STBXW has been out of the house for almost two months and it feels great to enforce boundaries.

She cheated with a co-worker but tries to act like nothing happened. She wants the benefits of our old married life along with being a single woman.

I've told her we can communicate about the kids but please don't text me about anything else. I'm not interested in your feelings and I'm absolutely not sharing mine with her.

Our oldest turns 20 next month, next one will be 18 in July, and we have a 13 year old. All three live with me.

I've been allowing her to stop by and see the kids. She can't force the oldest two to see her because one is an adult and the other one is about to be.

However, I'm not a fan of her stopping by to cook dinner and told her last night that if she wants to cook dinner, she can do it at her apartment and invite the kids over.

When she told me she wanted a divorce - prior to me finding the affair - she told me she just wanted to be alone and be by herself.

So I'm going to hold her to that and help her with that. I'll remain professional and cordial with her but I'm not going to be her friend or her shoulder to cry on. That died when she broke her vows.