We’re currently separated not yet divorced so there’s been no division of assets.

We separated about a year ago. Our relationship and marriage just continue to go downhill for years. We were sleeping in separate rooms for the last three years of our marriage. Intimacy was almost nonexistent. We were more roommates than anything else. Overtime, her controlling behavior became too much to handle. I tried to make it work recommended couples counseling, but she never took it seriously. She would blow up inconveniences like washing the clothes or being a few minutes late to a birthday party accuse me of doing these on purpose get a reaction from her, and constantly screaming at me for the kids passive aggressively’s texting me that she wants to separation or divorce. I have no reason to leave that there was anything like infidelity, and I don’t believe there. It it came to a point where I finally just accepted her request, and we separated.

What I thought was temporary seems to turn permanent. Initially, I moved in with my mom while things cool down she began restricting my time with the kids and eventually change the locks.

Here’s where we are today:

She gets to stay in the 3300 square-foot house with a $1000 mortgage payment. Well, I rent a three bedroom townhouse for $2400 a month. She keeps the minivan that I bought a couple years ago brand new for cash. Without her even asking, I sent $2000 a month to help with the kids, we have 50-50 custody.

But it wasn’t enough so I was serve papers today for child support.

What is wrong with these women? The whole system is set up against men.

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Update:

We haven’t filed yet but will be in the coming weeks.

The state mediator worksheet on child support said my obligation is $3042 a month, I was just hoping for a reasonable compromise.

I have an attorney and we will be working through the assets at the divorce settlement.

I am in NC and the law states we have to be physically separated for a year before filling for divorce. It’s a pain in the ass.

I have kept every record of all the shit she’s pulled. The judge at the temporary custody hearing called her out on limiting access. I’m trying to play it cool now but she about to get a reckoning. It’s just frustrating.