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[–]lovebun999FDS Newbie87 points88 points89 points 6 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
But really they’re not 38... they are 45 lol
[–]vereelimeeFDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even worse when the profile has a younger age and then right beneath "haha I'm actually 10 years older".
As if you didn't rule them out already from the photo. They never look close to the age they are trying to pass.
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[–]heliodromeFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was browsing a couple years ago thinking, wow. these men aged terribly. Wtf is going on?
[–]22Xsavage1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or in my case fucking 49 and turning 50.
[–]--wellDAM--FDS Apprentice158 points159 points160 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Like bitch your sperm needs a cane, no
[–]Mandarina11FDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol, a bit too late for that buddy
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice24 points25 points26 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh, they post that shit so much older.
[–]coolestgirlyouevermeFDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I swipe no to this delusion
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]IcyMartinis15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Men generally have an idea of a vague future self that will be responsible and married with kids, but they figure future self will be ready and make all that happen and they can just kick back and relax until then. Not realizing that for future self to exist they have to take action themselves. I mean frankly many people are like this, male or female. Wanting to procrastinate big decisions is human. Unfortunately though, men especially are prone to this attitude with relationships because they simply do not experience the overwhelming biological time pressure we do as women. Even high value men who marry and provide for their wives and want kids can be prone to “let us actually wait a bit longer to marry” or “let’s start trying to have kids maybe in a couple months.” If he’s a good guy it doesn’t mean anything harmful other than that he’s a guy. But I strongly believe we as women should be on board fully with those needs and not be afraid to admit to wanting marriage and kids and not play down those desires and wait until he’s ready. A lot of the time men actually take their cues in all this from the woman he loves so if you confidently step forward at least mentally are fully committed to the process, often he will too.
So that is why you end up with guys who want kids “someday” and say “just looking for casual” on the same profile. That’s a problem for future him. Now generally I’d avoid guys who say casual because there are enough men out there looking for a wife who mean business. But in general if you encounter an otherwise good guy who is falling into the “future me” trap it’s okay to kind of give a little indirect nudge. No do not force a guy marriage and parenthood but you can be the one to set the example by confidently looking towards the future.
[–][deleted] 22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg yes. And they look for 24yos then get pissed 24yos want commitment too
[–]Elisa_LaViudaNegraFDS Newbie350 points351 points352 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I was looking through old emails the other day and I realized that my nightmare ex was constantly giving me mixed signals from the beginning. Demanding to know whether the male mutual friend who introduced the two of us had ever hooked up with me, while simultaneously saying he didn’t need to be in a relationship right now, then the next day demanding to know how I knew a list of five guy friends who followed me online. Then asking me for space for weeks at a time while texting me daily. No wonder I felt like a crazy person. The narcissism was on display had I but known the cycle. When I broke up with him, he cried like a baby and said he was going to propose to me at my college graduation. It was astonishing and crazy-making. I was so relieved and clear-headed once we broke up. Some men will literally poison your mind and not think twice about it if it gets them what they want.
[–]divdecFDS Apprentice102 points103 points104 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ugh this hurts to read. I bet if you had fell for his line about the proposal and taken him back he would’ve probably dumped you in a week once he had someone new on his arm. They just get off on dragging people into chaos. I’m glad you got away!!
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It did hurt to read. I've known my share of mixed signals and hearing women colleagues talk about mixed signals and they wait around to see if they are in a relationship walking on eggshells constantly.
Don't men say that all the time though...I'm not looking for anything serious.
[–]PoeticINFPFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How did you break up with him if he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship?
I’m not going to lie I’ve dated people I didn’t see a future with but I didn’t do all this to them. These guys are weirdos.
[–]greatcathyFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Willing to bet that proposal would never have happened
[–]thialsonFDS Newbie165 points166 points167 points 6 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
I had a guy who after I referred to him as my boyfriend in passing, absolutely lost his shit and exclaimed “Since when are we together?”. Even though he’d introduced me to his mum, stepdad, grandma, and invited me to 2 cookouts at his grandma’s house where all of his extended family were in attendance. He’d also talk about our future kids and how he’ll let me choose his next car when he gets a better job.
