Been separated for some time after an 18+ year marriage. Don’t need to go into details but it’s the usual stuff we’ve faced. I was married to an enabler selfish person who only thought of herself first, kids second, career third and husband twelfth.

Recently got a text saying “who is M” randomly one day from the stbx. Turns out the name of X is a pseudonym that this girl uses only on social media. I haven’t seen this girl since high school over 25 years ago. One I never ever dated either. Turned out the stbx was threatened by how often this girl liked my FB statuses (usually pics of my kids). So, I took it as a cue. I reached out to M directly and suddenly here we were meeting up at an event she had an extra ticket for (party of 8). It was just fun times and some catching up. Nothing more that night.

The next time we met, it was pure energy. Two broken souls who endlessly give to others now were beside one another. It wasn’t awkward at all. Dinner was good. The sex was hotter.

After living in a r/deadbedroom for so long I even had a little trouble fully rising to the occasion at first. Her kind spirit never broke stride and completely rocked my world. Then again. Then we cuddled and fell asleep. It was pure bliss.

None of this would’ve happened if my stbx didn’t start trouble.

Guys, you never know where you’ll find the next one. She may be part of your past. Stay strong, brothers.