Q4Men: What motivates you to seek out casual sex?

cxj · 2018-01-03T09:04:21+00:00

Just being around a young (18-25, I don’t scam on minors) Girl is really infatuating to me. I swear I fall in Love multiple times a day. Girls with nice skin, delicate feminine mannerisms and movements, pleasant voices etc just really really make me want to bang them. Not just bang them, but really take my time in bed, caress their bodies, stare at their faces, etc. I love the mounting tension, the awkward discomfort of not being sure if she’s into it, reading her mixed messages etc. even just an intense makeout session, especially with handholding and heavy petting, is just such a rush of feelings. Having an excuse to just stare at her face and body (I really get engrossed with this shit) is just so gratifying to me. The girl really doesn’t have to be that hot to get this kind of interest from me tbh, many girls have said I’m the nicest most flattering hookup of their lives, not at all what they were expecting.

I guess I just love the passionate spark of acting on genuine mutual attraction, however reckless it is. Ya the purest form of romance imo, the business negotiation aspect of relationships just kills it for me.

There’s always been this disconnect with me and a lot of TRP , I really fucking love girls, can forgive massive amounts of their faults especially if they have sex with me. My sister recently got mad at me because she realized I truly wasn’t mad at my ex anymore for falsely accusing me even though it nearly ruined my life. Idk what to say, we had sex, she was romantic af and had great Girl game, I’m mad af the system but not her.

oneprettycoolcat · 2018-01-03T15:06:01+00:00

This just in: guys like sex.

the_calibre_cat · 2018-01-03T16:44:16+00:00

biology, mostly, followed by a slight desire for validation and not missing out on my younger years.

louplop · 2018-01-03T08:22:10+00:00

I do like sex
Finding a relationship
Low self-esteem

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-01-03T09:31:40+00:00

Ideally I'd like an LTR but until I meet the right girl for that I'll settle for just having some fun because why deny myself the simple pleasure of sex just cuz I ain't in a relationship?

wtknight · 2018-01-03T15:16:56+00:00

I dislike casual sex. I tried it once and couldn’t even get aroused. For some reason I can’t separate the physical act of being close to a woman with also being emotionally close to her, although I have no problem getting aroused by porn. Even for guys who are into casual sex, I don’t see how they could enjoy it as much as or more than sex with somebody who they have an emotional bond with.

Johnny_Lawless_Esq · 2018-01-04T07:48:28+00:00

It's exciting. The only thing that compares is a good fight. Both are a validation. Or invalidation, as the case may be. You don't know until you step in and find out.

decoy88 · 2018-01-04T08:39:22+00:00

Is it the sex itself?

It's the sex (yes the feel-good sensations). The excitement around the sex, the thrill of learning a new body and variety of a person's sexual tastes. Also the hope to find a person that offers better sexual pleasure than previous partners.

Or do you want to have casual sex to increase your n count?

Not at all. That's schoolboy shit.

Or is there some other reason?

Relationships, while they can be worthwhile, take a lot of energy (emotional and mental), time and carry a risk of heartbreak if you get too invested with the wrong person.

As someone with a high sex drive and a taste for variety (that gets bored easily), casual sex offers the pleasure with less of the baggage of relationships

Also, I've got some wild stories that are fun to share over a couple drinks with friends.

Sometimes I'm just bored.

And do you have certain standards when finding someone for casual sex?

In one word: 'fuckable' In more words, yes. They have to be okay with casual sex. I'm not into deceiving for pussy as its not needed. I try to filter out clingy and entitled women since the whole point of 'casual' is the lack of any drama or stress.

Like do they have to be a supermodel, or are you happy to fuck someone around your level of looks?

They just have to get my dick hard, however my pickiness varies depending on my mood and state of arousal.

Menurotica · 2018-01-03T13:54:16+00:00

YES it's the sex. The sex is the only reason most men put up with women. We wouldn't put up with women if we couldn't get sex from them.

No, it's not to increase N. It's to have as much sex as possible with as many attractive women as possible for as little investment as possible. It's very simple and easy to understand.

The standards are quite low for casual sex. No, they don't have to be a supermodel, not even close. All she has to be is minimally sexually attractive to me. That's all body types, all shapes, all sizes, all races, all ages, all socioeconomic statuses (that last thing has NOTHING to do with sexual attractiveness but I'm throwing it in there to be clear). I am MORE than happy to fuck someone around my level of looks. All she needs is to be conscious, minimally cool, minimally good looking, not morbidly obese, and have a functioning vagina. That's it.

Eastuss · 2018-01-03T15:05:26+00:00

Have you so little understanding of men?

Yes it's for the sex. We want sex, as simple as that. And we eventually need some sexual partner diversity.

