Were you a feminist or associated yourself with feminism, before becoming an MRA (or a non-feminist? If yes, what changed your mind?

mrwhibbley · 2017-07-17T05:29:36+00:00

I think I was like everyone else. You know why you are told until you look for yourself or have other experiences that change you mind. I grew up thinking women were this oppressed minority. Same with blacks and other minorities. People rise to the level that they strive to rise to. Few people are given privilege and advantages just for who they are. It upset me watching all these people failing at something and finding every excuse other than themselves as to why they failed.

nikgk · 2017-07-17T07:27:48+00:00

I was also a feminist until i began researching DV. I literally heard about the equal numbers of male and female perpetrators and decided to prove it wrong by researching for my PhD! I quickly realised the figure was correct and it opened my eyes to all the rest of the bias. I've spent the last 20 years trying to get this information out. It is working in the UK where there is real evidence of a shift. Not all down to me of course but it doesn't take many people in the right places to make a change. I think the important thing to try and hold onto is balance, it is tempting to swing the other way but then you lose the power of your argument.

TamidMT · 2017-07-17T09:23:18+00:00

I've posted several times on here before that I used to be a feminist. Any decent person who hears about "what women go through" and the shocking statistic against them (wage gap, rape culture, etc) would be one, I thought. I felt awful that men were the bad guys. Then I met the woman who would unwittingly red-pill me through her unprecedented compassion she showed towards men. I didn't really think about it, but something definitely shifted.

Shortly afterwards, I had my epiphany. I think I was reading some feminist article or journal, but in that moment it felt like a blanket of guilt and shame was lifted off me. I hadn't realised that the whole time I had spent being a feminist, my character as a man had been relentless attacked, and everything I had learned through feminism was one big guilt trip about what I had been complicit in because of my gender. Once that blanket came off, the basic and innate truths dropped: I wasn't a sexist, I wasn't a misogynist, I wasn't a racist, or any -phobic buzzword that has now lost meaning through never-ending overuse.

From that very moment, on that very night, I went back through the feminist resources that had first influenced me, and all of a sudden I was thinking clearly. Statistics didn't sound right, thought processes were getting twisted, stories were being sensationalised, and a whole lot of plot holes started to appear. That's when I found Christina Hoff Sommers, and that's when I started realising that everything I once believed as a feminist was ultimately a baseless lie. Every. Single. One.

Walking away from feminism was like walking away from a cult. Once I stopped chanting the mantra of misogyny, I started thinking for myself and finding the countless flaws in the ideology. I started seeing how hypocritical feminists really were, and how conditional their "compassion" really was. I started seeing just how much men were struggling, and how many of them had all but given up on a culture that long ago gave up on them. I saw how much sickening glee feminists derived from men's suffering and loss, and it made me rue every moment I spent empathising with their pernicious cause. For every battle that feminism claims to win, the division and contempt between the sexes edges just a little further. I'm standing in the gap with virtuous and empathetic men and women to make sure that rift never escalates beyond repair.

SirSkeptic · 2017-07-17T11:22:25+00:00

I was at a Women's Rights rally in the 70's (feminism wasn't in common usage then) and there were thousands of people there. Almost all women, but some children and a few men. I was 9 years old and was there with my mother. I had counted myself as one of the group because I believed that everyone should have the same rights and the rally was advertised as being all about treating people equally.

The first speaker stood on the fountain in our brand new Mall and told us all about where we were going to march and where the people with banners should stand and what we were going to shout. All good.

Then the second speaker got up and made a speech about how men were evil and needed to be crushed. That women were naturally superior and needed to take their rightful place as the leaders of the world.

I can remember so clearly thinking she was going to get howled down. That this sort of sexist hatred would never be tolerated in this mass of people who only wanted everyone to be treated equally. She had totally misunderstood the Women's Rights Movement.

Then the whole crowd cheered. All of them. Some shouted about killing and mutilating men.

I looked around in horror.

It was I who had totally misunderstood the Woman's Rights Movement. That was my Red Pill moment.

HiilestTehtyAffena · 2017-07-17T06:15:58+00:00

I was sympathetic toward feminism till I learned that they had been lying about the DV statistics for decades. By lying I mean telling that men beat their partners - and children - often and women don't almost at all unless they are "provoked". And that men control women - and children - with violence and the threat of violence.

