Girls making men wait for sex, and guys not moving on.

haunting-you · 2018-04-22T22:00:00+00:00

he doesn’t have to stay and wait. but if he chooses to move on because sex is that important to him, he clearly accepts that he may be perceived as an asshole who only cares about sex (perhaps not inaccurately).

rulenumber303 · 2018-04-22T20:24:44+00:00

Why don’t some women understand that a guy isn’t obligated to stay and wait?

Same way some guys don't understand that a woman don't gotta keep having sex with them once she's started having sex with them. People just get attached to situations and patterns, think that what once was will continue.

Why don’t some guys just move on, and find another girl?

Because everyone is out for themselves not intent on being a good member of a collective bargaining cluster, and sometimes sticking round a few more weeks is worth it.

What do you all think about this situation?

I think that the guys who obsess about it have insufficient real-world experience.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-04-22T19:32:30+00:00

Agreed. Most men don't move on though. That's the problem. They wait it out. A good portion do leave though. And women do get upset.

But overall this is bad for the woman too cause they think the man is waiting for real motives when he's probably still gonna hit it a couple times then leave.

I think this is important to show that men need multiple women on rotation if they want sex. Incase BS like this happens

kunlangeta · 2018-04-22T21:22:54+00:00

The thing is, a lot of guys are OK with waiting for sex, with women who aren't into casual sex. Issue is, when she is into casual sex, just not with the guy. Guys tend to find it out way later, when relationship is already established and there is some kind of sunk cost already. Not to mention that, in a lot of places, there would be a lot of shaming if he decided to leave cause of that.

It also extends to sex acts. She swallowed, did facials, bdsm, anal, threesomes etc. in the past, but not with current guy. Can you honestly say that you wouldn't blame a guy who leaves 3 years relationship after finding out? 5 years marriage? Kids involved?

Lyanina · 2018-04-22T20:04:52+00:00

He doesn't have to wait, she doesn't have to have sex before she wants to. It's not really hard -- if it's a deal breaker then either is free to break the deal. If you're not compatible you're not compatible.

Why don’t some women understand that a guy isn’t obligated to stay and wait? Why don’t some guys just move on? What do you all think about this situation?

I think it's overblown.

2018-04-22T20:28:32+00:00

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reluctantly_red · 2018-04-22T19:40:09+00:00

A few weeks of waiting is no big deal. Over a month is get the fuck outta here. Leaving and not looking back is basically saying you aren't going to settle, which is an attractive quality to have. Staying and acting like a dog waiting for table scraps confirms you have a lot to learn about attracting women. Most men are too thirsty to figure this out. I've been there and learned from my mistakes so let's hope these guys do too.

[deleted] · 2018-04-22T21:05:18+00:00

Who says men are obligated to wait?

storffish · 2018-04-22T19:37:51+00:00

yes why is this even an issue?

Rukiyen · 2018-04-23T23:59:15+00:00

Why is it okay to say 'he only wants sex'

But no okay to say 'she just wants (and I hate this term, but lack of a better phrase) an emotional tampon?'

He should walk away. And when she gets upset, and says he only cares about sex, the only reply he needs is, 'good luck with getting chad or tyrone to give a fuck'

Women literally want it both ways. They want a man to listen to her bitch about coworkers and general bullshit, and then they also want to fuck every badboy they see. But the badboys don't give a fuck about her babysitting job, or working at Kroger, so these women legit do not see a problem in leading on some poor soul, letting him think she's invested, while at the same time withholding sex from the same poor soul. IMO it doesnt make anyone bad guy to get out of such a situation.

SpaceWhiskey · 2018-04-22T20:25:19+00:00

Women absolutely understand that a guy isn’t obligated to stay and wait. I for one said it over and over in a previous thread on the subject lol

wracky272 · 2018-04-22T19:43:46+00:00

It would be best for him to do so. Meeting her demands to get sex isn't going to be a one-time only feature at the beginning of the relationship. Move on if you need quick pussy that badly.

pinkgoldrose · 2018-04-22T20:14:11+00:00

Look, the girls doesn't have to sleep with all of her friends, the guy doesn't have to be her friend, if they keep hanging out it's because the guy likes it or like her a lot.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2018-04-22T22:25:15+00:00

Just find a woman who's more masculine so she will have a similar mindset to you.

