It all blew up almost a year ago when I called her out on secretive behavior after she lost a bunch of weight on a GLP-1. She “flipped the switch” and was cold, unapologetic, and ruthless with the financial jabs.

She moved out in July. Divorce finalized last month. No kids.

Doing all the normal stuff…. gym, friends/family, work, motorcycles (my hobby), house projects (wooo I got to keep the house and not have to refinance).

I think the changing of the seasons here in CT is a trigger. We would walk the dogs (whom I no longer have). Also, a small trigger, she used to open up the garage door for me when i’d pull up on the motorcycle…. That’s no more obviously.

Is this a ”trauma bond”? I guess 10 years being with someone will do this, even if they were disgusting in the end.

I actually enjoyed the marriage…. up until all of this. It was a divorce I did not want, but need to accept that it‘s over.