Paying is better than picking up

Destinyciello · 2025-10-30T19:24:40+00:00

Unless you want an actual relationship. Then the girl from the massage parlor is completely useless.

Not to mention the STDs, the potential legal problems, the pimps, the dirty nature of the whole thing.

It's mostly shit. Fun for a few times. But ultimately gets old very quickly and leaves you feeling just as empty as you were before in most cases.

EugeneCezanne · 2025-10-30T22:12:41+00:00

If all you want is sex, sure. But most people want sex + thrill + validation. Most people even enjoy flirting and companionship, even if its only temporary. And most people cant feel those feelings if they know they experience is inauthentic.

InterestingGoose5507 · 2025-10-30T22:03:50+00:00

It depends on the guy and how much effort he wants to put in. If he’s top 10% he’ll likely get women around 5/6 maybe 7 out of ten, therefore sleep down as all man bar the top 1% do. With hookers he can sleep up.

So if you are bottom 90%, you sleep up, spend in many countries can be less than going to the club but it’s often mechanical. If you’re in reasonable shape and you have regular girl you see, then sure it can be more enjoyable but she’s still doing it for the money.

Neither are as good as early relationship sex where you both want each other long term.

TheRedPillRipper · 2025-10-30T22:07:48+00:00

looking for fun, is more enjoyable and easier

I’m the other way inclined; I enjoy ‘the chase’. First impressions. The flirting. The excitement and nervousness. Learning about someone, and that NRE. Love it all.

Additionally, once one becomes adept, it’s not very hard at all. Don’t get me wrong, I love long term relationships and am on my second marriage. There is however very little on earth comparable to that thrill of the chase.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2025-10-31T02:09:55+00:00

Nah, nothing is worse than paying. If I have to pay a woman to tolerate me touching her and having aex with her, then she isn't for me. I don't care how attractive she is, I'd rather be with a woman who's unattractive and truly desires me than be with a woman who's gorgeous and despises me.

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-10-31T14:27:55+00:00

An honest business transaction. The escort gets the money and you get the pleasure. Also you get to close the door on the way out.

Valuable-Marzipan761 · 2025-10-30T19:23:20+00:00

What's there to debate? I'd personally disagree, but it's a preference.

Junior-Campaign-6326 · 2025-10-30T21:31:07+00:00

The problem is most men don't want to pay. Escorts are illegal and therefore expensive. Men don't even want to pay for dinner dates that cost $30 for a women what makes you think men would pay $500- $1000s for intercourse. All this would do is put a price on intimacy that women will then CHARGE ALL MEN. Relationships with men will largely be seen as transactional. Case in point Japan. Not sure if men are a happy bunch there, their suicide rates are quite high.

TheCultOfGrogg · 2025-10-31T02:13:12+00:00

It’s just easier all around to pay women. Because we men are logical, and women aren’t, there’s a more logical sequence of events, and thus a more controllable sequence of events, that comes with paying. When you’re doing the whole courtship bs, there really is no logical outcome for your inputs - that’s why courting pisses so many men off. The hot and cold, mixed signals, the games…just pay for what you want, she feels obligated to provide you it, you all leave and she goes and burdens some other poor sap with all her up-and-down attention-seeking bs.

MyLastBestChance · 2025-10-30T23:17:27+00:00

Massage parlors are notorious as human trafficking sites. And you think that’s a reasonable choice to make?

https://polarisproject.org/blog/2018/06/human-trafficking-in-massage-parlors-a-deeply-manipulated-sense-of-choice/

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These-Purpose-7019 · 2025-10-30T21:31:58+00:00

Eh it depends I rather be with a woman who is into me, as long im into her. Now if I couldn't get my bare minimum, then yeah I rather pay for it then lie to the woman im not attracted to what so ever.

Nerevarine999 · 2025-10-30T22:10:23+00:00

What is the debate?

Are we supposed to argue with you about your preference for prostitutes? Who gives a fuck

Patrickstarho · 2025-10-31T05:58:38+00:00

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-10-31T14:06:37+00:00

Disagree. The easy 6.5 women at the club are better because you don't have the shame/guilt of having to pay for it and knowing they actually genuinely want to fuck you.

And from my extensive experience in casual flings or ONS, the thrill and excitement of having a same night pickup lay is pretty unmatchable.

Also these women are usually absolute freaks in bed. And they don't make you a condom while sucking you off and are usually way more enthusiastic to have sex with you in general.

KhadgarIsaDreadlord · 2025-10-31T15:36:23+00:00

I disagree.

Even if the sex is mid, if you pull a girl you did it becouse of your game, your attractiveness, you putting yourself out there and you know that she slept with you for the love of the game. You made it happen, which inherently makes it more fulfilling.

Visting a sex worker puts you in the same bracket as these digsuting greasy 60 year old balding men who can't make a girl drop her pants unless they literally pay her to do it. The woman you are with is indifferent at best and disgusted by you at worst. I think it's pathetic and you retain more dignity by just jerking off to porn instead.

YeaNobody · 2025-11-01T00:42:44+00:00

Paying is only worth it if you're rich....else it's an entirely losing proposition. One nut a month or whatever you can afford which won't be enough, won't curb your desires.

Title	Paying is better than picking up
Author	Key-Act9674
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Comments	179
Date	October 30, 2025 7:09 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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