Ex girlfriend dumped me, slept with someone else, then attempted suicide

jgraham704 · 2016-12-21T07:50:59+00:00

Get away from her. Exit gracefully if you can since she's in the hospital but if you can't than that's fine too. There is absolutely no reason you should be around this girl, even if she didn't cheat on you she's clearly unstable. Keep improving and you'll quickly realize she's nothing special.

wallpunchist · 2016-12-21T08:54:32+00:00

Crazy girlfriend dumped me, randomly calls me to tell me she had drunken unprotected sex with somebody else, is now in the hospital after attempting to commit suicide.

I am irresponsible child. I misbehaved and now am very miserable. Take me back. Take care of me. Until I want to jump on CC again. Then we'll repeat this scene.

I'm even teaching myself how to cook.

I read that "you want 9s and 10s but don't even know how to cook" post. Kinda agree with it.

Cooking is fucking amazing skill to have.

Triadis3 · 2016-12-21T09:25:49+00:00

Another Captain Save a Ho.

Fuck.

She's your EX!!! That means nothing she does is of any significance to you. It's not your fault, not your problem.

WTH are you even in contact with the family?

Her issues, even when you were together, are her issues. One of the basic tenants here is that you cannot change others, only yourself.

Now that you've broken up...this is even more true.

Cut off all contact. Why would you continue to be an emotional tampon to a girl who is obviously unstable?

Suicide attempts and rape accusations after 20 days single? Real winner there.

You're 19. There is a lifetime of awesomeness ahead of you, especially as you are posting here. Cut this toxic crazy out of your life. Do not look back, don't fall into the trap of," But I still care.. " If you cared about her, you'd still be together. You can't have it both ways.

It's a binary decision. Be together or not. I think you chose right when you said "not".

fnordsnord · 2016-12-21T18:36:08+00:00

Ok, this is important. Read my lips and smell my breath: YOU. CAN'T. FIX. THIS. FOR. HER.

Accept, understand, and internalize it: YOU. CAN'T. SAVE. HER.

You are NOT responsible for her happiness, her mental health, or, ultimately, her life.

She, and to a lesser extent, her family, are going to continue to bait you with guilt until you successfully go zero contact.

A woman who would do such a thing to herself and to the people around her is one of two things: a drama queen who MUST have all the attention focused on her ALL the time, OR someone who is genuinely mentally unstable.

You want NEITHER kind of person in your life. You are fortunate in that she is neither blood kin, nor someone to whom you have a legal commitment. (Spouse or adopted child.)

If you are a decent person, you are going to feel like shit for "abandoning her when she needs you most." This speaks well of you. But your life is going to continue to become more and more fucked up, the longer you stay within the reach of this woman and her family. She will continue down the drain you are seeing and she will suck you down with her if you let her.

The other bros here are telling you that you have dodged a bullet. And they're right. You have dodges a slow-moving, festering, toxic bullet with nasty, meat-shredding claws that was aimed right at your future.

What's going on with her is NOT going to change. It's going to get WORSE, not better. Do you want to deal with EXACTLY this kind of drama for the next SIXTY YEARS? Until you DIE?

Moving forward: you need to soft-next her entire family. No need for a dramatic confrontation. Just block them on your phone and unfollow them on all social media. And get ON with your life.

Juan-San · 2016-12-21T08:47:46+00:00

Get away from that girl, stop all contact. She dumped you, then had unprotected sex with some other guy, they got overdosed? She lost control of her life, you didn't have anything to do with it (she was the one not haaaaaappy with the relationship so she dumped you, I guess).

Keep doing what you're doing, I wish I had been forced to swallow the pill years ago.

Aaren_Augustine · 2016-12-21T08:06:09+00:00

Good for you Neo. Now drop it like it's hot.

RedAsBlood · 2016-12-21T15:40:39+00:00

Never contact her again. Ignore her if she contacts you.

Congrats you dodged a bullet.

Nergaal · 2016-12-21T09:49:43+00:00

If you would have attempted suicide she would have been "raped" by 10 guys by now. Soft next her family, you have no responsibility for this. And in the most cynical sense, faked failed suicide attempts with drugs are just that: fake. Somebody truly suicidal is not clamoring for all the attention.

PS: if you go ask Chad you will see she didn't get raped, but begged for it.

