do girls prefer guys that barely text them?

Jironasaurus · 2025-10-18T00:19:13+00:00

It's not the ignoring part that they love. It's the willingness to walk away. Most men stick around, but when you show the willingness to walk away, you instantly suggest that you don't need her at all.

Also, this only works if she finds you attractive. If she doesn't find you attractive, then you walking away means relief for her.

Alarmed_Box1198 · 2025-10-18T02:37:51+00:00

Learning to ration your time and attention with women is one of the most valuable skills you can ever learn. Not only can you be more measured with what you do and have more to talk about when you see each other. But, you flip a switch in the lizard part of her brain that says he must not be chasing me like these other guys because he's got options. He's a catch, he's valuable. Everything with women is about value. From the designer purse to the diamond, to the guy who only sometimes and unpredictably reaches out. It's great news because less actually is more.

kosman69 · 2025-10-18T00:06:35+00:00

Only if they are attracted to you to begin with. Clearly those guys sound pretty attractive or good at stimulating them in person. If she doesnt like u and u dont text her she will move on quickly. Also given that she is a virgin she’s going to be even more invested in trying to make things work with the guy probably a lot of hormones going on in her

Artistic-Simple-9062 · 2025-10-18T04:18:42+00:00

So if you are someone who texts all the time, it’s probably going to be a buzzkill in general. I would say the majority of people hate texting for more than a couple of minutes.

A better approach might be just to text once or twice, and then ask if you can call instead. You would be surprised as to how much better phone works than text. If the girl is into you, she will definitely make time for a phone call.

When you talk to the girl on the phone, it should be confident you- not needy or nerdy you. You should be able to make small talk and enjoy simple conversation before suggesting a plan for something to do - something you know both of you like and is simple to do (eg go to the pier, beach, go for a walk, go to a bar).

Other than this kind of conversation- don’t do anything else via text; especially don’t chat with her about your whole life and things you do - because then the mystery of you goes away, and a lot of girls move these kind of guys into “online friendzone” which is worse than “friendzone”. It’s more comfortable for them because then they don’t have to meet someone they figured out and can go on to the next suitor who’s a little more interesting and mysterious.

If she doesn’t text you back even with these strategies don’t worry, it may be out of your control. Girls are also dating around or even just busy and may not feel like texting at all, so don’t hound her. It will backfire. Instead just talk to more girls and make simple plans.

If you have instagram or TikTok post your fun life there and girls you shared your number with will see it and will most likely text you back hoping you will invite them to something. I used social media a lot this way to reopen girls I thought weren’t into me- but it’s like others said, girls go after guys they perceive as doing high value things, not orbiting them- so you don’t want to be an orbiter. You wanna be the guy having fun and she wishes she could be in it.

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-10-18T01:58:01+00:00

You dont text, you show that you're not clingy. Probably a drastic change for them.

topher_atx · 2025-10-18T01:21:11+00:00

This is an easy one. They aren't infatuated because the guys aren't texting them often. They're infatuated because the guys are out of their league. Essentially, these guys are the very best these women can "get" but they can only keep them for a night, or maybe even only an hour or two. They probably don't view these guys as being out of their league, but this is how men treat women when they're lowering their standards significantly for casual sex.

theadoringfan216 · 2025-10-18T08:14:49+00:00

I think it's because they are not very important to the guys.

The less crucial she is to your life the more she wants to be in it.

BravoPUA · 2025-10-18T10:40:43+00:00

"Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires."

-Francois de La Rochefoucauld

autodidacticasaurus · 2025-10-18T09:06:11+00:00

It's supply and demand. Someone who texts them all the time has a lower value because they're too available. Someone that isn't as available but is still attractive has a much higher value.

SpecFroce · 2025-10-18T09:10:29+00:00

Space is the key here. A lot of people have enough with managing their daily lives. Space and time between messages gives both a chance to breathe and think about how things can progress.

Both have time to miss each other. Both feel their personal space is maintained and it’s more rewarding to hear back.

CTEcowboi · 2025-10-18T10:53:44+00:00

I think a lot of this is that if you look the way they want and you don’t talk to them they imagine that you’re everything they want.

It’s almost like a fantasy but when you start talking about your actual interests and feelings you destroy this little fantasy they built up in their brains.

sinquacon · 2025-10-18T14:32:18+00:00

As a female, on balance, I would say yes.

The opposite, blowing up my phone / needing constant reassurance, is such a turn off

Having said that men who delibeteraly do not text/withhold to play games or other manipulative reasons - are just as much of a turn off

It's the independent man that stays on my mind

Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-10-19T08:53:36+00:00

"i am well aware that i should watch what women do and not what they say"

Then why are you posted this?

Stop outsourcing your thinking to the hivemind of other men who barely have a clue.

Willbo · 2025-10-18T04:43:55+00:00

Texting is ass. It's only 255 characters, it's a small ass keyboard and screen, you have to type with your thumbs. Every time you text someone they imagine you hunched over a tiny keyboard and screen. It minimizes what you have to say and your presence, it makes you look like ass. The most meaningful text message you can get is to talk on the phone or to meet up in person, so just do that instead.

What's valuable is safety, meaning, and validation. Can you accurately do that in 255 characters or less? Probably not, so just use texts to speak on the phone or meet in person. Or just text her 3 characters: Ass.

Matter_Still · 2025-10-18T00:56:17+00:00

You may be confusing proximity with causality; that is, it's not the absence of texting, they are attracted to the guy to begin with. It might have been the same if these guys smothered them in texts.

It's the same story: there are no rules, no guarantees. every woman is like a book you've never read.

Feisty-Equipment-691 · 2025-10-18T15:59:05+00:00

Constant_Special9055 · 2025-10-18T16:59:51+00:00

One thing I learned as a kid is that when your mom says treat women with respect, it means the opposite. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten my heart broken by texting a woman too much. Now the less I text the more women I get

PlayaNoir · 2025-10-18T21:01:46+00:00

i usually text girls i am talking to every single day.

This is a bad habit.

CatOnSpace · 2025-10-19T01:20:28+00:00

Me who is virgin at 27, i feel i failed as a man, but it is what it is : p

lordmoldybutt42 · 2025-10-19T04:12:49+00:00

The more I learn about women the more I’m disappointed.

LustfulLoveQuest · 2025-10-19T18:02:45+00:00

Sounds like anxious attachment styles to me

Giwrgos_L · 2025-10-21T22:17:59+00:00

im reading models by mark manson lately, im only on chapter 1, but it already helped me clear up some questions, i think it will help answer this and more questions for you too

AggravatingPlum4301 · 2025-10-18T04:21:14+00:00

What does being black, blonde or Asian have to do with any of this?

iletitshine · 2025-10-18T15:05:44+00:00

gross

Beach_Cucked · 2025-10-18T07:28:04+00:00

Are there people who believe anything this person is saying?

Title	do girls prefer guys that barely text them?
Author	purpleshoesamurai
Upvotes	158
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Date	October 17, 2025 11:58 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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