Just simply dreading Christmas alone .

IcyMycologist4837 · 2025-11-26T22:54:35+00:00

I slept in the first year. Messed around on the internet and played a few video games watched movies and called my family. Went for a hike. Next day back to normal. Oh! And reminded my self how much I hated spending time with my in laws on the holiday! That helps!

Haunting_Mango_408 · 2025-11-26T06:37:44+00:00

Plane tickets are usually cheap on Christmas Day. Take a trip! If you can make it international, all the better! It doesn’t feel like the same kind of Christmas when in a plane or an airport…if you can’t go far because you only have that day off, then find a flight for a city you’ve wanted to visit, and back in the same day.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2025-11-23T16:53:27+00:00

It’s not that big if a deal. You need to give yourself a present and take yourself out.

JonathanApple · 2025-11-23T14:29:22+00:00

Just call it Tuesday or whatever and plow forward, at least what I do.

No-Boysenberry3045 · 2025-11-23T09:16:33+00:00

This is my second one. No, I don't have much Christmas spirit. I'm trying to be open-minded. It's not going to be as sad as the first one. The first one was quite painful.

I am alone for this one. And that could change. I am planning on volunteering somewhere on the holiday.

If you're struggling, you're not alone. I'm always available for DM.

It's nice to meet you all here.

LifeBeatsHard · 2025-11-23T08:10:13+00:00

Same boat here. 4 months into this endless desert of pain. I thought I would be much better by now, but still walking in darkness and no plans or dreams. First Xmas alone. I am a Christian and Xmas has always been special with all family around (or at least my ex-wife). I don't want it to lose its bright. But neither friends nor family around this year... I am already panicking, but I will take many of these suggestions and survive the day. Hopefully, we will all have a decent and blessed Xmas next year!

BrentlyGT · 2025-11-23T07:10:12+00:00

I personally just got used to it. the first couple were strange, it felt weird to not do anything at all. The day came and went and I got used to that, just another day that goes by, and life continued the next day. then I sort of stopped caring about holidays all together. eventually made it a thing again with a new circumstance. its just peaks and valleys

Ark161 · 2025-11-23T03:56:26+00:00

I'll tell you what I did last year; my first christmas alone. Give yourself grace, plan ahead if you can, but if not, that is okay. You will see you being alone as a failure. You will feel like a fuck up and probably go to a dark place. But you know what? You are here still, just going through a really shitty time. It is okay if you dont do anything for christmas. Or maybe make it a goal to decorate for yourself. get a cheap tree and put up all the decoration your spouse would be upset about. You wanna get drunk on eggnog? GO FOR IT. This will be my 2nd christmas alone, but I think I reached the point where I want to make it happy again. So im putting up the tree after thanksgiving, and will try to be happy for myself for how far I have come.

You will get there. I know it hurts and doesnt seem like it will ever be right, but eventually, maybe a few months, maybe a year or so, you will get there.

Lost_in_theSauce909 · 2025-11-23T03:21:33+00:00

Looking at this reality this year.. Going to be awful

1millionBURNINGsuns · 2025-11-23T01:40:04+00:00

Be Jewish for a day. Go get some Chinese food, watch a movie. Kick back. If you have actually Jewish friends even better and ask for an invite.

Either way, make a little general plan now and then stop thinking about it. Seriously plan and be done. The vicious self flagellating thoughts before the day become worse than the actual day. Give yourself the love of a little plan and then the gift of letting go of the worry.

lebonroidagobert · 2025-11-23T01:26:02+00:00

it’s not easy. try and do anything that day. play golf. drive somewhere you wanted to go. fly to see a friend. drive to see a friend. plan a big fun meal if you enjoy cooking. sending love bro.

Bran_Solo · 2025-11-23T01:25:29+00:00

Make sure you have plans. Try to be with someone else - whether that's joining another family for Christmas, going out for Chinese with someone who doesn't have family to visit (what I did last year) or volunteering.

Early on the alone moments are so hard. Reach out to me if you want to talk, or let me know if you want to join a whatsapp support group I am in.

Personal_Archer6638 · 2025-11-23T00:31:10+00:00

Give good food to the homeless

Hairy_Drummer_9648 · 2025-11-22T23:58:32+00:00

Yeah I’m with you mate, first one.

SurvivorFamilyCourt · 2025-11-22T23:43:53+00:00

When I am alone for the holidays - in the beginning it was tough. No it’s just another day. Enjoy doing nothing - watching a movie eating having a drink. Just stay in the moment. You’re alive healthy, have a place to live with all the conveniences of modern life. Don’t compare the holidays with the past. Enjoy the time off.

HolyBatUserName · 2025-11-22T23:09:53+00:00

Same. 95% chance I’ll be in an apartment alone. 4% chance I’ll be “home” with wife and kids, but just for the day. 1% chance of reconciliation. Sucks

t_odd_ · 2025-11-22T22:57:53+00:00

same

BathAutomatic6972 · 2025-11-22T22:26:57+00:00

Travel. Even if it’s across town.

After_Experience_764 · 2025-11-22T22:16:37+00:00

Please note: This isn’t advice of any kind, just me explaining what I did last year and what I thought about doing again. I’m not recommending this to anyone.

Last year was my first xmas on my own. I do get to spend time with my daughter a couple of days before xmas, we do our own xmas eve, presents, all of that, but the actual day itself hits hard. I’m not usually someone who drinks or uses anything, but I ended up making an exception. I had saved some things up over the year, and xmas morning i basically woke up, took what I had, put on the extended editions of The Lord of the Rings, and drifted in and out of sleep all day. It turned the day into something I didn’t have to think about. The next morning I went back to being a functioning human being and a dad.

Honestly, it all sucks either way. This was just the way I got through the day.

For my sins, i plan to repeat it again this xmas.

Ok-Trainer-4100 · 2025-11-22T22:15:52+00:00

Would be good but my work dictates I can't as I work some days over Christmas period .

survivingtheyellowbr · 2025-11-22T22:08:56+00:00

Take a trip..don’t stay home “ travel saves ur soul’

Title	Just simply dreading Christmas alone .
Author	Ok-Trainer-4100
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Date	November 22, 2025 10:00 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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