Learning how to get casual sex easily is a worthwhile investment that more men should take on

[deleted] · 2018-07-03T16:00:49+00:00

For all the men who choose to engage in casual sex, there will always be losers at the bottom of that hierarchy. And the problem is there are just some men who won’t be able to have casual sex because they are at the absolute bottom.

It’s similar to the legitimate critiques of “work hard and you’ll succeed” because there is just a population of people who will not benefit from that advice due to shit dice roll on life. Telling men “just go for casual sex” puts the emphasis on “getting sex”, which means you’re gonna ignore a swathe of men at the bottom who aren’t born attractive.

WhatIsTheMeaningHere · 2018-07-03T13:15:23+00:00

His only option is to pay a prostitute ....which he won't because that's sad.

It's not that bad my dude. Yeah, people will look down on you if you say it out loud, but don't do that. Also, being a sexless male, people don't care about you anyways so why care about their opinions?

Gravel_Roads · 2018-07-03T16:16:12+00:00

You do not need permission from us. If you don’t want a relationship, don’t have a relationship. But “game” is very difficult to learn if you don’t at least have some understanding of how and why bonds form between people.

Men that can walk effortlessly between one sexual situation and the next are men with highly developed social skills who understand how to make women feel comfortable and desired in a graceful way. We learn this grace through trial and error. Pursuing as many DIFFERENT types of relationships as possible is how we learn what is important to us and what we can stand to just let go in our every day interaction. You don’t have to have LTR, but even ONS come from the rapport building that is “flirting”. The better we understand ourselves and how we maneuver in relationships makes it easier to eventually know where you can afford to cut corners to MAKE casual sex easier.

tl;dr Having experience in relationships makes getting casual sex easier. Having only casual sex will not make getting relationships easier, tho. And casual sex still requires the ability to form a (short term) relationship with a woman. This involves skills like trust-building rapport-building. If you don’t know how to use these skills, you’re not getting sex regardless.

(Also - hookers are awesome. People that tut-tut about men that use them tend to be repressed manbabies who are too scared to do it themselves. I bet they clutch their pearls about smoking weed too, lol.)

Ultramegasaurus · 2018-07-03T13:10:12+00:00

Learning how to get casual sex

Interesting, which guide books make me grow to 6'2, reverse my balding and fix my face?

tickledpic · 2018-07-03T17:18:01+00:00

the only men who can get casual sex are really attractive and really charismatic.

Not true. You can be average looking and get tons of casual sex. You can have very little charisma in other types of social interactions, but have it down when it comes to expressing your desires to women, and get tons of casual sex.

FatmanSlim93 · 2018-07-03T18:17:50+00:00

Yeah, most people in my life or that I've discussed with online has never wanted to accept the cognitive dissonance of the fact being a sexless male is psychologically unhealthy and social suicide. "Stop putting the pussy on the pedestal!", "just learn to value yourself!", "get a hobby!", etc.

Uncommon_Sense_12345 · 2018-07-03T13:10:36+00:00

Many guys no matter how much self-improvement will only be able to get casual sex from lower tier woman and may find the option of focusing on their own life more desirable.

If getting casual sex from women was as easy as your post implies, then RP probably wouldn't exist or at least would be dramatically changed from its current form. The fact that average men can't get casual sex easy with nice looking women is what fuels TRP.

abaxeron · 2018-07-03T14:59:41+00:00

Have you ever tried a sex toy, OP?

wtknight · 2018-07-03T13:46:10+00:00

What if he doesn't want a relationship?

I was fine with masturbation when I didn’t want a relationship. Why does a man need an actual woman when his only goal is to relieve sexual tension?

Dude who can't get casual sex is stuck jerking off until his next relationship.

There is nothing wrong with this.

But all the women his age are looking for marriage as well.

If this is the case, then he’s not going to get casual sex either. If his other option is sex with younger women who aren’t ready for marriage, then he should be trying to have loving, meaningful relationships with them at least and not empty casual sex.

Well now his dating pool is women on the hunt for marriage, women with baby rabies and single moms. He still can't get casual sex ....so re marrying or prostitutes is his only hope for sex.

I think that there are plenty of older women out there who don’t want kids. If he can’t find one, then he’s probably too old at that point to attract younger women who only want casual sex at that point in their lives, anyway. Sex with a woman without love is not so important that I think that he needs to be making some special effort to get it, anyway.

CrestfallenWolf · 2018-07-03T22:55:28+00:00

I agree that casual sex is fun and raises SMV.

IMO it is also a huge waste of time, resources and drive. I wouldnt be half of what I am now praying at the alter of pussy.

The juice isn't worth the squeeze.

Pope_Lucious · 2018-07-03T15:10:35+00:00

A little bird once told me that prostitutes aren’t that bad.

celincelin · 2018-07-03T13:11:04+00:00

Getting casual sex easily from something that's not a wasted landwhale is only possible for the top >1 % men. That's not a realistic goal by any stretch.

And I think renting prostitutes is less sad than

keeping a woman happy and attracted to you in the confines of a relationship [solely for getting some sex]

but still illegal, yes. But then again, speeding is technically illegal, too, yet who hasn't done it?

What I think men should try hardest is to rely on women for validation as little as possible.

darkmoon09 · 2018-07-03T15:38:36+00:00

.the only men who can get casual sex are really attractive and really charismatic. These men can find relationships easily as well.