Those are, of course, lies, though a very successful ones. It's also typical hate-movement propaganda, comparable to what Nazis said about the Jews or the KKK about the "Negroes".

PinkEyedGayDragon · 2017-07-17T09:42:16+00:00

Im 30yo man in my teenage years (14-19) i considered myself a feminist and i held the belief that men rights people are this "old men who want to return to times when women didint had rights and when they just had to serve men". The funny thing is that it was a "default" belief. It didint emerge from informed studying, it wasnt something i thought alot about, it just "was there", i dont even know how it got there, it was something that was put inside my brain by society when i was a kid, without me understanding it. Like religion.

At some point in my life i deviated away from society, i was bullied and abused and ostracised and it lead me to lonely life where i had time to sit at the computer all day and read and read and read and read untill ive read too much and learned that obvious truths arent that obvious. Alot of the things started to make sense. I think that if i wouldnt get bullied and ostracised i wouldnt be Mens Rights supporter. I would probably just go with the flow.

ace_of_nations · 2017-07-17T12:00:08+00:00

I was never a feminist. An ancestor of mine was one of the original feminists. It's a proud family tradition to hold all as equal before God and the law. My mother made sure I knew the difference between historical feminism and the modern man-hating variety. I honor her for it.

TakMasaki · 2017-07-17T13:47:10+00:00

I was a feminist, then started using the r/feminism subreddit, which referred several times to this subreddit as basically evil incarnate. I decided I would check r/mensrights out, then after getting over the shock at how hated feminism is here, I realised that while feminism may tell truths, it often tells manipulative half-truths, and this subreddit helped me get closer to the truth. So ironically, it was feminism that red-pilled me.

MagicTampon · 2017-07-17T13:50:28+00:00

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ExpendableOne · 2017-07-17T15:39:57+00:00

I considered myself an egalitarian and a "feminism is about equality" person until I realized that feminism wasn't about equality, and that the vast majority of women were, if anything quite hostile to men in general, and that, like most issues affecting men, this was never addressed within feminism or by feminists. I stopped being a feminist when I realized that every issue, even the ones that affected men worse or far more negatively, were being framed in "how does it affect women" manner, which not only neglected every men's issue but also actively aimed to vilify men. Men and women in the feminist movements were all about absolving gender roles from women and protecting women from discrimination but would consistently and unanimously advocate for gender-roles being imposed on men(especially in dating/relationships) or advocating for discrimination against men. The more time I spent within the feminist movement, the more I realized that what women in the feminist movement considered major issues for women weren't really major issues at all(especially compared to what men are facing) or just blatant examples of misandry, fear or disdain for men(safe spaces or issues like menspreading/mensplaining are perfect examples). So, I stopped considering myself a feminist and just adopted the label of egalitarian.

TLDR: Feminism is not about equality.

interstate-15 · 2017-07-17T05:23:32+00:00

Nope. I've never believed in feminism, because its stupid to just promote "equality" for one gender. Either you're for equality or not, it's pretty simple.

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Lethn · 2017-07-17T10:26:33+00:00

Had you asked me when I was a teenager I probably wouldn't have necessarily 'identified' with feminism but agreed with the traditional ideas of it 'women's equality' and so on. However now because I actually researched the kinds of people who identified as feminists and been branded an MRA rape apologist by anti-capitalists and feminists who worship Islam which goes against everything feminism stands for I'm pretty much their sworn enemy.

Checking out the actual positions of MRAs and talking to them simply only solidified my stance against feminists and anti-capitalists and gave me more of a reason to fight them.

KDulius · 2017-07-17T12:14:21+00:00

I was never a Feminist because for as long as I can remember I saw a disconnect between the claims and the reality.

My first encounter of 3rd wave feminism was someone who had the MSN Messenger screen name "What's that useless piece of flesh attached to a penis? A man!" and my friend defend her as not hating men, despite.. you know, thinking men are useless.

I only recently really became an MRA after finding out how fucked the law is here in the UK first hand

double-happiness · 2017-07-17T12:35:28+00:00

It seems OP has deleted their account? In any case...

I was a feminist for over 20 years. I started to have misgivings when I attended a women's conference at a British Psychological Society annual conference in the early '90s. A feminist speaker stated that anything that made men angry was a good thing because it was (words to the effect of) 'one in the eye' for the patriarchy.