Usually our standards for casual sex are fairly low. (way lower than women's standards for anything) But the hotter the better, ofc... I could want to have casual sex with, like, 70% of the women out there, but not lot of them will make me want to actually approach them and do all the work. Getting rejected by a shit looking woman is also unappealing. So most of us are going to approach actually hot women, it's a story of risk versus reward.

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[deleted] · 2018-01-03T08:14:15+00:00

Not currently seeking it out but if I were I'd do it for the pleasure, the novelty, the validation and the appearance of social success.

I'm also proud to have very low standards. I find loads of women very fuckable.

TrueRustyShackleford · 2018-01-03T11:41:39+00:00

1) My lizard brains wants me to have sex

2) Most women don't like me romantically, and I like even less women romantically

3) Put 1) and 2) together...

That said, I don't go prowling the streets and clubs/bars every day or something like that and often when I'm in bars I can't be bothered to chat women up because I don't feel like it, am tired or the least worst options I see aren't that attractive to me (so yes I do have standards for face and BMI) and still seem like they would be a lot of work.

PBRScagsquad · 2018-01-03T11:45:34+00:00

Validation, to have fun or cause you’re just really fucking horny and really want to fuck someone.

[deleted] · 2018-01-03T11:49:52+00:00

I don't really seek it out, but i enjoy it. I guess I'm more"semi casual". I have girls in friends with and usually hookup with time to time. Last time i went full retard it almost ruined my life.

As far as looks I'm happy with just average girls who are skinny to maybe slightly chubby (up to 140lbs)

Neoprime · 2018-01-03T13:20:14+00:00

A high libido/sex-drive, sexual variety, and pleasure.

And do you have certain standards when finding someone for casual sex?

They just look good to me, they're into the same kinks i'm into.

Like do they have to be a supermodel, or are you happy to fuck someone around your level of looks?

No, they just be themselves, but do need in most cases a good proportional butt, or a booty. If I can get a woman that way out of looks department then i'll take it.

despisedlove2 · 2018-01-03T13:58:06+00:00

Nothing.

Ordinate1 · 2018-01-03T15:22:49+00:00

I don't typically seek out casual sex; indeed, most of my casual encounters have been initiated by the women. When I do, it is because I've been single too long and am sick of masturbation. Sometimes you need some real human contact. I don't really seek out relationships, either, so I tend to go for long periods, years, between them.

My only standard for casual sex is "enough." Pretty enough, sexy enough, not-annoying enough; I will take home a sweet, friendly 4 over a whiny, bitchy 10 all day long (I would rate myself as a 6 or 7), especially if she brings a friend :)

[deleted] · 2018-01-03T17:25:42+00:00

Boredom.

MagicGainbow · 2018-01-03T19:51:34+00:00

It feels good and makes me feel good about myself(I feel desired etc.)

eliechallita · 2018-01-03T21:43:25+00:00

For me it was mostly about enjoying a fun activity with someone I found interesting or attractive. It isn't about simply sticking my dick in something: I've always walked away from partners who were too drunk, or whom I found otherwise uninteresting.

On general principle I only slept with people with whom I had a lot of chemistry, and that generally spread beyond just sex: I almost always had a good time just hanging out with them before or after, even if they were people whom I met at kink events.

Casual, in this case, doesn't mean meaningless or dispassionate.

Talkytalktalk · 2018-01-04T02:00:41+00:00

My fear of seriousness.

caesarfecit · 2018-01-04T05:45:42+00:00

Novelty seeking.

YesICanWhoopUrAss · 2018-01-04T18:07:37+00:00

The endorphin rush from a successful hunt. The validation. And to increase n count. No woman wants a man who hasn't wrangled other women down.

[deleted] · 2018-01-03T08:12:29+00:00

I don't seek out casual sex

Plopolok · 2018-01-03T09:27:32+00:00

Evolution.

crackrocksteady7 · 2018-01-03T14:36:12+00:00

i keep saying it

i gotta fucking nut

Mr_Smoogs · 2018-01-03T15:19:21+00:00

It's a good vetting process on how to find a relationship.
It's the only validation of my physical being. Women rarely compliment men on how good they look, how well they dress etc... Women quite often validate each other and are validated by other men regularly. The only way men feel validated is through sex with women.
There is a massive sense of accomplishment of overcoming the vetting process women set for causal sex. Feminists hate when men see women as a mountain to be scaled or a trophy to be won, but women frame causal sex as something to be won from her by being attractive, confident and romantic. Being funny, charming, confident are all active roles gained over years of trial and error. Women don't typically have these trials or personality traits; they are celebrated for just being.
I also like getting strange.

reluctantly_red · 2018-01-03T08:12:18+00:00

What motivates you to breath or eat?

Title	Q4Men: What motivates you to seek out casual sex?
Author	Menurotica
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Date	January 3, 2018 7:58 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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