fellas, when did you feel like the women that approached you weren’t what they used to be?

MyrganGyrgan · 2021-08-08T23:27:31+00:00

Bold of you to assume women have ever approached me

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-08-08T23:39:03+00:00

Bold of you to assume that women are approaching men consistently enough for men to be able to tell something like this.

BigDudBoy · 2021-08-09T03:13:44+00:00

Women only approach attractive guys and even then it's rare.

As someone who's always been in good shape, relatively social, and has experience with women, I've never been approached.

Hoopy223 · 2021-08-08T23:38:56+00:00

Women never really hit on me when I was younger. Part of that was my fault, I was a misanthrope who didn’t wear cologne or buy clothing that fit until age 22 or 23 lol.

Now in my 30s I get a lot of casual attention but its almost always single moms who seem kinda burnt out. Like they are tired and just want a guy to help pay the bills.

Ashamed? No. Just kinda disappointed.

wtknight · 2021-08-08T23:48:40+00:00

Women that weren't particularly attractive to me have always been the ones who approached me. It has been fairly consistent, which is why I always approach and advise men that they should always approach if they want to maximize the quality of the woman who they hope to attract.

LeJacquelope · 2021-08-09T02:52:28+00:00

Well my wife did approach me and by God she keeps my motor running and the oil and spark plugs changed. Being a damned good woman is the stuff you make wife goggles out of and they fit my eyes quite comfortably. Not gonna take them off for some TRP whackadoodle ideology.

anon_likes_tendies · 2021-08-09T02:09:47+00:00

When I realized I wasn’t good enough for those women 10-15 years ago but magically I’m good enough now.

That’s when I threw in the towel and opted out.

Sad_Top1743 · 2021-08-09T00:36:02+00:00

the quality of the women I have dated/flirted with has been getting much better recently. I am in my late 20's.

At 22 I had barely anything going for me, they were chasing chads

OsoArrogant_Sah-Sah · 2021-08-09T03:22:31+00:00

When I was 19 I attracted 18 to 25-year-old women. When I was 40 I attracted 30 to 45-year-old women. Now that I'm in my 50s I attract 40 to 55 year-old-women. Adjusted for age they're the same quality just a bit older.

Murphysmongoose · 2021-08-09T00:17:06+00:00

Damn near 40, mid to late 30's at least. Well social media took over more and more, and I was reluctant to adopt that, which hurt me.

Women don't flirt and talk to strangers like they used to.

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2021-08-09T00:21:49+00:00

I’m 37 and there’s really been no drop off. If anything I’m getting way better now due to more confidence. I’ve found moderate success as well and will be taking that even further.

I have 19 yr olds to 47 yrs olds all playing the game with me.

However, I do feel the impending doom coming and I’m anticipating within the next 5-10 years there will be a noticeable drop off. Getting old sucks.

BlackGriffin_1 · 2021-08-09T16:32:01+00:00

Wait, you guys are getting approached??!!

JumboJetz · 2021-08-09T03:30:00+00:00

The very few times it happens, quality is actually higher in my 30s then my 20s.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2021-08-09T05:32:09+00:00

I'm 37 and so far it's been the opposite. Some of the women that have approached me have been beautiful. Then again, I have never been approached too much by women anyway.

I can definitely see I am more attractive now than I was in my 20's.

AbbreviationsHot1200 · 2021-08-09T05:54:43+00:00

Younger women still give me a lot of eye contact and I'm almost 40

But they only straight up hit on me when they're with their boyfriends and want to make him jealous

SnowHatesWome · 2021-08-09T14:54:53+00:00

Turning 27 and still getting approached by same range of attractive women and uggos. I do have more hot 21-24 year olds approaching me or matching on dating apps which is good. I was worried that once I got passed 25 I was gonna be limited to the 25+ year old fatties and single moms

razormachine · 2021-08-09T16:46:46+00:00

Women didn't approach me in my 20's, either I approached women, or women which knew me for some time showed interest.

In my 30's women started approaching me , but all of these women had some serious flaws or baggage, they saw me as a wallet, as a way to fix their problems their intentions were really badly camouflaged.

Annoyed yes, even bitter, I didn't spent my 20's creating something out of my life to provide for someone who spent their 20's becoming a wreck. Ashamed no.

For all the ladies out there, this is an equivalent of having a guy with a very bad game who is interested in just having sex with you. Not attractive.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2021-08-10T04:46:47+00:00

Well I'm still in my twenties so the quality is still impeccable.

slayerfreiza666 · 2021-08-08T23:41:52+00:00

Women approach differently then men but the “choosing signals” are still there and most guys can pick up on the them.

