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First of all, please don't ask me who I am and my YouTube alias. I want to keep this anonymous.

Ann and I have been married for 9 months, we've been together for 3 years. Our relationship has been pretty smooth, and I love her to bits. However, we have a big personality clash. We've lived with it in the past but its affected her more than it has affected me. I'm more of a 'keep it all in' guy and I prefer to deal with my issues by myself. She on the other hand, talks about her issues with me, and we work through them together. I've always been a little "cold", maybe steely is a better word. I'm not too emotional, not that its a good or bad thing, its just the way I am.

My wife and I were forced to put down our dog recently. He was my dog before we met but he became a big part of our family. She loved the hell out of that dog, and I did too. When I lived abroad for a year, he kept her company and she was very close to him. So, we came back from the vet, and she was crying all the way. I was feeling really sad but I wasn't really showing it. She asked why I wasn't feeling sad, I told her I was. She started screaming at me for not having feelings, me being inhuman, me being cold, and her being scared of me for that. I told her that I cannot force myself to cry and I was feeling terrible inside.

We get home and she went off about I'm barely human and I'm basically an automaton. She then went on and on about how she has never seen me cry. Not when we had broken up 1 and a half years into our relationship, not when my mother died, not when I was leaving for a year to work abroad. I told her that me crying doesn't solve anything and she should quit bothering me. I went to bed.

Next morning, I wake up and decide to edit some videos I wanted to upload. I work from home and I have one main computer to work from. It has 3 hard drives. The first one is my OS drive the other two have recordings on them. I wake up to find the other two completely wiped. I freak out and irrationally think that it might have been some software or something. I try and see what the cause was, and I can't figure out anything. I had put in so much work recording these videos, so much effort had gone into them. I broke down. I had backed up only the recordings from 2 months ago. I'm sobbing hard and I just feel pathetic. I'd lost so much of my work and I couldn't figure out how. My wife then comes in, sees me. I tell her what happened. She tells me she did it. She wanted to see me cry and didn't know how else to make it happen. She's is happy she got to see that some part of me is human. She tells me it was healthy for me to let my emotions out. I swear to God, that's the first time I have ever wanted to hit her. I would have strangled her. I packed up a few things, laptop, phone, got in the car and told her that I'll call her when I am ready. I'm staying with a buddy of mine right now. And I need to figure this shit out. She was all apologetic and loving when I was leaving and was acting confused. I feel nothing but hatred towards her right now, but I need to be tactful in handling this situation right now. Help me figure it out ?

On the update, the wife said that she always felt that she's the weaker one in the relationship so she did that really fucked up shit to break him. Like, whoa, but this guy is more or less red pill in his reaction (to be exact, it's just the reaction we're talking about), specifically, going away, talking to a friend about it instead of sobbing to his wife (yeah, I can imagine some emotionally weaker guys doing this), and keeping his emotions to himself, and when he finally breaks, he went to his friend to vent out. I think the bad part here is when he thought of maybe consoling her a little when she's emotional, but if he's thinking about being some sort of a rock to her storm, then all is well.

While reading this, I thought, do you think emotionally strong guys should show some token displays of vulnerability, even if a fake one? Or this is a damn if you showed vulnerability (she'll lose attraction) and damn if you don't (she'll delete your work) situation?

EDIT: It's clear that it's the woman's actions that got the better of him, but apparently, it's because his work were so important to him. For some reason, I think the woman knows deep inside that he gave in not because of her, but because something terrible happened to his life's work and the woman he married did it of all people and much worse, for ridiculous reasons.

That thought is kind of playing in the corner of my head because most of the time, shit tests are directly related to the woman or the dynamics between the two of them. For example, girls will bring up guys hitting on them, talking about going to a girl's night out, directly or indirectly insulting his self-esteem, anything and they're usually confined in the realm of mind games (which they are so well aware of), so yeah, this one's really... uncommon.

UPDATE: They reconciled. The guy was thinking that isn't enough of a ground for a divorce yet, despite the woman saying she'd understand if he divorces her. Using shit test goggles, this means -- I will do something very shitty to your work for my shallow reasons and because you like me so much you will still forgive me. I agree that the guy was rational in saying that it wasn't enough of ground for divorce. This is in the sense that it's not the extreme reasons we usually hear, so it might be seen by the courts as a one-time incident rather than a series of shitty behavior, that will be corroborated with the cat incident and perhaps other things not addressed. However, his rationality be damned. It is very likely that the woman in this scenario will still see it as him liking her so much he will not divorce her after doing that very shitty act. I don't have a theoretical way of explaining this, except that this is similar to how girls think you're their bitch once you hold her purse while you wait for her to finish using the girl's comfort room.