Apexk9 · 2016-12-21T11:53:29+00:00

Ignore. Shes not your problem

TheDisillusionist · 2016-12-21T12:32:22+00:00

You don't have to do anything. You dont owe her shit.

vorverk · 2016-12-21T12:35:37+00:00

She's doing all just to get attention and be taken cared of. Don't play her game. You have more important stuff to do FOR YOU. Drop her completely.

FelipeAngeles · 2016-12-21T14:17:21+00:00

I am only 19 this is an unrealistic amount of psycho I am dealing with.

Life is like that sometimes. Get away from that drama. Just focus on improving your self. Don't over think it. Men your age are sent to war to kill or get killed. If they can deal with that you can deal with this. Think about that. You will be fine at the end.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-12-21T14:51:19+00:00

What the hell is a young man to do here.

RUN, FORREST, RUUUUUUUUUUUN!!!

Stay the fuck away from her and count your blessings.

BigRedRover · 2016-12-21T15:17:08+00:00

Go no contact, block her on everything and ignore that she even exists. I'm not joking, I'm not being dramatic and I'm not trying to goad you into a dick-swinging contest against yourself. This is 100 percent the absolute best thing you can do for yourself AND for her.

loveydovey2121 · 2016-12-21T08:01:16+00:00

Dude you are handling this like a fucking champ. I was a blob of mess when I found out my ex gf had cheated on me. Just stay your course dude. You are doing everything right. Just be prepared though, because this girl WILL try to come back. Especially if she sees you improving. You're gonna do just fine in life if this is how you handle breakups. Well done.

Edit: also keep working out now that you've started. Don't stop. I've been doing it for 6+ years religiously and look pretty good all because of heartbreak.

3rt41 · 2016-12-21T13:55:51+00:00

chief_slap_ahoe · 2016-12-21T10:06:36+00:00

Walk away. You do not want to be in this train wreck.

Retspihi · 2016-12-21T11:31:06+00:00

Block the whore

JackGetsIt · 2016-12-21T12:43:10+00:00

Girls do this shit all the time and I wouldn't be surprised if the suicide was completely faked. She's just making a play. I had an on again off again girlfriend in high school that would call me on a weekly basis saying she'd taken a bottle of pills and was getting sleepy. First couple of times I panicked and started dating her again the next day when she miraculously survived. By the third and fourth time, "Yea, go ahead, just this time please make sure you use the extra strength Motrin."

Girls will do anything to protect their emotional narrative and nothing is off the table. False rape allegations. Faking suicide. Sperm jacking. Cucking. The list goes on and on. Why do you think girls love lifetime movies about the psycho girl squad that manipulates entire towns and police departments? Or the wife that has a hidden life of BDSM/Murder/Saudi Prince action? They aren't stunned or shocked that a women would do that; their getting ideas...

cleverley1986 · 2016-12-21T13:17:51+00:00

she's done you a massive favour mate. literally walking away with no problems here.

fakefalse · 2016-12-21T13:57:28+00:00

GHOST!
Block everything and anything.

Archwinger · 2016-12-21T14:42:12+00:00

Her mental health issues aren't your problem.

They weren't your problem when she was your girlfriend. They're definitely not your problem now that she's some girl you used to fuck.

BusterVadge · 2016-12-21T14:46:48+00:00

She is not your problem anymore.... I repeat: She is not your problem anymore. Let her be someone else's problem.

You wouldn't call an exterminator to get rid of the roaches in your house, only to empty a bag of live cockroaches on your floor 19 days later, would you?

akeelbashir · 2016-12-21T15:06:55+00:00

accusing him of rape

Run. Don't walk.

gettingmymojoback · 2016-12-21T15:11:55+00:00

Stay the fuck away now that you're out. Had a crazy ex that pulled that shit, multiple times, because I kept going back, because she sucked my dick like it was the cure for cancer and I was young and stupid. Guess what, it still wasn't worth it. Never stick your dick in crazy. Took me almost 2 years to figure that one out at your age. No matter what, stay the fuck away.

wadebarlow · 2016-12-21T15:16:18+00:00

Learn to brine chicken for some next level flavor and never cook it for this mess of an ex-girlfriend

the-bum-hammer · 2016-12-21T16:22:34+00:00

She contacted me today telling me she got drunk and had unprotected sex with one of her guy friends, basically accusing him of rape.

Ignore this bitch. Bullet dodged like fucking Neo.

Block her on everything possibly?

Yes.

