It's become apparent that many men have decided to embrace victimhood when it comes to dating and life as a whole. Much of the rhetoric in redpill and men's rights spaces is based around how unfair and hard dating is for men due to female behavior and how feminism has made life worse for men. Whether this is true or not is debatable, but it's clear that the identity of victimhood has become increasingly appealing men, especially young men. Many people, especially women, are quick to point this out.

However, it's clear that young men have been inspired by western women when it comes to forming an identity of imagined oppression, and many of the same people who whine about young men's behavior engage in or support it when done by young women in the west. Many women have used a victim identity to complain about supposed unfair practices such as the "wage gap", and hostile workplace environments, to the point where many companies now bend over backwards to accommodate women and feminist interests. In addition, the body positivity movement has embraced anti-science and pushes the idea that overweight and obese women are not only attractive, but also healthy, allowing these women to incorrectly believe that there is nothing wrong with them physically.

This culture of victimhood can be seen even more explicitly in areas such as dating/sex. Many women have utilized the MeToo movement as a means of airing personal grievances on social media over being used or choosing the wrong man while also cultivating an identity of a victim for themselves. In addition, female dating spaces also frequently complain about the supposed low quality of men, blaming men for not meeting their standards as the reason for them unable to find a suitable boyfriend/husband.

Given how this culture of victimhood has been ongoing for years among many women, it's no surprise that some men have decided to embrace their own version of this identity as a response. Although viewing yourself as a victim of another group or society isn't the best response to personal struggles, it's more understandable when it seems everyone in other groups such as women or minorities have done the same.