Do Women Really Have That Many Options?

jd1332 · 2026-07-13T19:56:28+00:00

I’d say some do, some don’t. I think some have a lot of options because they’re objectively attractive and have a good soul, etc. they have many options because they have a lot of good things going for them.

Some have a lot of options because they have low standards. Just my two cents.

UnparliamentaryTea · 2026-07-13T20:01:55+00:00

Yes and no. They have options virtually everywhere, but most of them do not stand out, or like you said it’s guys trying to slide in on Instagram.

When they meet a guy who is genuine, masculine (they also interpret this differently from how men do), and attractive, he stands out. So yes they have load of options, and they may even be acting on some of those options, but it’s not really that hard to stand out amongst the crowd when you take these factors into account

refreshingface · 2026-07-13T19:43:29+00:00

si senior

Admirable_Cold7944 · 2026-07-13T23:40:45+00:00

Girls don’t have endless options. They only have endless attention. Huge difference.

Most of the dudes in their DMs aren’t “options.”
They’re bored guys, horny guys, lonely guys, guys shooting their shot at anything that breathes.

If all those desperate dudes stopped giving attention tomorrow, 90% of girls would suddenly realise:

They never had “options.”
They just had a long list of men who wanted something from them.

An option is someone you genuinely like, trust, respect, find attractive, and could actually date.

And that list is very, VERY small for most girls.

Meanwhile guys?
Yeah, they don’t get attention handed to them.
They have to earn everything - attraction, respect, interest, affection.

But here’s the plot twist:

Once a guy fixes himself even a little - gym, clothes, grooming, mindset, money, confidence
his value skyrockets FAST.

Because very few men actually improve.
Most stay average, bitter, needy, or lazy.

A man becomes an option by working on himself.
A woman gets attention just for existing.

Attention is not value.
Options are value.

Girls have endless attention.
Guys have endless opportunity.

therealslimshady1234 · 2026-07-13T19:44:22+00:00

De verdad las mujeres tienen tantas opciones genuinas

No, solo para encontrar sexo

norwegiandoggo · 2026-07-13T20:29:27+00:00

They have a lot of sexual options. But the options for a serious committed man are often very limited.

Tienen muchas opciones sexuales. Pero las opciones para un hombre que busca un compromiso serio suelen ser muy limitadas.

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2026-07-13T20:43:29+00:00

they do have unlimited options.

However, out of those unlimited options, there are only quite a few that are remotely decent. I have a friend who gets over 100 likes in her stories, DMs, and complains that most are low quality men

highonthelemontree · 2026-07-14T05:49:20+00:00

No. They don’t. Which is why any guy that complains about their success with women is just flat out lazy and stubborn. Take the time to understand first yourself and then what qualities do women find attractive. Do those two things at least at half the effort and you’ll notice drastic changes in how women and other men respond to you.

Before anyone says it, I’m 5’3, I don’t go to the gym (I’m not fat but I ain’t fit either) and yeah I’m also broke af (literally bankrupt level). Now what’s your excuse?

rich_god · 2026-07-13T20:26:25+00:00

In general, women have more options for sex, and men have more options for relationships. Because more men are looking for sex, and more women are looking for commitment.
That’s a very broad generalization tho and can vary wildly obviously. Your personal experience may be very different.

V3X390 · 2026-07-13T20:47:36+00:00

The saying is old as time. Women fuck who they want to. Men fuck who they can. Men marry who they want to. Women marry who they can.

jupiter_and_mars · 2026-07-13T20:08:44+00:00

Well average and especially above average women have an crazy amount of options. Below average women also have options but pretty bad ones (e.g. only used for sex etc.).

Khower · 2026-07-13T21:17:45+00:00

Yes. Ex fling I dated whos very pretty compared our hinge profiles. She had 1000 matches. Im a good looking dude and I actually broke things off with her but I had maybe 90 to her 1000

StruggleElectronic67 · 2026-07-13T22:26:45+00:00

To many desperate men

alexbananas · 2026-07-13T19:53:41+00:00

Bro, tengo amigas que las quiero mucho pero con todo respeto son un 3/10 o 4/10 a lo mucho y en un día reciben cientos de likes de hombres que son >7/10, tienen el ego infladisimo y la realidad alterada, la cosa es que genuinamente no comprenden que esos hombres solo las quieren para un rato y ya

MO_drps_knwldg · 2026-07-13T20:06:44+00:00

When it comes to online dating, they are absolutely bombarded with options

epimpstyle · 2026-07-13T21:19:31+00:00

Check the Instagram follower count of a guy versus a girl... that's how you'll see the answer to what you're looking for with your own eyes.

bluefox99991 · 2026-07-13T20:57:11+00:00

For sex. Relationship it’s reversed. It’s hard spending time with annoying female brains so guys don’t want long term.

