I'll just dive right into it. The issue doesn't lie within the realm of self-care or whether I'm overweight or not; I'm 95lbs and somewhere around 5'5 (a BMI of 15.5-17), I have clear skin excluding slight dark circles, and thick healthy hair that's length is currently below my shoulders (and I'm growing it out).
The problem is that I'm genetically disposed to be unattractive. My face ranges from below-average to average, I have narrow hip-bones paired with small breasts (people consider it a negative since wider hips and fuller breasts are signs of fertility?). I have never been catcalled or approached in my life, and I have never been on a date either.
Even when I'm wearing full (but natural) makeup and looking my best the attention I receive is null. I have a more attractive older sister who always garners the attention of people and has men consistently approaching her whether she puts effort into her appearance or not solely because of how naturally beautiful she is.
I always see the statement "men are biologically wired to be attracted to youth, fertility, and beauty" spread everywhere. Youth is uncontrollable as it fades over time and I won't stay this young forever. I'm nowhere close to beautiful and I don't look fertile physically.
I have a wide variety of interests and hobbies (as a lot of you here do) and am polite and friendly with everyone I know. The main hindrance is the way I look and it's the component of male attraction. Should I just give up and accept it? Are there ways to change this?
TL;DR: My appearance is considered to be below-average and it's the main reason why men aren't attracted to me.
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