[–]blossombrothFDS Newbie99 points100 points101 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I had a guy take me to visit his family about 8 hours out of town, on the ride home he said something along the lines of "we're not ever going to be a couple, just thought I should let you know". I was so confused! Like why introduce someone to your parents if it's strictly casual? I'd love to know how the justify it in their heads.
At least we both dodged bullets!
[+]HornetKickFDS Newbie-9 points-8 points-7 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Meeting parents for my sister and I meant nothing. We just wanted our parents to be introduced to the guy we were seeing. It didn't mean we were going to marry them or even have a long term relationships. I've never understood when parent meetings meant a ring.
[–]thialsonFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Nobody thinks it points to marriage or a permanent relationship. But you don’t introduce someone to your family only to then turn around and tell said person you’re only keeping them around for sex.
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, women do think it's marriage and a permanent relationship, that's why I've gotten so many down votes. Women put more into a relationship than a guy does, I get it. The point is that it hurts regardless.
[–]blossombrothFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Why waste your parents time? If I was a parent I'd be confused on why my son is introducing a string of chicks to me when I don't really care who they are unless it's a proper relationship, so it would be a waste of my time bothering to get to know them. I certainly never introduce men to my parents until it's clear it's going to be serious and long term.
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Probably because I don't feel I'm wasting my parents time. It's not such an enormous event as you're making it out to be. Hello parents this is such and such I'm hanging out with. See?? nothing humongous about it. I was't asking for marriage by introductions, just hanging out. Who said anything about a string of anything??
[–]blossombrothFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao, you go, cool girl.
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry this happens a lot. There are no dos and donts.
[–]CreativeWriterNSpace2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It doesn't have to mean a ring. But for me, meeting anyone more permenant in my life (parents, friends, other family) is something.... Meant for someone more serious. I don't want to bring people in and out, so I only want to introduce people that could be even somewhat long-term.
[–]LionorasFDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While I didn't directly had that situation (only where I got close to a guy, and he completely broke connection after people joked we were like a couple), this reminds me heavily of all the poor souls in these magazines that asked "how do I know we're a couple yet?". Side by side with a lot of questions from guys, which were like "I know we/ I did [basically everything you said above] but how do I tell her I don't want us to be a couple?"
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Holy fuck. They're unbelievable.
[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They are sick in the head. So terrified of committing. Something better is right around the corner! r/bitter_sarcasm
[–]breadandbunnyFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wtf is wrong with men? I'm constantly fucking wondering.
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple170 points171 points172 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If you remove the wedding it would be a classic forever girlfriend's fate. Although it's true that some men don't even take the marriage vows seriously, so it doesn't matter much.
This is painfully accurate either way. Men are totally okay with having a convenient placeholder girlfriend that they could ditch any minute, but ends up keeping her free trial for the rest of their lives. Because that's more comfortable at the moment, indefinitely. Women, however, are expected to make lifelong commitments, sacrifices and even birth babies for this scrote while he doesn't even see her as a full-on long term partner. Always looking for greener pastures, a way out, loopholes, expecting relationship favors and loyal dedication from a woman, but not offering any of his own.
Please never be this forever placeholder, find someone who actually loves YOU and is eager to commit to you. You're not some disposable or replaceable convenience, you're a person worthy of respect.
[–]prunusamygdalisFDS Newbie49 points50 points51 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ahaha I learned this, dumped the fool, then dumped the next time waster too. BUH BYE SCROTES!
I'd much rather be single for life than do a single fuckin thing for a useless, timewasting, low effort, trash fire male. Would never let one get a kid on me either.
[–]ceilingkatwatchesusFDS Disciple18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im seriously thinking adoptation. I'm at the point where I don't see a need for man in my life. Just my cats and a child. I'll be happy either way and also I live in S.E. Asia where hiring a Nanny is extremely affordable over here. Also, Mental illness is hereditary in my family. It's like rolling the dice on who may get it and who may not get it. I don't want to put my child through what I see my little sister, brother, mom, uncles, grandmother all had and are going through.
[–]The_kilt_liftaFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I honestly think a lot of women (I’m guilty of this too) were so programmed since youth by our parents, culture, etc that a woman’s “worth” is directly related to receiving a ring or not. Or how we’re perceived when choosing to be single.