Subsequent to that I studied for a master's degree in sociology, and took courses in 'Gender, Science and Technology', and 'Sociology of Masculinity'. To be fair, my department did not really have a noticeable pro-feminist bias, and all in all these course left me less certain about my feminist orientation. A 'hot topic' in the field at that time was the 'crisis of masculinity', and I began to feel that things were not nearly as advantageous for men as I had previously imagined. In fact, despite making up only 10% of my undergraduate group, males had scored 50% of the lower-ranked 2:2 degrees, while females took 100% of the firsts. Subsequent to completing my degree I commenced teacher training, and three years work as a teacher and lecturer, during which time I realised that boys and young men were generally falling far behind in education.

I should mention that around this time I experienced a number of my male friends being subject to domestic violence at the hands of women, including one violent assault I was present for; a female friend of mine throwing a coffee table loaded with drinks at her boyfriend as he sat in his chair; a woman I know punching her boyfriend because he 'talked to her the wrong way'; and another woman I know apparently making a habit of hitting or punching her boyfriend awake in the mornings because she felt he was not motivated enough in his job-seeking.

During this time I began to read on gender studies extensively, including a certain amount of 'queer theory', and actually ended up complaining to my local library that the relevant section was marked 'women's studies', in spite of holding many books of relevance to men. Once I finally read The Myth of Male Power, any final vestiges of my previous feminist identity crumbled completely.

I should also mention that I have never been in the least encouraged to be a male feminist by my many female friends' choice of partners. In my experience while one might think that being a feminist would be a positive attribute if you would like to go out with a left-leaning, liberal, intelligent woman, in fact the men that they date are not in the least feminist, and displaying bisexuality, androgyny, sensitivity to 'women's issues', or feminist leanings is more likely to leave you in the 'friend-zone', while IME young feminist women often seem to prefer to sleep with arrogant and apolitical men known these days as 'chads'.

ifallalot · 2017-07-18T03:19:01+00:00

I never was. I was born in 1980 so all I ever saw was either equality or girls having a leg up on boys. I watched Title IX destroy athletic departments nationwide, and by the time I was an adult and had a son, I saw how the education system is now wholly skewed towards females while it was only partially so when I was in school. Even at my most leftist state in the years immediately following college I never bought into the Feminist bullshit

HeForeverBleeds · 2017-07-17T05:54:32+00:00

I was never a feminist, and even as a child I didn't buy into the male privilege myth. When I was 5-years-old, I heard the judge say "children belong with their mothers" before giving my abusive and previously-convicted mother full custody of me

I grew up with an active member of the female pedophile community, regularly saw various women abuse boys of various ages (usually their own sons, or the other women's), but then heard about nothing but how "nearly all child molesters are men" and sexual violence is something men / boys don't live in fear of

Before I learned how to count to 20, I recognized that there was a dissonance between how society perceived the issue of abuse and violence (namely that it's a male perpetrator / female victim thing) and the reality of who the perpetrators and victims of abuse were

As I got older, I learned that the disparity I witnessed wasn't limited to sexual violence but that there were many issues males faced (domestic violence, genital mutilation, unhealthy prison environment, poverty / homelessness, education) that were treated as women's issues despite them affecting males equally as much if not more so

ISOanexplanation · 2017-07-17T16:35:06+00:00

I've needed multiple epiphanies in order to completely shed my feminist tendencies. After thirty years of claiming feminism as a logical plank in my overall progressive politics I was hidebound in my belief that women always have everything harder than men. It simply came with the territory, where any perceived underdog was accorded a wide range of extra assistance in the form of handouts, leg-ups and forgivenesses.

I think the first chink in my feminist armor was probably Lorena Bobbit's trial. I watched how it went from the first excuse she told police, "I did it because he would orgasm and fall asleep without making me orgasm," to where Gloria Allred showed up and suddenly a clearly mutually abusive relationship became a history of her being raped. The crowd of feminists outside the courthouse celebrating with cocktail wieners and ketchup was some of the most awful and awfully ignored public behavior I'd ever seen.

At about age 45 I had some serious injuries/surgeries/time-off-work and I spent that time educating myself about DV and the secret fact that women physically abuse men as much as men abuse women. That resulted in many more scales falling from my eyes. It helped that I was fresh out of a marriage to a woman who'd become so emotionally abusive I was considering suicide. I believe she felt licensed to rage on me constantly at least partly from the fact that she would watch feminist daytime TV all the time while I was at work. You know, stuff like Oprah telling her she had the hardest job in the world.

