How many of you actually go for non party girls?

blackedoutfast · 2018-01-19T02:43:37+00:00

there are a LOT of different kinds of people who go to clubs and concerts and parties. yes, steteotypical slutty cokehead party girls do like going to clubs, but that doesn't mean all the girls there are turbosluts. most of the people at clubs/concerts/bars are just normal people who enjoy going out, listening to music, dancing, having fun with their friends. nice, traditionally feminine, smart, low n-count girls enjoy doing those things too.

TheBookOfSeil · 2018-01-19T00:01:21+00:00

I'd say that you're thinking of the stereotypical "party girl," (i.e., the girl that's getting fairly drunk and whoring herself out to guys at the party) and I just want to inform you that every girl who goes to a party is not a "party girl" by default, just like every girl at a club or a bar is not a "party girl." Some people like to be around others in those settings but that doesn't automatically mean that they're "like that." It's possible to find decent people at those places.

To answer your question, I would prefer a non-stereotypical party girl, but I would accept a "reformed party girl" as long as she really was reformed (and disease-free)...

despisedlove2 · 2018-01-18T23:38:45+00:00

I married a non party girl who became a party girl, just before becoming my ex wife, before I became RP.

Like most BP's, you have the cause and effect conveniently reversed.

Electra_Cute · 2018-01-18T22:47:43+00:00

Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

cxj · 2018-01-19T01:17:10+00:00

My gf is a passive, introverted qt who likes video games and cats and spends too much time with her family. She’s never been to a proper “club” and I’ve only been a few times but this did not stop me from having casual sex at all

feralsun · 2018-01-18T23:04:05+00:00

What are non party girls now? Like 8% of the female population.

drok007 · 2018-01-19T02:56:36+00:00

Go after all women. No need to limit to any specific type.

passepar2t · 2018-01-18T22:51:22+00:00

I've gone for both. Each had their upsides and downsides.

[deleted] · 2018-01-19T00:09:22+00:00

I dont meet many 'party girls' anymore so that'd be me. Places where you can drink, sure, but not big mad things.

ReluctantSlimeball · 2018-01-19T04:57:18+00:00

I was very Blue-Pill (anti-dating websites, best to meet naturally) and also very nervous sober around girls as a kid so party environments were about the only chance I had.

This may surprise Blues and Purps but trp is very much not into thinking Party girls are necessarily worse or better than any other type of girl.

I’m sure even Rollo Tomassi wrote about seeing party girls turn into wives and mothers and vice versa.

In fact I can relate somewhat to the latter in a sense. I feel I missed out on enjoying my sexuality as young man due to crippling low self esteem and some erroneous assumptions and a part of you does desire not to miss out so the quiet, shy, “good girl” may not necessarily be the safe option assumed.

TriplePlusBad · 2018-01-19T05:00:23+00:00

I've never tried to get with a party girl. I don't enjoy that kind of social gathering, it seems like a waste of my time to aim for that kind of person.

MisterJose · 2018-01-19T05:24:27+00:00

The more innocent, well-behaved, traditional 'good girl' can have some appeal, but I personally find it limited. It's just based on an initial facade of being harder to get, and more valuable. Once that facade goes away, I'd much rather have a party girl to have fun with.

[deleted] · 2018-01-19T06:56:37+00:00

I’d love to.

No idea where to look.

Where the hot women who don’t party? Oh wait they don’t exist.

Eastuss · 2018-01-19T10:14:17+00:00

I just go for dem wide hips. I don't care for her RMV, actually a big factor for her RMV is "she wants me back" which is already rare enough that I can"t afford to be picky on the other aspects.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-01-19T11:27:07+00:00

I don't think I've ever been with a "party girl" in a relationship.

Actually no I tell a lie, I was with one once, and she cheated on me.

That's about it. Overall we don't get along because I like my quiet time while she'd want to be going out every night.

I'll hang out with party girls to do drugs but I won't get into serious relationships with 'em.

[deleted] · 2018-01-19T11:30:38+00:00

Never was interested in party sluts.

dylang92 · 2018-01-20T14:46:19+00:00

I usually went for party girls. They weren't traditional stacies (which I consider to be sorority girls), but they wore the clothing, they had the tattoos, the makeup, whatever. And I would say they definitely went for me, I used to have a somewhat alternative style, which has moved to a streetwear mixed with preppy look but that never seemed to deter anything. Past anything sexual, they are usually a load of trouble and all the partying and drug use is a way to cope with their underlying problems. I'm definitely not a perfect example of a human either btw, I got my own issues and it usually led to breaking up.

I now date a girl who is introverted, extremely smart and is in pre-med to eventually become a doctor. She was never a party girl, or really even did drugs and drink all the much before we met. She's funny, watches Star Wars with me, and connects with me on a extremely personal level more than the party girls ever could. This is the girl I want to spend my life with and want to make my family with.

So from my personal experience: Party girls = Fun for a time, but as a partner (even after the "grow out" of the phase) are not ideal. Not to say that they can't become a good partner after help, and dropping the habits, but more times than not they are wrecks of human beings that should learn to genuinely love themselves.

Non-party girls = great partners who have many interesting things about them and have the ability to connect. True marriage material provided that you are genuinely attracted to them sexually.

Results may vary

prodigy2throw · 2018-01-19T00:50:50+00:00

An attractive non party girl is next to impossible to find

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reluctantly_red · 2018-01-18T23:41:28+00:00

I'm too old for club girls but even when I was young I despised that type of female. I've always gone for the nerdy but cool girls. My college GF was a punk rock girl.

truedemocracy3 · 2018-01-19T01:56:00+00:00

Agree here that this is multi-faceted, but there are definitely party girls who every weekend feel the need to participate and get crazy drunk. Going to a club can be fun, but I don't consider anyone who goes regularly as dateable or high value.

Ask a girl what kind of bar she enjoys with her friends and you'll learn a lot. She never goes out and doesn't drink? Could be too boring (depends on what she replaces it with. One of my closest connections was with a girl who instead of going out would rather go camping or explore a new town in driving distance - adventurous. However, I know several girls who would rather spend the night re-reading Harry Potter for the nth time and that wouldn't work with me), she goes to the loud, noisy, club type bars every weekend with a mini skirt and a ton of makeup? Probably not LTR material.

Know the scene in your city and see what hers is. Can learn a lot about someone this way.

InformalCriticism · 2018-01-19T20:19:19+00:00

I met my current girlfriend while I was traveling for work.

mistercheeez-o____O- · 2018-01-19T21:33:28+00:00

Party goer or non-party goer. Just don't be fucking loud, obnoxious, falling over and way past high. That's a major turn off, I think for most people too.

oneprettycoolcat · 2018-01-19T22:12:39+00:00

Sure, and the only real difference is that "non-party girls" get fucked by a bunch of random guys in the privacy of their own home rather than doing it on a dance floor or something.

[deleted] · 2018-01-29T07:39:45+00:00

Definitely turned on when she says she doesn’t like to go out

Title	How many of you actually go for non party girls?
Author	PBRScagsquad
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Date	January 18, 2018 10:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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