If you ask the woman you are having casual sex with for a relationship and she says no, what do you think that says about you? What if you have casual sex and she never calls you again?

Anarchkitty · 2018-07-03T20:54:19+00:00

I'm not clear on what view I am supposed to try and change. Your title and thesis assert that "Learning how to get casual sex easily is a worthwhile investment that more men should take on" which I agree with, but then the other 90% of your post is incel-whining about how most men can't do that.

So which part is the actual CMV?

Naebany · 2018-07-03T22:32:57+00:00

Nothing in your post explains why it's a worthwhile investment that more men should take on. It's just a list of subjective wants.

> Even if a man isn't planning on forgoing relationships completely ...being able to get casual sex is an important skill that more men should learn.

Why though?

FatmanSlim93 · 2018-07-04T03:05:51+00:00

I mean I’m 25 and a virgin and most of the time my friends don’t care or they just tell me it’ll happen someday (I mean it won’t but at least they don’t pity me) and we don’t talk about it. I get not wanting to go to therapy but honestly just find a hobby cause life is long when you aren’t boning someone lol.

DerelictCruiser · 2018-07-04T06:25:41+00:00

I know I'm in the minority saying this, but pussy is overrated for the effort that goes in to getting it.

I dislike trying to sell myself to someone as fuckworthy. Why is jerking off so unpleasant? I get that it's not as great as sex, but nobody except Chad Pitt is attractive enough to dial up sex-on-demand. The rest of us have to jump through hoops, handle logistics, wait a few days and probably end up buying them food, and carefully and sexily phrase things during the lead up to all of it.

EDIT: Think about this: If a guy is horny as fuck, how many times can he jerk off in a week? I bet you it's a lot more than girls he can convince to come fuck.

TallSwaggOVO · 2018-07-03T15:23:19+00:00

Ayy I agree with your post.

But you have to remember that regardless of game, generally, more attractive men are gonna get more of the action. This doesn’t mean you should count yourself out the game though, like a lot of other people here are suggesting. But, keep in mind the reality of the situation that some people may not get as much casual sex as others.

But, they can get some, and should still learn and try.

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-07-03T13:20:17+00:00

It's the exchange that sucks.

Casual sex shouldn't hold much value to properly functioning women.

So if you look at a beta orbiter or a dead bedroom situation, casual sex is also a poor exchange. It's a reflection thing.

Your dealing with women that can't hold onto jobs and lack the ability to do anything but work dead end cock jobs. Which means those dudes are McDonalds.

File this under Bad Business Practices.

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notacrookatall · 2018-07-03T21:41:29+00:00

You are a bonafide idiot. Congratulations, you will probably only realize it 20 years from now.

newName543456 · 2018-07-03T22:43:48+00:00

Everyone can determine on their own whether it's worthwhile for them.

For me it is, but I suppose some may beg to differ.

Wallstreet3 · 2018-07-04T00:22:20+00:00

He will be in a position to choose who he marries.
If he is easily able to get another woman, has women offering it, bad mouthing his current woman and such. Passive dread game.

Hungrymcmuffin · 2018-07-04T02:47:55+00:00

What steps should you take towards becoming more charismatic?

[deleted] · 2018-07-04T09:17:14+00:00

the only men who can get casual sex are really attractive and really charismatic.

I wasted years in university and this simply isn't true. A lot of the sluttiest girls were not the "hot sorority sister" or "Stacey" stereotype that gets trotted out here but instead were below average fatties, and all you had to do to bang them was be there and not be a literal sperg.

As for the rest of your points, it all seems pretty subjective does it not? I agree that many men will not want a relationship and for them casual sex is better. I also think that many men do want a relationship and for them casual sex is indeed "empty and meaningless."

There is no one size fits all, it's subjective.

I don't think I would have missed out on anything major if I'd never got to have casual sex, it was no big deal to me at the time and it's no big deal to me now. I already knew I didn't like it, I did it anyway to look cool, and I felt all depressed right after because as I predicted it was unenjoyable.

And I'm not one of those guys who is super into marriage and shit either, I just think it's better to have some form of emotional connection to my sexual partners, even if it's just FWB that's still an emotional connection. I simply find ONS unenjoyable.

Again I repeat my main point here is there is no one size fits all, it is subjective. Many men will get enjoyment out of securing casual sex. Many men will find it depressing or simply mediocre.

[deleted] · 2018-07-06T15:14:26+00:00

True, if you can't get casual sex you can't get a relationship either. No woman wants to be in a relationship with a guy who can't get laid.

poppy_blu · 2018-07-03T23:02:48+00:00

1.What if he doesn't want a relationship?

2, What happens after a break up?

3, What if he doesn't want marriage?

4, What happens when he gets divorced?

He'll have to grow up and deal with the realities of adulthood. The horror.

What's the view we're tying to dispute here? That relationships aren't worth it? Not everyone does well in relationships, and that's fine. I wish more people who just aren't wired for monogamy, companionship, compromise, loyalty, etc would just opt out of relationships and not worry what the fuck other people think. Just do you.

"Getting causal sex" is not a "skill." I don't understand why you think men who aren't into it should "learn it."

Just let people do WTF they want and leave them alone. I just can't get why you are all so obsessed with the sex lives of people you don't even know??

Title	Learning how to get casual sex easily is a worthwhile investment that more men should take on
Author	Pretty_Please_C_My_V
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Date	July 3, 2018 12:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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