Fell for a rebound. Its over

redditrock56 · 2026-03-02T01:43:56+00:00

"We had CRAZY chemistry but our life goals dont line up and we ended things officially last night"

Couldn't you have kept some type of relationship going? Not everything has to be a long term plan for marriage. Seems to me you could have kept it fun. Maybe call her back and give it another go. Just don't take her too seriously, just have fun.

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-28T19:42:01+00:00

> I'm coming to the realization that this was nothing more than me being way too vulnerable and have not put in the work on myself I need yet.

Precisely. You need about a year once divorce is final to finish reconstruction and get your head screwed on right. I go into detail here about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/ogjhm0/wait_at_least_one_year_after_divorce_before_dating/

Virtual-Mixture8381 · 2026-02-28T03:18:37+00:00

Don’t always buy the personality. Girls are good at crafting a fake one to woo a guy over. For whatever means.

Par_then_Bar · 2026-02-27T14:55:33+00:00

Dude be happy!! This is a best case scenario. Women like that are nothing but trouble and your heartache would've been 10x worse down the road when she left or cheated on you. This is a big confidence booster and proof that you are worthy of love and attention from a beautiful woman. Now take that energy, go out there, and be SELECTIVE on who you spend more than 14 days time with. Well done sir

2026-02-27T12:05:51+00:00

Not in my case. There will never be anyone else.

Chemical-Eye-1828 · 2026-02-27T03:17:05+00:00

You nailed it. Take the time to work on yourself and get back to your best self. Use this period as a catalyst for self transformation. Avoid carrying your issues into your next relationship by focusing on owning your mistakes instead. Best of luck you got this!

upvotersfortruth · 2026-02-27T00:51:06+00:00

Never marry your rebound. Other than that, just be as safe and smart as you can muster given your emotional state on any given day.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2026-02-26T23:46:24+00:00

8 months later I fell for a girl, 14 years younger. She was fantastic in every way, sadly an avoidant, with a lot of traumas. When she left out of the blue, it really shook me up.

I experience a great feeling of loss still, beacuse she left with no clarity or closure, but she did heal me in a way as I completely stopped caring about my ex. Showed me I can care about someone again.

It was nice having a pretty, very passionate woman fall asleep next to me and wake up in the morning with me for a month or so, after being unhappy and ignored in my marriage for the last 6 years.

CRobinsFly · 2026-02-26T23:14:12+00:00

Why are you being so critical of yourself?

Have fun, dont get them pregnant and you didnt do anything wrong.

Two suggestions: dont spend so much time with them. 10x in 14 days? That's way too much. Should have been like 4x max and you should have had sex each and every time at least once. Second, dont pull from the work pool man. You have to see these crazy women when you make money and they could destroy your life via work.

Women her age are my favorite because theyre at the transition point of realizing their clock is ticking and they typically behave better so as to not scare away one of the few remaining men.

dpatron · 2026-02-26T23:02:17+00:00

You went through stage 1. Right from the frying pan into the fire. Let me tell you the woman can smell it on you!! Blood is in the water. But let this be your realization that this experience is pure dopamine. Ive said it a million times. Women are the pipe we smoke dopamine from! There will be another when you are ready. Endless supply out there.

lostpassword100000 · 2026-02-26T22:34:24+00:00

It’s easy to do when someone pays attention to you. It happened to me. Met a gorgeous blonde who was successful, took care of herself, and a lot of fun to be with.

It was clear we weren’t meant to be even though she desperately wanted to be together.

ShaunyP_OKC · 2026-02-26T22:32:13+00:00

No need to beat yourself up. You're gonna do it again with someone different and that's ok.

PurchaseOk4075 · 2026-02-26T21:43:30+00:00

Life is short , live it . You are not sitting around so don’t be too hard on yourself.

retired337 · 2026-02-26T21:36:42+00:00

I was once told that most divorced people get with someone afterwards for one of three reasons - substitution, desperation or convenience.

StAsBy52 · 2026-02-26T21:02:55+00:00

Rebounds generally never good either way. Think a year best to wait, both sides. If exes get mentioned (even negatively) something still sint healed, unless.they share kids etc.

dystinct · 2026-02-26T19:02:57+00:00

Uggh. Just broke it off with a woman 12 years younger. It hurts but it was the right thing to do. I think what pains me the most is how harsh I allowed myself to be. No conversation just a text saying it’s been fun and to take care of herself. I feel like an ass just typing this out.

wparo · 2026-02-26T18:52:31+00:00

I met the girl I'm with now a month after my wife moved out, but 6 months after we officially separated. But my ex and I hadn't had sex in nearly 2 years, so I was ready to find someone.

duck_duck_mallard · 2026-02-26T18:46:56+00:00

Came here to see this .. I’m dealing with a similar thing. Due to the “hunger” of emotional and physical connection I latch on this way.

engineered-chemistry · 2026-02-26T18:31:30+00:00

Same thing with a coworker. 18 years younger, we dated for 6 months. Legitimately it was a lot of fun but we both knew it wasn’t sustainable. The chemistry was 🔥

Title	Fell for a rebound. Its over
Author	MaximumIll7812
Upvotes	41
Comments	38
Date	February 26, 2026 6:26 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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