When males pretend they are incapable of doing the most basic tasks....

ralviee · 2020-04-19T17:00:14+00:00

The zero tolerance policy for bullshit sounds harsh to some people, but things like this are exactly why it’s needed.

We train people how to treat us, with what we let slide, and what we call out or walk away from. Letting planned incompetence slide is just another way of saying “yes, trample over me! I’m a doormat!”

Not that it’s our fault they do so, nor is it our fault if we end up letting it go due to other manipulations like gaslighting. But it is in our hands to change ourselves and what we tolerate. We can always make a different choice after we learn.

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-04-19T17:18:33+00:00

They also do this in the workplace. And then women are expected to do the tasks that no one appreciates and take for granted, while the men get praise for their work on the more high profile projects.

pinkyberries · 2020-04-19T17:08:20+00:00

Or when their wife gives them a list of groceries to buy so they buy a different company or a different grocery...oh she wrote that she needs a zucchini? i'll buy a cucumber and say i was mistaken so she won't ever ask me to buy the groceries.

lvm.

detectivejuicee · 2020-04-19T17:45:37+00:00

There is another thing is when they tell you they don’t care about it. Like « I don’t mind cleaning the dishes only every 2 days » « I don’t mind my clothes being all wrinkly ». What are you supposed to say to that??

Logical-Influence · 2020-04-19T18:17:18+00:00

My mom always uses the phrase “it’s a good opportunity to learn” and “don’t worry, you’ll get better over time”

2020-04-19T17:50:30+00:00

Yeah people do that all the time. It can be innocent manipulation — like I know a lot of retired parents ask their children to help them with computers or phones, and pretend to be dumb, because they liked to be helped.

I've read a story about a woman who was pissing her pants laughing because her mom pretended like she doesn't know what a browser is, and would always call her daughter and ask same questions, but when the daughter checked her internet history, the old lady was active in several forums, and also watching a bunch of youtube videos, and leaving comments.

But yeah it becomes disgusting when men use it to get out of chores.

ThatsWhat__I__Said · 2020-04-20T01:50:33+00:00

I see this so often with the young girls at my work. Their boyfriends and husbands don't know how to do dishes, can't dust, don't know how to operate a vacuum cleaner, can't ever remember to close cabinet doors, don't know how to lock the screen door, are mystified by the scary laundry machine, don't know how to let the dog out, don't know how to make the bed, can't remember to pay a bill... I could not tolerate a man who gaslights me and behaves so obtusely and expects me to just swallow it. Fuck that!

ErikaNaumann · 2020-04-19T19:09:50+00:00

If I ever get into a relationship again, I will ask him to clean a toilet. If he can't or he does a shit job, then it's bye boy. If he can't perform basic adult tasks, I'm not gonna be the one to teach him.

cherrybombfield · 2020-04-19T23:29:03+00:00

Had an ex bf try to tell me once he didn't know how to load a dishwasher. Then when I insisted he do it he tried to put all the plates on the top glass rack and all the glasses on the bottom. Kinda funny how suddenly common sense went awol. I mean obviously plates didn't fit in the top rack. So yeah they do that. I dumped him.

woiashenseea · 2020-04-19T23:49:34+00:00

Thank you for the new vocab!!! Didnt realize I needed a term for this until now - I just call them trash. But it's worth illuminating the various flavors of trash, so that every woman's palate can stay vigilant and become more sophisticated

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-04-20T01:04:14+00:00

There was a whole episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. Ray's wife figured out that he fucks tasks up on purpose just so he won't be asked again. And some dudes will try to game you with "but you're so good at that" just ask them why they can't be good at it too.

sexxxybae · 2020-04-19T19:17:09+00:00

Not sure if any of you watch "everyone loves Raymond" but that's an episode, he purposely does chores badly so the wife just does it all. he convinces his brother to mess up some invitations (first draft) so his fiancée thinks he's incompetent, but by accident they get sent out and it's a whole mess. Funny episode, but yea i'm sure guys do it for real.

bored-on-a-rainy-day · 2020-04-21T14:43:11+00:00

Omg men b so lay-zee!!!!!

FDSFemmeFatale · 2020-04-19T18:43:57+00:00

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Title	When males pretend they are incapable of doing the most basic tasks....
Author	AspenGoddess
Upvotes	340
Comments	48
Date	April 19, 2020 4:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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