Since then I learned that the wage gap is an earnings gap and has zero oppression of women behind it. I also learned that even rape isn't nearly the gendered crime I'd always believed it to be. I'm extremely grateful to the MRM for uncovering these statistics and will continue to put them on blast in my personal life whenever feminism comes up. No matter how many friends I lose. The truth is more important to me than they are.

missmaykdh · 2017-07-17T17:12:40+00:00

I always tried finding my place in all of this. I never really agreed with feminism because of the way it's portrayed by (no offense and only in my eyes) crazy people overdoing it. Personally I have never ever felt belittled for being female. Yes once in a while you get cat called or called rude things, but I never felt too uncomfortable and I'd mostly just accepted this as a fact that some people in this world are just jerks.

Honestly I've only felt benefits by being a female. I got told that it's easier for me to find a job because im a woman. I get some male attention here and there. Not that much. I get the honor of rocking make up and crazy hair without people thinking weird of me. Most women has the upper hand when it comes to kids and divorces. In the country I'm in I can't even work a full time job when I'll have kids and my husband (then) would have to do all the work and j stay at home and clean etc. And honestly that doesn't sound too bad at all.

But I came across the way men have it. From alot of complaining from my current lovely boyfriend and some posts blogs and documentaries. And seeing it first hand with my own parents and people being chosen for a job just because they are female.

I think it's brutal that feminist dare say they stand for equality and blame men.

Last word: the world needed women to fight when we couldn't vote. When we couldn't go out alone. Or when we couldn't drive cars. But men and women will never be the same. We have different needs and we all have it bad imo.

Please feel free to correct my opinion or statements. I am new to having an opinion because before I would just keep silent and just enjoy my own little life.

osashta · 2017-07-17T19:35:34+00:00

I was never much of a feminist. I think I perhaps said I was a few times just on the supposition that it meant I supported equal rights for ALL, but I was never hardcore. I am however, trans and bisexual, so I was commonly around people who fully embraced the fem train. Especially during college.

Amusingly enough, and unfortunately for them, it was their dismissive and aggressive attitudes towards men that first made me question things and seek out other points of view.

pobretano · 2017-07-17T21:11:33+00:00

I don't remember so much things about my road on human rights issues. I am more aligned with STEM, specifically Computer Science.

MY tortuous route, randomly following links about male issues in a series of blogs drove me to the Brazilian spinoff of A Voice For Men. From that I become more involved on it, commenting these issues (on Facebook primarily), becoming aware of the damn lies of feminist apologists, and posting some translation work on my personal blogs.

Now my primary motivation to fight for men's rights is the discriminatory laws on domestic violence. After some reading and thinking a lot how to be helpful to the movement, I decided to take a College Entrance Test to study in a Law School here in my country. It will cost five hard years of my life, but I like to pursue next-to-insane idealisms...

RapeMatters · 2017-07-17T21:32:51+00:00

I was.

I was roofied (at least, one presumes it was a roofie, i was never tested because no one took it seriously, including me) by a woman and raped and left in some bushes about 20 miles from my home. I didn't even know I had been raped at the time - because I didn't have any knowledge that I could be raped. I am, after all, a man. I had nightmares and mental issues following it, but I didn't know why.

It was, ironically, during an argument somewhere else between an MRA and a feminist, where I took the feminist's side that men don't have to fear rape (that's a little ironic in retrospect) and talked about how it's "all different" and "men don't have to worry about rape".

In a multi-day argument, I was eventually convinced that, hey, maybe being drugged and then made to have sex against my will IS rape, and that makes me a rape victim. This was, ironically, the one place where the feminist and the MRA agreed - except the MRA said it was common, and the feminist basically said it was like being hit by a meteor, but it does happen sometimes.

So I started researching. I found studies that showed that men are raped at rates not significantly different from women (as in, within the margin of error, at least among adults) and most of the perpetrators are female.

So, I tried to share this information with my feminist friends along with my experience. Bad move. There were wild accusations of "diminishing women's experiences" and "trying to defend violence against women" and "women don't rape men because you can't rape the willing".

And yes, those were from the feminist friends, including the last one, not the general population.

Nevertheless, I persisted. It escalated from there.

