God, I feel so frustrated and have so much regrets about how I ended up here. Girlfriend getting pregnant when we weren't planning to have a kid at the time, we were still new into the relationship. But, we did the deed, took the responsibility and had our beautiful baby boy. I just wish I was smarter and had more time with her to know her and see this isn't a person I want to have kids with. We are different people with different hobbies and wants. We get along fine and do align in ways, but it feels like I can't be my true self with her as she's always wanting me to change little things about me that upset me because she doesn't really love me for me.

Then when discussing things about our soon to be child, we both agreed to work to provide a good combined income, be financially comfortable and be able to do the things we want to do as a family, for your self and for future plans. We also both thought day care would be good for him as he gets older and can play with kids and whatnot. Then the baby comes and we agreed to wait a few months before day care and her return to work, then she realllllly pushed for a few more months than that. Then we get to that point and she's fighting it completely and wanting to stay at home with him longer. I push back on it because on only my income, we are barely making it by and can't really save money. I'm working extra shifts and cut back on many things to save a teeny bit of money. But, it's a huge burden and stress on me that I explained very clearly and multiple times before and after the baby was here. She's refusing to work and wants to wait until at least 2 now. But, she'll push for longer as she's already moved the goal post multiple times already. I'm so stressed, worried and upset about this and doesn't seem to care too much. She just pushes what she wants. Ive been building a lot of resentment from this and us just not being similar in our views and ways of living. She brought up how she'll be a lot of resentment and also brought up divorce if she actually goes back to work and he goes to day care. So, either way it's fucked.

I even tried to compromise and ask for her to do part time and him part time day care because we'd be saving more money. She's not having it.

I just wish I was smarter and picked a partner who has ambitions to really work, help provide, driven to make her career more and just be a real team player. I'm beyond frustrated and I already know this whole relationship isn't gonna end well. I'm just venting with all this built up frustration, so forgive me for the long post.