It's extremely rare for a guy to be deformed like the hunchback of Notre Dame or the Elephant Man. Most of the time, guys who complain about dating struggles are average looking or slightly below average, especially due to weight or attire. People's look standards vary and unattractive people typically couple up with unattractive people. However, this sub and the redpill only want to talk about how "Looks get you through the door", but never want to talk about after meeting the look standards for a date.

It's simple: They dont want their personality and behavior to matter. They also dont believe women's personality and behavior should matter outside of "Are you horny for me and want to fuck me within two seconds of meeting me?". But no, let's pretend no woman cares about personality just because some women will knowingly chase felons and serial killers. It's not like it's a problem those women are fine with crime and/or unstable.

The obsession of looks is just a way to pretend to ignore women who mention the many red flags they see in guys who struggle like:

  • Tolerance of bigotry.
  • Dehumanizing/objectifying people.
  • Thinking saying insensitive things is "being honest".
  • Not being able to hold a conversation.
  • Caught constantly lying.
  • Creepiness

What is appealing about this person?

If anything, "Looks matter the most" comes into play in this context because what is appealing about a broke piece of shit? All they would be able to offer is looks. Problem is, shallow women typically have the highest looks standards in order to tolerate/ignore red flags.

That's the real crux of the looks issue. It's not really that looks are the most important thing in dating. It's that looks are extremely important when you have nothing else to good about you and you're just looking for instant sexual gratification.