NuncaContent · 2026-07-13T22:02:51+00:00

I think we men cede women way too much leeway and afford them far more options than they in actuality have.

Cupcake_Trap · 2026-07-14T07:15:18+00:00

Many options but mostly quite bad

Then_North_6347 · 2026-07-14T11:39:54+00:00

Women have tons of options numerically, but are going to find a ton of them repulsive. It's like if 50 women like your profile but 45 of them are fat/ugly/butterface

Independent-Cod-5938 · 2026-07-13T21:55:00+00:00

Yes!
They have tons of options.
However,
When it comes to relationships that will
Last it’s a bit different.

They can easily get into relationships or get hit up for sex,
but it’s hard to find a committed guy that will work on continuing to build that relationship without them through the ups and downs.

jackthehat6 · 2026-07-14T08:32:41+00:00

they have a hell of a lot of options, although not usually the guys they want

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-07-14T16:45:17+00:00

Yes most women have plenty of options for casual flings (sex). But the vast majority of these women can't get commitment/serious relationship from the type of man she's very interested in.

She can get a date anytime she wants, but doesn't mean he has any serious intentions with her.

-send-me-nudes- · 2026-07-14T01:33:51+00:00

Yes. They do. Of course they have abundant options for sex, but aside from that, there’s 5x more men on the apps.

In real life, also yes. Depends on who they are though, obviously.

The logic is simple ; men arnt as fussy / picky as women.

Generally if a woman is single in real life, there’s a good reason.

tng29 · 2026-07-14T02:49:13+00:00

Endless options for attention and sex, but not for commitment or marriage.

yamanjain · 2026-07-14T12:05:18+00:00

Most of reddit is India. India has different rules than South America.

We have a heavily skewed gender ratio.

Potential_Cod_563 · 2026-07-14T13:48:38+00:00

Does having lots of people that’s interested in you and you’re not interested in them consider “lots of options “?

Mindless787878 · 2026-07-14T15:10:38+00:00

But if a woman remain childfree ,not a single mom. Sexual option is endlessly, have fun

Spinal365 · 2026-07-14T17:35:50+00:00

Female friend of mine said she had 1200 matches after a few days. Do what you want with that info.

Moonies9 · 2026-07-14T20:34:39+00:00

Hmm just depends, my friends who post themselves and go out usually do

Hour_Zero · 2026-07-14T02:08:28+00:00

Yes, most do unless they are very unattractive and even then most could still get a man if they were actually willing to get with their looks match. The problem is even a 4 will act like she’s an 8 on dating apps and social media because her ego has been overinflated from all the mindless swipers who are trying to gas her up just for a crumb of female attention. Cold approaching is very hit or miss as well, especially with actual quality women

Durvenrer · 2026-07-14T11:53:04+00:00

the talk about unlimited, but low quality options is bullshit. It's about being able to get an orbiter to give you an emotional support and being able to get laid when horny.

Women have unlimited options, quality doesn't matter, because they have no incentive to enter a relationship. In the past, woman who slept around was socially critisized, so she couldn't really do that, or she could but it would take so much effort in being secretive that it wasn't really worth it. Now she can go sleeping around and she is praised.

I'm not saying women are bad for doing that, all I am saying that it's sad, because her history does matter to good guys. So she is slowly and quietly slipping into the territory where the good man she wants won't even acknowledge her, while all she can land is fwb or desperate men.

TokenBlkGuy92 · 2026-07-13T21:33:43+00:00

Yes a fine man or woman has more options the avg looking man/woman …

Title	Do Women Really Have That Many Options?
Author	Remarkable_Outside67
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Date	July 13, 2026 7:39 PM UTC (3 weeks ago)
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