Men have massive egos and because of this it clouds their judgment on dating dynamics.

wtknight · 2025-11-11T00:27:34+00:00

Removed. No posts about body count.

slazengerx · 2025-11-10T22:32:56+00:00

Most men don't have big egos, they have fragile egos. Which is why so many seek out approval from Society, which forms a lot of their thinking regarding women. Of course, plenty of women suffer the same dilemma. Once you start living your life for approval in the eyes of others, you're well and truly fucked.

N_Count_Council · 2025-11-10T23:20:32+00:00

And because of this ego and their line of thinking, women become something they have

Women reduce men to their height & dick size all of the time my dude. Do they have massive egos?

b0f0s0f · 2025-11-10T22:44:18+00:00

Men care about body count because despite the recent invention of birth control, our social instincts are baked into our biology and culture in a fundamental way and one of the biggest risks in a male's life is paternity fraud, evolutionarily speaking

coiled-serpent · 2025-11-10T22:32:47+00:00

when women dress up or dress revealing men genuinely believe in their heart of hearts that women do it for attention instead of themselves

What the hell does "they do it for themselves" even mean? Why would dressing sexy make them feel good about themselves?

It's because it affects how others perceive them, obviously. They want to be perceived as attractive and of high status by men and other women.

Imagine arguing that a short guy wears lifts "for himself". It's completely meaningless. He's doing it because he doesn't want women and men to perceive him as short.

TrumpFucksKidz · 2025-11-10T23:15:31+00:00

Men see sex as something being done to women rather than it being something both men and women do.

Some men do see it that way, because the onus of sexual performance is usually placed on the man. It is an act of doing that can, at times, feel like you're giving all the effort.

So because of this anything a woman has to say about dating dynamics is automatically invalid to most men.

Wrong. Your conclusion is correct but your cause is wrong. We don't care about what women have to say about dating because they usually don't date women. Their advice on dating women is useless to us.

Take for example body count because sex is so easy for women to obtain and how many men fawn over women for most women they don’t really care about body count as much as men and I know this because men on this sub talk about hooking up and body count the most or about how bad it is.

What the fuck was that sentence? The reason we care is because we don't want to give the highest thing we can give to a woman - long-term commitment and monogamy - to a woman who has given herself to multiple men without them needing to make that commitment.

If I'm going to pay Lamborghini prices I'm going to get a Lamborghini, I'm not going to get a busted down Volvo with two child seats in the back.

(And queue the army of women and simps crying "yOu ShOulDnT cOmPaRE woMen To CArS!!!!1" rather than seeing the analogy and engaging).

Women don’t really talk about body count as much because most don’t really care as long as you get tested and you’re clean.

This is untrue. Maybe this is true for the promiscuous ones, but for the women who have discernment they absolutely do fucking care.

More importantly women care if man is unable to get sexual attention from other women, Because if she's giving him something that no other woman wants then it lowers her status.

when women dress up or dress revealing men genuinely believe in their heart of hearts that women do it for attention instead of themselves

This is bullshit. You know I know this is bullshit? No woman in the history of ever has decided to go through her full makeup routine for a quiet evening at home reading a book and sipping chamomile tea.

if you even mention as a man you are okay with what your woman wears you’re instantly called a cuck or something similar

If a man doesn't care about the way his woman presents herself in the world then that's his choice. A man who cares what people think about his woman will say something.

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gnomeweb · 2025-11-10T22:12:56+00:00

if you even mention as a man you are okay with what your woman wears you’re instantly called a cuck or something similar

If someone calls you a cuck (with a very few exceptions when it is done in a sexual context or in a very comedic way), then that person is a meanie and you should stop talking with them. In general, anyone policing your relationships is an unacceptable behavior. That has nothing to do with egos or dynamics or whatever.

jay10033 · 2025-11-10T23:41:15+00:00

This is such a terrible take, but let's dismantle this one by one.

I am a man and I have noticed this with the following examples.

I'm confused - is this statement an appeal to authority?

Men see sex as something being done to women rather than it being something both men and women do. So because of this anything a woman has to say about dating dynamics is automatically invalid to most men.

You cannot be serious with this comment. Women most often vote sex as something that exclusively benefits the man. So much that they've created an industry out of it. Further, sex, as we speak here, by definition is penetrative. It is an object being acted upon. Women are the ones that say they get nothing from it (all the whining about the orgasm gap) but again, it is something women believe is "gifted" to men. Otherwise, the idea that men should pay for dates and must make an upfront investment in that way would originate from thin air correct? So I ask you, where does such an idea come from?

