If you’re casually dating someone do you let that person sleepover?

SmurfESmurferson · 2020-01-08T02:59:46+00:00

Yes. Sleeping next to someone is a compatibility thing, better to find out sooner rather than later

EDIT: I also date middle aged, UMC, white collar white guys. I’m not concerned that they’re going to walk out with my TV. I’m more concerned they’ll pity it

JameisBong · 2020-01-08T09:54:41+00:00

I've fucked with 30+ men an every single one of them was happy to have me sleep over after sex. Unless its the afternoon, we're both going to need to fall asleep - not mission it back home.

topofthecentipede · 2020-01-08T04:25:24+00:00

Yes. I don't want a FWB I don't like enough to sleep over.. except this one. She kicks all night and squeezes me, so I gotta make sure I have nothing going on the next 2 days bc I'm so tired after lol

NPC55 · 2020-01-08T03:04:30+00:00

I have never casually dated anyone before, but if I did I would let them sleep over. I have let literal strangers off the street sleep at my apartment on multiple occasions. If I were dating someone then I would let them use my apartment whenever. I would prefer it over being alone all the time honestly.

XtoDoubt · 2020-01-08T03:19:55+00:00

Absolutely. I've heard it's too strong of a bf signal but I've not run into issues in the past. I'm extremely affectionate so it feels really great to sleep holding someone.

king_of_red_alphas · 2020-01-08T04:19:31+00:00

Another dumb TRP “rule” is to never let a girl stay over.

Fuck that. I love sleeping next to a girl with my hand on her hip and her head on my chest.

Joey_Lopez · 2020-01-08T07:18:30+00:00

If you want to. There really are no rules you have to abide by.

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saladfingers4141 · 2020-01-08T02:59:26+00:00

Do you mean from a moral standpoint or?

hyperrreal · 2020-01-08T03:16:56+00:00

Yeah I would sometimes, and would also let girls sleep over

[deleted] · 2020-01-08T03:19:11+00:00

Why not. Do you have some weird "we can only have sex at the weekend" rule or something.

Bright_Itempas · 2020-01-08T03:20:13+00:00

I historically am a weird bitch and don't invite people to my place at all until I know I'm serious about them. I prefer to stay at their place, where I can leave whenever I want - after sex or after a night of rest.

Orange_Paisley · 2020-01-08T03:22:49+00:00

I did not, since before I met Mr. Paisley I had a kid at home. I did however occasionally have sleepovers at other people’s homes if she was out somewhere.

[deleted] · 2020-01-08T04:23:14+00:00

Yes! I love sleep overs and living with people. I used to be unable to live alone or with people i didnt trust because i took medications that made me basically dream when i was awake so having someone I liked there was always better.

Salty-Bastard · 2020-01-08T04:30:32+00:00

Yes, as long as you adhere to the 9am rule.

kandyapplez · 2020-01-08T05:13:13+00:00

no lol i don't really bring guys to my place until they're my boyfriend, until then i always sleep over theirs. i basically moved into my bf's place after the second date tho

MrHerbSherman · 2020-01-08T05:52:39+00:00

Yea of course I like to sleep over

I only get ready at my own house tho, I’d rather wake up early and drive home and go to work from my place

AchromaticFade · 2020-01-08T08:11:54+00:00

No. And I don't stay over until we are exclusive. Why? People have their weird habbits, I have no interest to know if they are strangers. There are layers of intimacy and acceptance.

J_Milton_Jr · 2020-01-08T10:17:15+00:00

where you pack a bag to get ready for work at the girl’s house.

just curious, what would you pack in said bag?

PaintingOfJoan · 2020-01-08T12:41:04+00:00

yoshimango97 · 2020-01-08T12:54:14+00:00

Yeah, mostly I’d sleep over there’s but sometimes I let the person sleep over my place too. Sometimes for days at a time. It depends on what the two people in question are comfortable with.

wtknight · 2020-01-08T13:21:02+00:00

I don’t see why not.

goneaway2thewind · 2020-01-08T13:39:51+00:00

There was a time i'd say sure, until I've had a wallet and watch stolen on separate occasions. Funny enough the girl had the courtesy to return my wallet at work through the mail a few weeks later. At least women decive with class instead of outright robbing you.

As for now though, absolutely not.

Here4thebeer3232 · 2020-01-08T15:36:54+00:00

Yeah. If it's really late and or they've been drinking I dont mind them staying over. Far better to have someone else in bed with you than sleeping alone anyway. Whether I make breakfast for them or not is an entirely separate discussion.

goatismycopilot · 2020-01-08T15:44:06+00:00

No I would not want to stay over at some random's place nor let them stay mine but I also do not do casual.

unicorns- · 2020-01-08T16:56:15+00:00

No, I wouldn't have sex unless I were in a committed relationship, I wouldn't do that with someone I were casually dating.

GreenSatyr · 2020-01-08T17:35:33+00:00

yeah

joesmithasdf · 2020-01-13T11:14:14+00:00

All I get lately is ONS from OLD but yeah, pretty much all the time I sleep over at theirs or they at mine.

JameisBong · 2020-01-08T03:04:07+00:00

Depends these days no, I'm not forming bonds with some tinderella.

jax006 · 2020-01-08T04:09:14+00:00

Sometimes. It depends. I've run into big incompatibilities that make it not worth it and I'd rather just go sleep at home/kick them out. Such as:

People who toss and turn too much, or maybe if they snore.

Not being comfortable enough in their place to fall asleep, if it's too hot or something.

Girl doesn't want my dog on the bed (sorry bitch, GTFO).

Oftentimes I like to wake up early and usually that's weird when staying over at someone's place if they dont also wake up early.

These days I honestly prefer to hangout and fuck and then late night drive home, for which I usually roll a joint and then sleep like a baby when I get home.

Title	If you’re casually dating someone do you let that person sleepover?
Author	KickKathleeenKennedy
Upvotes	1
Comments	55
Date	January 8, 2020 2:40 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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