So, today I got to put the last two months in practise.

Was exchanging messages with a man that wrote to me, first. Initially I was impressed because he was well written, and seemed smarter than the average bear.

His second message contained two things that got my back up: the first was he replied about some such about how it’s “teenage behaviour” when I said I most enjoy meeting new people through friends, because it’s sort of effortless vetting- decent people usually are in the same social circle.

Second was when he mentioned he’d like to meet in the future for a “simple coffee, nothing extravagant”. I’ve never done a shitty coffee date, and I sure as hell won’t be starting now. I said bupkis about that because as far as I was concerned, there wasn’t going to be any date after I was already irritated by the first remark.

Boundaries were like a steel ring, girls. The older, nicer me would have given the benefit of the doubt. “Oh, it’s only 2 messages in, maybe he didn’t realise how it came across, perhaps he just said it in a clumsy way but he’s a nice guy, etc etc.

NOPE.

Instead I told him I don’t think our ways of thinking match, and I’m not interested. He was not happy about that. Boo hoo, scrote mad. Instantly blocked and deleted quicker than lightning.

I felt fabulous! My spidey senses worked: I thought he was in danger of being a tool, and right I was! It was a real confidence builder to know my gut instinct was CORRECT.

Thank you sisters- FDS works!