Sir_Distic · 2016-12-21T17:02:41+00:00

Personally I'd recommend this: Send 1 final message to her Mother. " I hope she recovers and I wish her the best."

Then block on everything and even tell the mom you no longer wish to speak to her ever again, if necessary. Hard Next

nastynickdr · 2016-12-21T12:48:08+00:00

Nothing you can do but get away from this shitfest. Tell her parents she should see a doctor. If she contacts you, tell her she should see a doctor and block her on everything. You cant fix her.

flatox · 2016-12-21T14:03:22+00:00

Bullet dodged. Move on.

2comment · 2016-12-21T15:52:40+00:00

Sincerely wish her relatives condolences in her situation, turn around and never look back.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-12-21T17:24:36+00:00

There is absolutely nothing of value that she has for you except a warm wet pussy.

There's lots of warm wet pussy in the world. Some of it isn't as batshit crazy as this one.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-12-21T19:15:53+00:00

You put your dick in crazy. Keep your dick away from crazy at all times.

Initiate Zero Contact. Don't touch that crap with a 20ft pole. Crazy isn't your problem, don't make it your problem.

bonekeeper · 2016-12-21T09:12:01+00:00

Send her a "get well" balloon, then go to the gym.

Lice138 · 2016-12-21T17:55:51+00:00

RUN!!!!

When she dumped you she dumped YOU, she didn't dump your bad parts she dumped YOU. Any obligation you had toward her well being was over the moment she did that.

rutluv · 2016-12-21T20:36:58+00:00

Man, move on. She disrespected you.You dont own her a thing.

theWolfeman88 · 2016-12-21T23:10:09+00:00

Break contact off with her & her family. Feel free to be sympathetic to her mother in a message or whatever, but make it understood you are not, and will not be, a part of this girls life anymore.

She's in an extremely destructive phase, and you keeping in touch isn't good for either of you.

IVIaskerade · 2016-12-21T23:19:01+00:00

She dumped you. You're done. I don't know why you're still thinking about her.

0kool74 · 2016-12-21T15:23:20+00:00

Hey if she "offs" herself because she's an idiot, that's not your problem.....nor should it be.

Block any form of contact with her. You don't need a wretched leach like that dragging you down!!!

dendsm111 · 2016-12-21T15:48:40+00:00

No good for you will come by hanging around. She broke up with you proceed as before.

GentlemenMindset · 2016-12-21T16:12:14+00:00

Her life's not your problem.

The__Tren__Train · 2016-12-21T17:12:41+00:00

you can't O'D on flintstone gummies..

hatefulreason · 2016-12-21T17:35:56+00:00

be careful what you say and do, the white knights will blame you for not taking care of her. just say you broke up a long time ago, you're seeing someone else, you didn't even know she was in the hospital,etc

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-22T03:54:35+00:00

I have a (female) friend whose (ex) boyfriend blew his brains out while he was on the phone with her. You got off light.

Cut her out of your life. Tell her mother or her mom's boyfriend exactly what you wrote to us:

I am only 19 this is an unrealistic amount of psycho I am dealing with.

No further contact. No Facebook. No calls. Block her texts. You owe this person exactly nothing.

RPShitlord · 2016-12-22T15:38:36+00:00

Send her mom a final text wishing her daughter the best, but make it clear that you moved on, and you don't want her back in your life.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-12-22T20:34:35+00:00

I read the title and maybe 2 senteves of your post.

She's an EX girlfriend, her life isn't your problem. Tell her mom and her boyfriend to stop updating you because she's no longer a part of your life. You're a single man, worry about what concerns you.

sd4c · 2016-12-27T23:01:32+00:00

She contacted me today

BEEP BEEP BEEP

Enemy bogey is on your six and has locked-on! EJECT!!!

wallpunchist · 2016-12-21T07:44:25+00:00

We broke up roughly 19 days ago

Why did you break up?

Dr_HoaxArthurWilmoth · 2016-12-22T00:08:56+00:00

Easy. Walk away disconnect and block all ex-gf and family contact.

You are 19, consider this a bullet dodged.

druganswer · 2016-12-21T16:20:09+00:00

Pretend she swallowed a few more and didn't make it. Grieve to yourself and move on.

Title	Ex girlfriend dumped me, slept with someone else, then attempted suicide
Author	throwinitallaway715
Upvotes	28
Comments	97
Date	December 21, 2016 7:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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