We should all be like this!!!!

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-09-10T16:28:23+00:00

If any man has you up at 3am checking to see if he's cheating, you should just break up with his ass.

0kfornow · 2020-09-10T17:56:57+00:00

If I am up at 3am for a man he better be literally on fire!

acadametw · 2020-09-10T19:58:35+00:00

So I think what you should do in this case is...absolutely go with your friend and be there for your friend, but also be there to reel your friend back from the drama of the moment (it's addictive to the brain) and try to cut it as short as possible with as minimal confrontation as possible. If she really needs to see it to believe it this time, that's just how it is. For some people it is, and many of us have been in that place where we've been gaslit to hell and think we need evidence for anyone to acknowledge it after all our other attempts to address things making us uncomfortable have been written off by the ones who supposedly love us the most as just overly sensitive dramatic crazy nonsense.

But while you're with her, you need to be there in her ear telling her girl, the fact that we are even here for this man means his behavior is unacceptable and you deserve better. He should be with you right now, not me. Isn't that enough? Look what being associated with him has done to your life. Is this what you want your nights to be like? Is this what your love story looks like? There are so many people and men who could do better for you. You can do better for you. Do you trust me? When you find it easy to trust people over long periods of time it's not because they have kind eyes or anything like that. It's because they've behaved in a manner that's trustworthy. You don't trust him anymore because he hasn't. I love you--let's go home and drink some wine and this weekend we'll do a little girls trip, okay? This loser doesn't matter.

Be that bird. If she doesn't listen, she's not ready and keep your mouth shut until she asks. Don't don't facilitate drama. You assist if it's a matter of her leaving or helping keep her safe.

chatrebelle · 2020-09-10T16:48:16+00:00

I mean, i'm all about supporting other women but NEVER again will I go out of bed and tamper with my precious sleep for a man.

livelyfire4 · 2020-09-10T17:01:05+00:00

😂😂😂😂 if it's a weekend and I am bored, I sho will

LondonDaPink · 2020-09-10T21:29:49+00:00

Women should help other women but other women need to actually listen to women too. I'm telling her to just block and delete his ass and going back to sleep. No man is worth my emotional labor.

UnapologeticWife · 2020-09-10T16:14:46+00:00

We all should support one another! Yes💕

But, why would a cheating boyfriend be with this level of effort? You could use that time into bettering yourself. He’s not worth it. Nah.

Scotsburd · 2020-09-10T19:51:14+00:00

Shoes? I'm taking night vision goggles, a back up phone, blankets and snacks.

afrodeasyak · 2020-09-10T22:25:43+00:00

Ain't nobody got time for that.

ModeratelyCapable · 2020-09-10T23:51:33+00:00

I did this for one of my BFFs-he was cheating. She still married him. They been together close to 20 years now.

shedragoness · 2020-09-10T17:18:33+00:00

Duh! Of course I’ll help out.

GAaliyah12 · 2020-09-10T21:29:56+00:00

Not worth it

Hhjjuuy · 2020-09-10T18:16:16+00:00

no, this is pick me behavior. if u feel a need to get at at 3 am to check if your partner is cheating either u got some serious abandonment issues or u got a partner that makes u feel like his cheating. get a therapist or break up. only be with a man who makes u feel secure and confident, not with someone who u have to spy on at 3 am.

2020-09-10T22:59:15+00:00

I say if any woman is suspicious she should just dump him

smilodon91 · 2020-09-11T01:13:58+00:00

Perfect response. I had girlfriends like this in my 30s. They would come to my house and make me toast when I had pneumonia and couldn't move. Now, I feel like my female friends just use me as entertainment, and female co-workers are trying to sabotage me. if you have a supportive, trusting relationship with a loyal girlfriend, don't let it go. It's worth more than gold.

Tyrienne · 2020-09-11T02:06:34+00:00

Could be a cheating husband, with proof, it makes the divorce easier, right?

xNayxNayx · 2020-09-10T18:57:05+00:00

Def would support my friend if this was some out of the blue occurrence! Now if he was out here giving her all kinds of drama, cheating, treating her badly etc I would link her to FDS and watch her level tf up and leave that monster.

Then we’d have a girl’s night complete with an awesome bottle of champagne and charge our glasses to her new found freedom.🥂

Sparrow_143 · 2020-09-10T23:39:35+00:00

I won't do all that but I do screenshot dm's & send them to their gf's.

When I was waitressing a guy used to bring a different woman into my cafe every week until I ran into him at a local bar & blew his spot up. She walked out immediately & he was livid. I said "Oh they don't all know about each other? Oops."

The worst was in college when an acquaintance asked me out not realizing I was friends with his gf. When I asked about her he said he was seeing a few girls & she didn't mean anything to him. I laughed saying "bro's before hoes" & he left thinking he was the man. I immediately msd her we had to talk & stopped at her place omw home to tell her what happened. She took it really hard, the whole time he was telling her he loved her.

I make sure these wannabe fboys know not to disrespect other women in front of me.

perkytitssolidshits · 2020-09-10T23:49:57+00:00

Sisterhood ❤️

0kfornow · 2020-09-11T02:27:32+00:00

Just dump him already and gtf back to sleep

kahootofficial · 2020-09-10T23:43:37+00:00

I’ve gotten into pickmeisha’s relationship drama before and NEVER AGAIN. Women like this have all the evidence they need to dump him and won’t, if a man is making you sit up until 3 am and you believe he’s cheating, he probably is. She doesn’t want to live the truth and she will not leave him. I refuse to deal with that, now if she dumps his ass at 3am and needs me to come pick her up that’s different.

penguino4344 · 2020-09-11T02:51:30+00:00

If he's got you that worried its time for a new man. Either you got insecurities you need to work through before a relationship, or hes giving off bad vibes. Either way, ain't nobody got time for that!

Title	We should all be like this!!!!
Author	voodo2020
Upvotes	2352
Comments	46
Date	September 10, 2020 3:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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