becoming a ladies man-post divorce

capnjackstation · 2023-02-23T09:23:43+00:00

That’s my boy whatamoniker1. Dive into the pool the water is just fine.

FrankFranklin1971 · 2023-02-20T08:50:12+00:00

Don't jump back in too quickly. A friend of mine going through a divorce was showing me a couple of girls he was talking to online that we knew back in the day & it was kinda cringe. He was talking about how he'll be divorced soon & they should hook up or whatever. Their responses were very bland & telling. He was/is still in the fog of breaking up & just couldn't see it. Was just excited to get any interaction ( I did the same thing when it happened to me). They were just being nice to him, minimal chance of anything developing which is actually probably a good thing. They would eat him alive right now. He absolutely should not be seeing anyone right now. He was sloppy drunk & I happened to be at same bday party & gave him a ride home. I have a feeling it's gotta get worse before better. It wasn't the time to say anything, not sure even how to. He's one of those guys that can't be alone it seems. This is his 2nd divorce.

Jasey_Cones · 2023-02-20T04:51:55+00:00

I don't get it. You mentioned men in the post and ended it with them throwing their pussy at you. Is this some pro trans post?

david10277 · 2023-02-20T03:18:28+00:00

I'm almost thru my 2yr divorce proceedings Its emotionally tough ..Post divorce ..im Not interested in any serious relationship.

Sugar babies is the best middle ground I have found I have the same kind of arrangement . I give mine a allowance (that's the term) per meet up and it's perfect. We hang out for 3 to 4 hrs every weekend . We grab some food at a nice bar..order food, hang have fun, totally safe place to vet a little and because she doesn't know me personally there are no repercussions.

I tell her about my stupid sxbx and we laugh at her along with my future plans. Since I'm much order than her she enjoys learning about my travels, food, how I make money etc etc. We dont talk in the week just make plans on Thursday on which day we will hang and the time.

Interestingly I just enjoy the company and it's amazing who you can hang and talk about so many other things and nothing too heavy. Example my lady date we found a bar, I educated her on drinks , we tried a few then talked about how her week at work was and mine was. Then we had drinks with someone sat next to us. Really fun just to vibe and hang we have great sexual chemistry so it always leads to a good night.

After a great hang and drinking She takes me back to her place fucks and sucks me. Just like a girlfriend for 2 hrs . I finish anywhere I want.. ( I got a vasectomy)

It's a great way to release all the stress ..literally 🤣 Sugar babies have been my lifesaver. Escorts are a different level of whores. That's all they do.. Sugar babies work or go to school, mine works full time and I see her when shes off.

Find one using sugardaddy meets. Vet a few and tell them what your looking for and eventually you will find someone that fits your lifestyle and budget.

I didn't want a girlfriend and I dont want to fuck a new girl everytime since that takes alotta dates and getting to know them bullshit.

My sugar baby is 21 yrs old and loves I have life experience. You must learn to keep it fun and casual. Younger girls just want to keep it light and fun...no heavy talks , dont get into her life goals etc..just be you and if your interesting she will enjoy the compant. I also told her we are not exclusive and she can still go out and have fun, since shes only 21..Yes it cost money but it totally worth it so far. If I was dating someone I would still need to cover the food and dining and then deal with all the emotional bullshit.. When all you really want is some good company and a nice young tight female with no strings attached to get on top off.. let's me honest.

My breakdown: Escorts = whores full time - zero chemistry needed, you dont hang , you pump and dump. Older girls

Sugar baby=whores part time - chemistry built, you hang out and do shit , sex is the outcome , alot of younger secret college girls do this for extra money.

Girlfriend = 💀 emotional bullshit , call me tomorrow, you dont remember it's my birthday ..bullshit

Wife = ⛔🚫☠❌ we all know this is poison

vector5633 · 2023-02-20T00:11:55+00:00

I'm two years HAPPILY divorced! I left that POS Cunt! A year before I filed for divorce I got back in the gym and started to get in shape again. Divorced that POS stayed in the gym everyday for hours. Went out with friends, went out alone to my local spot and the body count started to increase again. I have a steady FWB now. She knows this is just sex, nothing more, no feelings no nothing, just sex.

I found that as soon as I got in shape and was divorced women started to notice me more. I'm a good looking guy, at least that's what the women tell me. I'm easy to talk too, they all love my smile and eyes. It's so much different now then when I was married. I was not appreciated and I was not complemented by my now XW for getting back in shape. She was actually jealous of me. I was working on myself to be a better man, husband, father. Still it takes two to tango and she was not doing anything to make the marriage better.