Take for example body count because sex is so easy for women to obtain and how many men fawn over women for most women they don’t really care about body count as much as men and I know this because men on this sub talk about hooking up and body count the most or about how bad it is. Women don’t really talk about body count as much because most don’t really care as long as you get tested and you’re clean.

Women care about body count, otherwise they would have no issue disclosing it. In fact, they would be proud of their "number". It's a neutral piece of information, right? By and large, women do not want inexperienced men. This is just factual.

And because of this ego and their line of thinking, women become something they have instead of an extension of themselves like when women dress up or dress revealing men genuinely believe in their heart of hearts that women do it for attention instead of themselves

Why are women not lobbying to have the right to walk around fully naked? If you think people don't dress for how others view them, you're naive. Do you think fashion would exist if no one commented on it? What you're arguing is that fashion trends don't exist and that every individual comes up with their own individual style and we would have a cacophony of things people wear. If a doctor wore a clown costume to work at a hospital, it shouldn't matter to you or any patients right? They are doing it for themselves after all. You wear clothes for the attention of others, for the same reason one wears cologne or perfume. They want other people's attention. To argue that you are also not an observer or participant in your own choices - that by liking your own outfit, it must follow that it is done for yourself, where a lot of what you like is based on what others like - is pure ridiculousness and naivety.

and because of that policing in relationships start if you even mention as a man you are okay with what your woman wears you’re instantly called a cuck or something similar.

Because you are. The person with you has no respect for you. Just like if I walked around with a visible dick print in my sweatpants that women would look at while I had a gf while arguing to her with a straight face that I'm doing it for myself.

Sorryimjustsaying · 2025-11-10T23:53:27+00:00

The one time body count has come up for me post freshmen year of college, the guy got confused because I asked him "What counts as sex for you?"

Cuz it turned out he was defining it as PIV which as a bisexual woman...I mean okay? But he could only see sex as something a man did to me. I definitely think there was some ego there!

Training-Cook3507 · 2025-11-11T00:04:11+00:00

Depends on which men, most men I know don't think like this at all.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-11-11T00:05:33+00:00

Most don’t. They just have entitlement and lack of empathy

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-11-10T22:48:30+00:00

Disagree on body count.

Sure, it’s easier for women, but if a woman with a high bodycount is reserved sexually with you, that inherently shows you are on a different rung than those other guys and doesn’t value your needs when it comes to sex. So sure, go for it, but don’t be mad when that comes with expectations from others based on past behavior.

berichorbeburied · 2025-11-10T23:22:03+00:00

Have you ever had sex?

Why wouldn’t you see it as something done to a woman?

Are you in shape or are you lazy?

Do you just lay there & let things happen to you or do you perform?

Wanting what you want has nothing to do with ego.

Not wanting something because you think highly of yourself is ego related. Not wanting something because it repulses you or you don’t want it intrinsically is not ego related. But someone could say it’s due to high standards or something along those lines.

Women do dress a certain way for attention. This is facts.

Whether it’s social acceptance. Positive attention/acceptance from women. Or sexual attention/positive benifits(perks) from men.

This is a fact

A small minority of women where clothing just because they want to wear that clothing regardless of what anyone thinks

Men are more likely to do that. And that’s the stereotype presented about men. How they are bad with fashion and don’t take the time to present themselves accordingly. For a reason.

Women consent and allow men to have sex with them.

For as much as women whine or complain or etc. once you have sex with a woman there’s not much else she offers. And in a way when she gives you sex. She’s expecting things unrelated to sex. You would be less willing to accept or commit to unrelated sexual commitments/behaviors/expectations. If that said women is also giving sex to other men. Or always allowing men access or etc.

It would be understandable if you wouldn’t want to commit or accept relationship duties or all the unrelated sexual things that are associated with commitments with her

Are you a man or not?

UnarmedRespite · 2025-11-10T23:23:41+00:00

Women do care about bodycount, about as much as men do. https://www.psypost.org/large-cross-cultural-study-finds-your-body-count-affects-your-desirability-with-little-evidence-of-gender-bias/ This sub is not representative of men (or women for that matter).

Junior-Campaign-6326 · 2025-11-10T23:27:34+00:00

Is it me or is masculinity just evaporating from men. It's like the testosterone in men is tanking. God, the responses from men in this subreddit keep getting more pathetic. What happened to manly men?

Title	Men have massive egos and because of this it clouds their judgment on dating dynamics.
Author	Sufficient_Low6728
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Date	November 10, 2025 9:56 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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