Q4W who don't like men with body hair: If you met a guy who was perfect for you in every way except being hairy, what would you do? Ask him to shave his body hair? Try to learn to live with it?

ladybird_00 · 2026-01-24T02:29:49+00:00

If he had a hairy back, I would probably gently suggest laser hair removal.

ThatBitchA · 2026-01-24T02:22:00+00:00

I didn't like men with body hair. My husband has body hair. 🤷 But my husband is also an athlete and was in band in junior high. Two things I once swore I'd never date. 🤣🤣 Perks of growing up and learning that sometimes we can hold ourselves back.

So yes, people can change their perspectives. And no, people don't change their perspectives.

Temporary-Flight-192 · 2026-01-24T02:50:42+00:00

I think hairy guys have it easier since shaving it off is always an option. As a woman who likes hairy men, there is nothing a guy with a hairless chest can do and no adaptation he can make.

Not gunna lie, I lost a minor crush on a guy in college who took off his shirt and had no chest hair except for some weird circles around his nipples. I’ve been slightly disappointed to find zero hair, but those nipple tufts on an otherwise hairless body 😬

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-24T05:04:13+00:00

Hm. Well if i find a perfect guy but he is hairy i won’t let him go anyway, i appreciate all guys that i like.

That being said i would say that my preference is not hairy, and that i don’t like that much hair, and he can decide if he wants to do something. I wouldn’t want to just shave tho. One guy shaved and became a human version of a cactus, like i couldn’t even hugged him. So i think either laser or trim.

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2026-01-24T02:34:08+00:00

I like a little, not a lot of hair on the body. I like a trimmed and neat beard, not a big one. I can give or take the mustache, but it better be neat and trimmed, not a fan of the mustacheo look. Just not into bears, I suppose.

As for what would I do? I'd just keep on moving. I don't think men are like women on this front and it would just lead to discord and resentment. Men really are embodied in a way I don't think women are...and they take requests to change that stuff as a dagger to the heart. They feel so rejected for it and insecure.

He deserves to find a woman who likes that, I think.

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ouishi · 2026-01-24T03:37:37+00:00

I'd deal with it. If I get really annoyed, maybe I'd ask what he'd think of trying waxing or something, but if he said no, I'd respect that. Trimming is probably necessary tho.

sablesalsa · 2026-01-24T06:31:09+00:00

Learn to live with it. Hair removal is a lot of work and it'd be selfish of me to ask someone to continually do it for me imo. But even though I don't care for body hair, leg hair specifically isn't a big deal for me

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2026-01-24T06:54:40+00:00

I've learned to live with it.

uglysaladisugly · 2026-01-24T09:55:08+00:00

I didn't like it. Got a boyfriend with a lot of it. It felt a bit weird at the beginning. I got used to it. Now I love it.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2026-01-24T10:21:38+00:00

Mine is the opposite. I like hairy bodies. However, my partner shaves, and that's his preference - and because I love him, it's my preference for him.

kmb218 · 2026-01-24T10:33:15+00:00

I prefer less body hair but it’s not a big deal to me / a deal breaker.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-24T15:33:41+00:00

I would live with it. Shaving just means stubble, which is worse

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2026-01-24T17:12:44+00:00

Ask him to shave at least his chest. And if he has hair on back probably laser. On legs or arms it's whatever. Everyone should shave their armpits. But I really don't like hairy chest or even back.

Mission-Pie-7192 · 2026-01-25T06:03:16+00:00

In my two biggest relationships, one was extremely hairy and one was extremely smooth. I never really thought about it. It's just not a thing I've thought much about.

DMmeClownPics · 2026-01-25T06:09:37+00:00

I’m not a big fan of body hair but it’s not any kind of deal breaker for me, and I find stubble to be much more unpleasant to touch. My boyfriend isn’t super hairy but he does have a lot more body hair than my previous partners have had. It’s not an issue for me.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2026-01-26T05:24:05+00:00

I would ask him to shave it. If possible I would even pay to have it lasered off.

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