“Oh, don’t want to settle down and pick baby names with nice guy Tim? Probably because you’re a whore.”
We equate external forces with our value (proposals, whether we are committed to, etc), and everyone on earth wants to feel valuable.
“Wow, aunt Susie is a spinster! Must be something wrong with her.”
The more women we uplift out of pickmeshadom, and raise our sons and daughters to find value within themselves instead of assessing our value from the actions of others, the better off we are.
[–]Gaki-fan-too103 points104 points105 points 6 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
It would make sense if there was no marriage pic.
[–]PooPooMeeksFDS Newbie135 points136 points137 points 6 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
I think it makes sense, because guys will go as far as marrying you, and yet STILL, despite the holy vows and the ultimate gesture of true commitment that is marriage, treat the “‘till death do us part” the same as as a low value relationship. That’s why so many men get “bored” with their life partners and feel that they have a right to “jump ship,” even if they have kids, a “fused with by God wife” and other serious stuff they are responsible for.
...and yes,in case you’re wondering, it happened to me. ☹️🙏
EDIT: You ladies are AWESOME! I’m thankful for the camaraderie, but I’m pretty sure that some of the upvotes are coming from women who’ve been through this scenario too, whether you’ve gotten actually married or have been in a “common law marriage” or “wifey” situation. For those of you that are, I feel your pain 😢and you are NOT alone. We WILL get our minds right, and we WILL get through this!!! 🙏🤗
[–]Gaki-fan-too20 points21 points22 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm sorry that happened to you 🥺
[–]PooPooMeeksFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks so much love, I appreciate it 🤗🙏
[–]camichus2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It happened to me too. Was married for 9.5 years. He told me he was never really serious about having a future together after I found out about his affair with a co-worker of his. I left my home (I did not want to be in that space with all the memories and deceit). About three months after I left he told me he wanted me back and after jumping ship he realized he had "really fucked up a good thing." For once we were on the same page :)
[–]EmpressOfDanknessFDS Newbie80 points81 points82 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Oooof too true! I feel so bad about the women that carry and birth a man's children yet aren't good enough to be a wife in his eyes. I watched a tik tok the other day of a woman in this circumstance who begin counting her "days not engaged" on a bulletin board, updating it daily. Her boyfriend saw it every day but still did nothing about it. It was so sad.
NEVER have a man's children without a ring!!
[–]prunusamygdalisFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
At that point it's like why are you bothering? Why do you even want a coerced proposal?
Because she's afraid of being alone. Afraid of "not finding someone else." Until women take back their power and realize that relationships with low effort scrotes are NOT PREFERABLE OR MORE ENJOYABLE IN ANY WAY to being "alone," men will continue to be the worthless wastes of space they are.
[–]EmpressOfDanknessFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Preach, sis!
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
💯 it's out of fear of being by herself. She figures no one will want her as a single mom (if she decides to leave). But tbh yes it's better to be alone than deal with that BS
[–]eatapeach18FDS Apprentice27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While I hate men who date women indefinitely with zero intention to formally commit (ie: marriage), I think the woman counting her “days not engaged” and posting it on social media as a way to “light a fire” under her man’s ass is really sad. She should have just ended the relationship. Nagging a man to propose to you never works out long-term 😢
[–]ruby_radmuppetFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She should make a separate countdown: days until breakup.
[–]ObserveTheSpeedLawFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel this on a spiritual level! 🙄🙄🙄
[–]nocellphoneuseFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is too funny 🤣🤣🤣😂
[–]noavocadoshereFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
hey look, it's thomas middleditch.
[–]supersmallfeetFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol, shockingly, he and his wife just filed for divorce. But I thought you said sWiNgInG sAvEd mY mArRiAgE?
[–]PooPooMeeksFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂😆😂😆😂😆 SPOT ON!!!!!!!!!!!
[–]meme_femmeFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao hahahaha
[–]roverlover1111FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This would also be great in r/satire.
[–]priscamoyesa0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂 losers
[–]dcbarr50 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
TOO REAL
[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The damn truth. Funny, too.
[–]Caspian-seaFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know it's a satirical comic but -- that is so fucking creepy. Guess jokes about sociopaths are trendy again.
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