Women need to do stuff which GIVES them energy and men need to do stuff which RELEASES energy - Agree?

thatbadlarry · 2019-04-02T14:17:29+00:00

I think all humans need both. Balance.

andheaven · 2019-04-02T17:07:12+00:00

Completely disagree. Everyone needs BOTH, I’m a woman and I need to release energy through exercise and movement in general. As any healthy young person does. As well as plenty of men need time to relax in a quiet space and read a book or something.

ironsoul99 · 2019-04-03T00:29:17+00:00

Lots of people are saying this doesn't apply to them but I feel like it applies to me. I don't have a lot of energy, I sleep a lot, and I need things to get me out of bed. I'm still an active person, but it's because I put myself up to it.

Hammocknapping · 2019-04-02T14:23:47+00:00

My husband and I are the exact opposite. After work, he needs time in his “nothing box.” He’ll watch sports, play video games, or just browse on his phone. In comparison, I like to take care of chores (usually surrounding making supper), play with the dog or take her for a nice brisk walk, or read (I read non-fiction for education, I don’t read for escapism).

HB3234 · 2019-04-02T19:42:55+00:00

I think you are correct, to some degree, but not for the reasons you think. In our current society, women are exhausted from trying to have it all... work, family, hobbies, social life.

Few people get 8 hours of sleep a night, and recent research has shown women need more sleep than men, with some women's bodies seeming to need 9-10 hours of sleep for maintaining health rather than 8.

With what few hours are left, it isn't surprising you would observe the women around you aren't running.

[deleted] · 2019-04-03T01:13:45+00:00

I'm more spiritual, so I tend to use masculine/feminine energy rather than science terms. I have a masculine ass ego, but my energy is 100 percent feminine which causes me to be very annoyed. I ALWAYS want to be in "getting shit done mode", but my body can handle about one or two things before I need a nap or a guided meditation session. I hate being seen as lazy, but I really need a lot of time for introspection and relaxation, especially around plants or near an open window.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-04-03T17:23:41+00:00

Men tend to be more physically active. Women tend to be more socially active. That's about as far as this goes.

Other than that, men tend towards the Introspective and Thinking end of the Myers-Briggs spectrum, and women tend more towards the Extroverted and Feeling end. So they get their energy from different types of activities.

I don't really agree with your formulation, however. It's overly simplistic.

IreneCarter92 · 2019-04-02T14:17:23+00:00

This seems to make sense! I’m curious if this is an estrogen/testosterone thing. Anyone know the science behind this?

IreneCarter92 · 2019-04-02T18:52:59+00:00

I think the answer to your question lies in the Yin and Yang.

In the Hindu philosophy, the founder of Yoga, Adiyogi, is said to have been the perfect (hu)man. He was always depicted as one side being male, and the other being female. This symbolizes that a perfect human being has balanced the masculine and feminine energies within oneself.

We realise that most human beings aren't able to do that. This is why we need two people to make the balance. Think of it as a maths equation, if you are X and your spouse/partner is Y, then, X+Y=1.

In the Yin-yang symbol the black half has small white circle and vice-versa. This means a woman can be as masculine as they want when the situation demands it. And a man can be as feminine as he wants when he thinks it's okay to be.

A being that purely possesses feminine energy is a soul. A being that purely possesses masculine energy is a corpse. It's only when the two entities combine does it become a living creature.

P.S.: This is Irene's boyfriend. After I just told her what I told you above, she got up and now is sitting by the fireplace holding and empty coffee mug 😂😂. I don't think she realises that. She is abstractly starting at the fire. I think her brain is malfunctioning cause of me🤔😂😂😂. I'm making her a fresh cup of tea. Gotta cuddle her before her brain actually starts malfunctioning 😂.

padpump · 2019-04-02T17:36:32+00:00

Without thinking a lot my reply would be: In the hunter and gatherer days, women would be the gatherers. Gathering food honey herbs etc. is less energy intensive than hunting down a wild animal or maybe even fishing (with a boat).

Gathering is essentially collecting energy from your environment. Hunting is gathering energy after expending a lot of energy.

As a result men have the “empty” box in their head, where they can do nothing (while waiting for prey to pass by). Whereas for women there’s always something going on in their head. Essentially like a worker bee. Always doing the next necessary thing.