TheWretchedMass · 2018-04-22T23:04:40+00:00

I always found it amusing how hard a woman would try after I dumped her for not holding hands, kissing etc...And yes men do dump them look at what happens to women that wait for marriage, guys avoid them like poison.

kandyapplez · 2018-04-23T00:49:10+00:00

Yes he should feel free to leave, that's one of the points of making him wait in the first place...to weed out guys who are just going to bounce if they don't get sex quickly. I don't think that makes a guy an asshole, just a guy who wanted to bang, like most guys...if that's not what I"m looking for then I would hope he'd just bugger off.

rainisthelife · 2018-04-23T02:02:46+00:00

Women understand perfectly well that the guy isn’t obligated to stay. No one is forcing the men to stay. But if he wants to stay, then it means he’s obviously getting something out of the purely emotional relationship, that he couldn’t get anywhere else.

And if a girl gets a guy to give her time, attention and emotional connection without having to put out, then frankly, good for her. It’s the best female dating strategy. Because the men that are only interested in sex will not wait for weeks or months courting and taking the girl out on dates and forming an emotional connection with her. It’s a great way for women to vet guys, and thank her lucky stars for the ones that leave early. When she’s ready, she can upgrade him to a sexual relationship.

reluctantly_red · 2018-04-23T02:37:05+00:00

He should indeed move on. If she sleeps with other guys but not you she's not physically attracted to you. No self respecting guys should ever settle for a woman who isn't attracted to him -- even if this means dating a less hot women. A "4" who is really into you beats the hell out of a "7" who's only concerned about what you can do for her.

Bedtimeshine · 2018-04-23T05:37:43+00:00

Yeh... if your not having crazy dirty rough bionic monkey sex in the first 2 weeks... she’s not into you... period.

Eartherry · 2018-04-24T06:28:06+00:00

If a man is only around because he wants sex he's already lying about his intentions, otherwise he wouldn't be bothering with a woman that wasn't also interested in only sex. If he was interested in anyone other than himself he would give a woman the opportunity to turn him down.

[deleted] · 2018-04-23T04:07:12+00:00

Steven doesnt tend to figure out about Chad and Tyrone until months or years of denying, frigidity, feigned headaches and disinterested, ultra vanilla duty sex have turned him into a sex starved insecure wreck

Then he starts hearing the womans bullshit narrative about how he matters so much to her and thats WHY she denied him the focal point of his whole existence, filling him with a seething resentment. Because she LOVES him, and wants to give him so much more those other guys who merely got to pound her willing pussy and ass thrice daily. Steven gets the prize at the end: an LTR leading to a real future, fraught with commitment, bills and kids in place of mere frivolities like sex

Steven should feel so honored.

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thereddespair · 2018-04-22T19:59:11+00:00

finally i have returned to reddit, as a changed more supportive and understanding person!

as for this? who cares what their reasons are, they are adults and if they want to leave they can leave, if they want to wait they can wait.

obligations? if you made a promise that you will wait, if you said yes you are ok with this setup, then to a degree you do have an obligation to your word. but if you didnt agree to it, then you dont.

let us not force people to do what they dont want eh

i probably should change my name to theredhappiness now too hmmmm

wtknight · 2018-04-22T20:00:20+00:00

Sure, it's always best if men are courting multiple women and then he chooses the one who is the best match for him. If he's the type of guy who has no problem respecting a woman who gives him early sex and doesn't like it when women want to wait to have sex at all, then he can choose that woman. And, if he's the type who can't respect a woman who has early sex with him and wants a woman who shows shows some restraint (even though she might have had casual sex with some Chads in the past), then he can choose that woman. When a man doesn't develop options for himself, he always gives the woman more power than he has, because she almost always naturally has more options than he does.

Entropy-7 · 2018-04-23T11:31:02+00:00

The "3 Date Rule" is in effect. The male version is that a guy will not hang around past date 3 if there is no sex to be had. The female version is that you don't put out until date 3. There is a glorious crossover specifically at date 3 where the guy has not given up and the girl will give in.

rrraway · 2018-04-22T19:36:43+00:00

We all know the situation as to when a woman will give certain guys sex rather quickly, but will make other guys wait. Lets start off by saying that most will agree, a woman isn’t obligated to give sex. However, there is one simple solution that women don’t tend to like, and men tend to not do, that could fix this problem: Just like a woman isn’t obligated to give sex, a man isn’t obligated to stay and wait. If she gives it up to the Chads and Tyrones, but not to the Steven that’s been emotionally dating her, then he should move on.

yeah, the same old meandering go-nowhere talk until you drop bullshit.

All of this bullshit would be solved if men learned to do one thing: do not become involved in a relationship with a woman unless you are willing to let it all go with in 30 seconds.

Title	Girls making men wait for sex, and guys not moving on.
Author	TallSwaggOVO
Upvotes	3
Comments	161
Date	April 22, 2018 7:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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