Apparently, bringing up these statistics were "misogynist" and "would be used to remove help from women" and who knows what else. Then I couldn't be a feminist while spouting hatred against women and everything.

And all I was bringing up is how men are frequently raped by women and no one gives a damn, and the numbers prove it, and I'm living walking breathing proof. For that, I was viciously attacked by every feminist I've ever known except 2.

So yeah, that sort of changed my mind about feminism. Except, that made me go from "feminist" to "not a feminist". I still wasn't hostile towards feminism because equal rights are what I care about.

Then I kept researching, and I found out about Mary Koss and feminist academia's complicity in specifically and purposefully hiding the fact that men are raped by women using squirrely definitions after one study which DID use gender neutral terms found roughly equal victimization. It went from "feminism has a blind spot" to "feminism sees perfectly well - it just wants to make sure I can never get justice".

I sort of became hostile after that, at least towards the movement. I'm hostile not because I'm against equality, but because I'm for it.

Not all feminists are this way. I've seen a couple of exceptions. However, the movement as a whole is specifically and deliberately protecting rapists and domestic abusers.

I'm against that.

Taxus_Calyx · 2017-07-17T23:12:42+00:00

I thought I was a feminist kind of, not as an activist, but in principle. Then, I had a feminist fiancee who would hit me and kick me and bite me and throw sharp, heavy things at my head. That, and one other thing led me to be more anti-feminist. The other thing was that a few years ago I decided to join the social media phenomenon. I got a Facebook account and a Quora account and quickly found out that lots of feminists were literally in favor of systematic oppression of males.

I remember someone on Quora calling me an MRA and I was like, "a what"? She told me it meant men's rights activist, and proceeded to tell me how horrible every single MRA was, and that I was one too, whether I knew it or not. I was amazed that the name of a group that advocates for equal rights based on gender was so widely being used as an actual epithet in our times. As if it is worse to be a human rights advocate than to be a dipshit, an asshole, a cunt, a dickhead or even a motherfucker! Thats when I realized everything was backwards and upside down. Feminism is out of control. I also think we need to be careful not to go down the same road as feminism. Too many people here are already just as sexist and divisive as feminists, only in the other direction. Equal rights for both sexes!

rg57 · 2017-07-17T23:50:24+00:00

I thought I was a feminist. It wasn't something that I gave a great deal of thought to. It's just the narrative that you're fed: women and girls are in trouble, so we have to stop MRAs and help women.

But when ElevatorGate and Atheism+ happened, that's when my eyes were opened to what was going on, and I came here to check out what MRAs were saying. Over time, based on the behavior of MRAs vs feminists, and based on the arguments of MRAs vs feminists, I became anti-feminist. It is clear which side pays attention to the data, and it is clear which side is coming from a place of compassion.

It's sad that now, most of the online resources on ElevatorGate still spin the feminist narrative, despite the fact that it led to the end of organized atheism online, and has had offline effects as well as manifested in lower turnout at atheist events.

It's worth noting that there is no evidence that the man Rebecca accused even existed at all.

Hannyu · 2017-07-18T05:45:58+00:00

Not really. I was taught equality and respect, be it for man or woman. Growing up I saw on a regular basis the difference in status men and women have in society. Women being placed on pedistals and treated like princesses, men being treated as there to serve them, disposable. I had girls in class be hostile to me for being one of the top in my class with little effort - and not just because I didn't have to work for it, but because they acted like I was taking away from them by not being stupid. I saw it when my parents divorced, and when many of my classmates had parents divorce. Their moms demonizing their dads. My mom demonizing mine, even lying saying that he had hit her - which never happened and I've corrected some of the people who believed that lie now that I'm older and told them what a nutcase my mom actually is. The look of shock on their faces was priceless. It's like it never occured to them that a woman might lie. I grew up in the time modern feminism matured into the monster that it is now, saw what it was first hand vs what it claimed to be, and knew it was a lie, just like a cult.

The racial divide that has really re-emerged since the first Obama election really helped being it into focus. I realized all the things I was called for not voting for him were the same type of arguments women used against me for being male (I didn't even know what the guy looked like until I was called a racist for not voting for him. I didn't like his policies, he was an unproven politician, had nothing to do with his race). It helped take a mess of anecodtal experiences and give me a way to reference them against an issue I understood in a more concrete way.