From that perspective you could say men are better at relaxing by doing nothing whereas women consider relaxing in itself an activity.

Whisper · 2019-04-02T19:10:13+00:00

This is vague, and not very helpful. "Energy" is a metaphor, usually for motivation to do something.

So what you are really saying, perhaps, is that men tend to initiate more plans and projects. Well, duh. Remember that 87% of all women who ever lived have descendants, versus 34% of all men. That means that men have to be roughly in the top third to successfully breed, whereas women just need to not be the worst one out of ten.

So of course women don't really do much of anything on their own initiative... they don't have to, and they are descended from a long line of women who didn't have to, either.

When men do stuff, they're not trying to "release pent up energy". They are trying to excel, because they have to... no one will love them or care about them at all if they do not.

For a woman, having people give a crap about you is the default condition (and you have to be kind of horrible to make them stop). For men, it's something they have to earn. This is why male high achievers outnumber female high achievers, and why male homeless outnumber female homeless... women are born in the middle of the scale, and they stay there. Men are born at the bottom, and either climb or don't.

bonslytoss · 2019-04-02T14:42:18+00:00

I think you are right, but not in the way you might think. The main difference between extroverts and introverts is the way they expend energy vs. the way they recharge. Extroverts gain energy by socializing and through exercise, actions, or other methods of external expression, but spend it when alone or processing internal emotions. Introverts gain energy with quiet alone time and when learning or philosophizing, and stress themselves when they exercise, meet new people, or carry out a conversation. Men are more likely to be extroverts and women introverts, so the outliers who are outside the norm for their gender can be explained.

And isn't it funny/true/natural that men is build to give/release energy, and women are build to receive it?

This is refreshing to see.

enamite · 2019-04-02T14:56:24+00:00

There are moments I need to run hard on a treadmill to release my anxious energy, but releasing that energy allows me to make room to receive an intimate energy.

Having said that, I more often need my downtime and space to renew myself to also receive.

I think every couple is different. I think the perfect balance, is a couple who acknowledges these different energy systems and embraces the yin and yang of the relationship.

Wolfssenger · 2019-04-02T16:10:38+00:00

There might be a slight proclivity by correlation, but I don't think it's measl necessarily a need.

[deleted] · 2019-04-02T17:33:00+00:00

It's true to an extent, but I think that energy can be "given" to women though exercise and doing things in the fresh air and not sitting on their butt all day or walking slowly.

Atex3330 · 2019-04-02T19:47:27+00:00

I think it's an individual thing. My husband likes relaxing. I love anything physical, running, mowing the lawn, a good hike. That energizes me. If I don't do those things I get tired and depressed. Also hot showers also energize me so theres that.

lemonfluff · 2019-04-03T02:47:16+00:00

No. Women need rigerous excersize, running etc too. I go cllmibing, run, do martial arts etc, I need to expell energy as a woman.

Different people just need different things.

TheSelfGoverned · 2019-04-03T07:02:21+00:00

I really like this. It resonates.

Zegiknie · 2019-04-02T14:29:40+00:00

True for us.

ETA I spent a lot of time actively doing things, I move around the house and garden and forest, the mental tasks are mostly multitasked with physical, and I am constantly on call ("look mommy look!"). At the end of the day, I am worn out. Physically aching and sore. I do relax before husband comes home (an hour multitasked with baby feeds, finishing up dinner, prettifying), but it is night and day.

My husband is constantly holding back. He is strong, aggressive, energetic. And he works in an office. Sitting still and talking to adults. He is always holding back. He can sleep like the dead (I always wake several times, since my first pregnancy). So at the end of the day, he wants to fight and run and play. He likes his work, but his physical needs go unmet there.

I already got it all met and beyond and just want that hot bath.

i_love_puppies12 · 2019-04-02T15:42:32+00:00

It's the opposite in my case. I need to get a long workout at the gym to feel energetic (but I also feel better after taking a while to get myself prepped for the day) while my bf likes to stay in and play video vames.

Title	Women need to do stuff which GIVES them energy and men need to do stuff which RELEASES energy - Agree?
Author	DeepWaterRose
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Date	April 2, 2019 2:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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