In my case I’m getting the signals from less desirable women than I did 10, 5, even 2 years ago…

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-08-09T01:20:24+00:00

Attractive as before what? This question/thread makes no sense at all.

LightGlows · 2021-08-09T01:43:28+00:00

If you mean straight up approach it happens rarely enough that i always get a bit of an ego boost but i never say yes, they always look far below me

If you just talking about catching eyes then i feel like I'm still attracting hot women at 30, they are ofc older looking and sometimes fatter but i still get plenty of fuckable women interested in me not that i care much since i do like my gf a lot but it's decent for validation/ego boost

Taipanshimshon · 2021-08-08T23:55:13+00:00

Women don't approach generally.

They signal desire to want to be approached

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Grimmanomaly · 2021-08-09T00:37:27+00:00

Well online compared to in person… I can’t really take any online flirting or being approached by a woman as authentic. It’s almost always a lure into buying some content of some sort, only fans is pretty prevalent now. But being in person is a case by case basis and it doesn’t happen often. And I’m usually aware of where I am and whether the person talking to me is say a bartender or cashier. I can understand a fun flirt that’s not gonna go anywhere.

just_a_place · 2021-08-09T04:26:49+00:00

I attract a lot of older women and also a few younger girls so I have no frame of reference for this one. That doesn't mean they all approach me though, they just show me the usual signs of receptiveness and flirting to let me know they wish for me to approach them which sometimes I do.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2021-08-09T06:43:40+00:00

I've not experienced that just yet but i am intending to make the most of the fact that I'm still early 20s.

Kinda sad that i wasted two of my prime years on a girl who wasn't right for me. Ah well.

gkom1917 · 2021-08-09T09:03:50+00:00

Nah, all is consistent.

sootlord · 2021-08-09T09:30:38+00:00

Ive only had maybe 6 women in 11 years of dating actually approach me. I dont feel anything about it because it rarely happens.

Goodthingstartssmall · 2021-08-09T10:03:15+00:00

I've always did the approaching and active part of dating but the only chicks i were able to at least somwhat attract were either none, when i was fat or fatties when i lost weight and gained muscle.

The one time i was approached led to my current GF which is overall an 7 and by far the hottest one.

abaxeron · 2021-08-09T11:49:54+00:00

QUITE the opposite. Before my (roughly) 25th birthday, I was only approached by women who were either significantly older, fat, pregnant, STI-positive, or all of the above.

xFallacyx69 · 2021-08-09T14:46:47+00:00

For me, it’s not a worse quality thing… it’s a more women have approached me as I’ve aged… some of them are the same quality, a lot of them are former pump and dumpees that chases bad boys and now want someone to tell them it’s not their fault they dated garbage.

Dagenius1 · 2021-08-09T15:29:29+00:00

I would say that it hasn’t really declined since about 25. Early 20s I had crooked teeth and was out of shape. So it’s been pretty consistent for the the most part. Now, one cliche caveat..

I say cliche because I heard this as a kid and never believed it..but after I got married, I’ve definitely got hit on more than the last year my wife and I were just dating. Beautiful women of almost all age groups.

Vlegm · 2021-08-09T17:31:21+00:00

There is no "wall" for me, I love older women. They're usually better in bed and less likely to be offended that I want FWBs. They know how they want to be treated and enjoy me being a man

Women become unattractive when they start demanding time and money from me. Usually happens with younger women who need attention for self validation. Those interactions never last long as they usually bail when confronted about it

Aldabruzzo · 2021-08-10T18:40:00+00:00

Stop thinking that everything is the same for men and women. It isn't.

The women got more attractive as I got older. They also got more numerous. That second thing - more numerous - is key. Because for men, quantity matters as well as quality. Quantity means options, and that's crucial for men. A man does much, much better getting to pick from 6 mediocre options than from one above average option.

For us men, it's not just about how attractive they are. It's about how many of them there are.

XtremePeace · 2021-08-11T20:26:56+00:00

I don't see that no. It has always varied in my experience. Though now as I'm older I have more access to older women where before a portion of them wouldn't show interest for me being too young for them.

Workaholiconew · 2021-08-11T22:47:16+00:00

No, not really.

About the same really. I at best become surprised, or at worst I become wary if everything is too easy. If it is too easy I suspect sometimes it is not in fact a woman or she is trying to steal my money.

I don't think it is so bad, and I like when they flirt with me.

My attraction level is reliant on her attractiveness, not much her behavior.

GrandRub · 2021-08-18T16:56:41+00:00

I feel like this is the “wall” for men. The girls you can attract @ 22 won’t be the same @ 32 and men as visual beings definitely see it.

usualy you attract more and better woman at 32 than at 22.

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