I happened to find this sub when I joined reddit, just looking for some guy-centric subs, and got exposed to a few new issues, but really got to see just how many men are impacted by the issues I already knew about. I saw that it wasn't just my anecdotal outlier, it's a systemstic cultural problem. Having two boys of my own now, I started thinking about how stacked against them our society is and have started to learn more about the issues they'll face in an even more feminist society than I grew up with so that I can help prepare them and hopefully help them navigate through it and be successful.

HumblePig · 2017-07-18T07:48:05+00:00

Yup. Worked in the Domestic Violence business and realized how much the so called victims are perpetrators or scammers demanding cash and support by virtue of being female and/or having kids, and that the other party was wrong for being male. Got calls from male victims who deserved help as much as the actual female victims we helped, but to whom services were limited because the grant money wasn't there for them. Saw the Dulith model in group therapy sessions.

First found girlwriteswhat in 2012 after sitting down to watch one of Sarkesian's videos and expecting to agree with her because I liked games and wanted to remind myself after a particularly bad case of Pussy Pass at work that girls DO get a rough shake in media. Finding myself annoyed at Sarkesian's failure to make a valid point primed meto go listen to an opposing view on Youtube, and found the men's rights movement off of her.

Realized what I was trying to remind myself of, the idea of modern Western society being biased against women, was just training from childhood through college that I wanted to reinforce, like a kid wanting to believe in Santa before accepting it. The difference is I'm glad I believed in Santa because I had fun with it and still appreciate the idea he represents. With feminism I think I got suckered into feeling like I was a strong and good person for helping poor victims of some kind of near all powerful force.

TakMasaki · 2017-07-17T13:47:11+00:00

I was a feminist, then started using the r/feminism subreddit, which referred several times to this subreddit as basically evil incarnate. I decided I would check r/mensrights out, then after getting over the shock at how hated feminism is here, I realised that while feminism may tell truths, it often tells manipulative half-truths, and this subreddit helped me get closer to the truth. So ironically, it was feminism that red-pilled me.

rocelot7 · 2017-07-17T14:49:46+00:00

Not really. I would've more been "I'm not a feminist, but I support womens rights." And hold that it was only modern feminism that has went off the reservation. A very weaselly position. It wasn't until I started doing some research on youth rights and compulsory education that I for some reason came across Warren Farrell. After reading up on his work I eventual stumbled across one of Karen Straughn(?)'s video. Even then it took me a while till I could admit to being a MRA.

n_surf · 2017-07-17T16:16:24+00:00

I wasnt a hardcore feminists but I was into this bluepilled state of "treat women nicely. Protect women. Women are always second hand Citizens. Help change that" until my parents divorced and they started arguing about money and my mother became a malicious bitch to drain my father. After this injustice I started changing (3 years ago) then recently watched The Red Pill and understood the many issues us men have and how nobody will talk about them.

I love equality. I do. Therefore, there's parts of MRM and Feminsim I support (Not all points feminism makes is stupid. Even if many many....many feminists are pure cancer), but I feel like I'm better off supporting the cause that is demonized.

LateralThinker13 · 2017-07-17T19:11:48+00:00

I leaned left, but was never a true feminist, when younger. What kept me from embracing these ideologies is that my father taught me rationality and logic. Nothing was sacred, nothing was unquestionable. He's not a rebel at all - he's a beta conformist - but he encourages rigor of thought and asking why for everything by his children. So I did.

And when things like feminism can't answer some questions, and in fact can't even defend their own points rationally without instead attacking the questioner, I found that I naturally moved towards those positions that were rationally-based.

Red_Raven · 2017-07-18T00:30:11+00:00

I called myself a feminist for a few months when feminism first came to Tumblr and it was a little bit sane. I believed some things which have been debunked now and I bought the "feminism is for men too" thing. I also didn't know how many issues we men face, and gay marriage either wasn't legal yet or was just made legal.

I changed my mind when I started seeing more "fuck those stupid men!" type posts online. I dropped the label and got more and more red pilled over time. Gamer Gate, The Red Pill, The Honey Badgers, and so many more. I refuse to hate myself.

BaileysBaileys · 2017-07-17T19:33:42+00:00

I am still a feminist, and just like I've always done, still working mostly on men's rights. In respect of the MRA community I also call myself an MRA now.

Title	Were you a feminist or associated yourself with feminism, before becoming an MRA (or a non-feminist? If yes, what changed your mind?
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