-05-21T12:26:24+00:00

What was the tool?

incelincinerators · 2025-05-27T00:58:24+00:00

Video games and looking at porn/women are not hobbies. Hope this helps.

lol_camis · 2025-05-21T13:02:57+00:00

No, I have never once noticed this.

midwest4125 · 2025-05-21T15:51:50+00:00

Most women actually prefer men have hobbies.

drtpalmer · 2025-05-21T06:30:50+00:00

I don’t have this experience at all.

erik_reeds · 2025-05-21T01:42:19+00:00

this has not been my experience with platonic friends or partners personally

Lilly_Rose_Kay · 2025-05-21T07:17:13+00:00

The thing is to find hobbies to enjoy together and respect the ones you don't share.

Title	Anyone notice that many women can't stand males having hobbies?
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Date	May 20, 2025 8:35 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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