Now, when I don't have my kids I go out with friends or alone. Make new friends, meet ladies have fun with them no strings attached. I got back into my hobbies, bass guitar and DJing. I have a great career, but still recovering from the financial hit I took because of the divorce.

What I want to tell you men that are just starting out with the fucked up divorce process is that, THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!!! You just have to get there. Focus on yourself and get your asses in the gym! Get in shape, take care of your mental and physical well-being. Also, if you have kids, focus on them too. You will get past the shit show, we all do! You're getting a 2nd chance at life after you leave that POS STBXW of yours behind. Live it, live it well and enjoy yourself!

Take care of you body and mind, if you look good, you feel good, if you feel good, you feel confident! It's all natural. I am speaking from experience. As I am typing this, I am getting ready to hit my local spot and have a glass of wine at the bar and BS with everyone. I'm a regular there.

Always be yourself! Don't be a cocky asshole. That's going to get you shit! I know a lot of us here have been jaded by the system and have different feelings towards women. Don't treat them like shit, but don't simp either. Have your fun with them and for the the fucking love of God....DON'T EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN!!!!

I will no longer get involved in any serious relationship with any woman. Fuck that!!! I love my freedom and I don't need anyone bitching at me. I'm rebuilding my life and co-parenting my kids. No time for any serious relationships.

Make your 2nd chance at life a kick ass story in your book of life!

Be STRONG! You will make it, I promise you!

Small-University-875 · 2023-02-19T21:47:12+00:00

Recently divorced, started hitting the gym hard and working on myself. I think my lack of confidence is what ruins my shot because I don't have the balls to approach girls usually. Downloaded tinder for the hell of it and got a kill this past weekend. She's pretty fresh out of a long relationship herself, and the sex was fucking awesome. My ex was very vanilla and my first time with this chick I did several things I've always wanted to try that I figured I was going to die without ever doing lol.

Alatornio · 2023-02-19T19:39:24+00:00

It's easy to find women. It's hard to find good women. I don't even try much anymore because I feel nothing from any of them.

FindingMyPrivates · 2023-02-19T18:07:39+00:00

I’m almost done with a divorce and I also experienced this. Idk I had the opposite effect shits awful seeing how easy some women are. At least in bars. Maybe I’m still feeling screwed by the stbx. Need some more me time before I feel your way. Good on you for getting there though. I need get outta my head too.

heatbender · 2023-02-19T17:54:46+00:00

You are so right and I learned it the hard way. I was "the nice guy" with the first ladies I met and it didnt go well, I wasnt even able to get a hug sometimes, and it felt akward for them and for me. I listened to their lifes and issues, offered comprehension, tried to sheer them up, telled everything about me (for them to know my good intentions) and it always killed the mood. And it hitted me twice because I dicovered later they did find me attractive and cool.

The thing is, when you end a marriage were you are only told you make everything wrong and that "is the reason why she cheated". You tend to be very cautious, shy and devaluate yourself in new dates. This is wrong.

The psicologist said to me "A man showing respect will not also be showing sexual intent". "you need to offer consideration which, it wont kill the mood"

Old_Ad8951 · 2023-02-19T17:50:37+00:00

It's nice to read positive posts here. Thanks

Least_Winter9632 · 2023-02-19T15:49:23+00:00

I absolutely love this post! Same situation here. I don’t have to run some game to get women, just be myself. I’m relatively good looking, nice, easy to talk to and most importantly from the female perspective…I have a great job. Cheers to you OP.

I’ve found the karaoke bars to be pretty damn reliable. Listen to them sing, tell them how good they are.

MNCPA · 2023-02-19T14:55:10+00:00

See, here is the little secret about divorces when your ex-wife was the cheater -> You are a good person. Actually, you are a great person.

Think about it like this -> you were able to withstand the abuses of your ex and you still didn't step out on your marriage. That's some next level mental strength.

Also, spot on, you are the ladies man. You know what it takes to be a great husband and father. You just hitched your wagon to a horse that likes to pull other wagons. That hitch is gone, and what's left? a great potential partner and father figure.

gronk4198 · 2023-02-19T12:24:14+00:00

I'm 9 years out from split with miserable ex and loving life, stress levels way down, work success is all time high and the quantity and calibre of much younger women I date is off the charts. Everything about ditching the ex has been wonderful so far. I wish i realised this much earlier in my life but there is absolutely nothing a "wife" can bring to your life that cannot be outsourced - cheaper and without the headache!!!

Title	becoming a ladies man-post divorce
Author	whatamoniker1
Upvotes	41
Comments	35
Date	February 19, 2023 10:45 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1167klo/becoming_a_ladies_manpost_divorce/
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