#Fact

German_girl97 · 2020-05-04T04:58:35+00:00

This really fucked with me. Had to continuously remind myself that he was a projection of his own reality.

LuckyCharmsLass · 2020-05-04T06:24:55+00:00

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ItsYesMaam2u · 2020-05-04T08:05:13+00:00

The first time I saw my ex cry I felt terrible. Here was this tall 6'4, broad man reduced to tears because I had apparently upset him so much.

By the fifth time, I was unmoved.

There's a difference between a man expressing his emotions and being vulnerable by crying in front of you, and just plain old manipulation. The speed in which those crocodile tears dried up after seeing what little effect they had, amazes me to this day.

holodeckdeathtrap · 2020-05-04T10:50:06+00:00

...the importance of letting go. Loving someone doesn't mean that you have to be in a relationship with them. Or save them. Or wait for them. Or stop acting with love and kindness towards yourself.

royaldetour · 2020-05-04T03:39:59+00:00

And they say women are duplicitous. Project much, scrote?

throwaway-786786 · 2020-05-04T07:28:45+00:00

Gosh, I still remember witnessing my first public break-up in our university Starbucks. I walked in to buy a coffee and there was this girl bawling her eyes out and the guy just sat there, so stoic. It freaked me out how he wasn't even reacting to her emotions or trying to comfort her. The attitude was just like "let her have her moment and then I'll leave"

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-05-04T03:47:42+00:00

My first heartbreak? It taught me that a man can be ugly as FUCK and still act like he's a player ass male model.

Facebook did that whole "this happened 9 years ago" shit and I looked at my ex from a decade ago and almost puked in my mouth a little. That MF was a solid 1/10, 2 on a good day. Love REALLY was blind and he treated me SO BADLY. SO BADLY.

Since then I've dated male models, ex-male models, soldiers, fitness instructors, athletes, former bodybuilders and none of them treated me as horribly as my ugly first ex. I mean these men were all 9's and 10s, with my ex-male model fiance being a solid 12. He was a full 10 years older than me and by god, he was sexy as fuck. The ugliest man I ever dated, my first ex, still treated me worse than ALL of my exes combined.

BabaAuRhumOhlala · 2020-05-04T13:42:40+00:00

You can get in horrible life situation and he’ll get upset at you for asking support, cry because you catching him in lie is lowering his self esteem and call you an abuser because he feels guilty of all the bad things he’s done to you. Then break up each time there’s a serious life situation going on for you and find a way to blame none other than you. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

cirrus_cloud · 2020-05-04T15:43:37+00:00

LVM will say LITERALLY ANYTHING to continue having sexual and emotional access to us. It’s disgusting and manipulative.

rubberboattree · 2020-05-04T12:13:22+00:00

Can I upvote this more than once

WanderTroll1 · 2020-05-04T09:23:35+00:00

My ex would be so dramatic. Literally crying until he was choking all red in the face. Just looking a mess. It was like watching a really bad acting scene. I would call him out and he’d get so mad all of a sudden and and start yelling. Think of Jersey Shore Ronnie and Sam 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was a mess. Thank god that’s over and beyond past me.

throwawaytck1001 · 2020-05-04T16:37:27+00:00

My first heartbreak taught me that men and women can be perfectly decent and awesome people and still not be compatible. I was lucky to have had a great boyfriend as my first. <3

Anonsubordinate · 2020-05-04T16:23:46+00:00

Yep, full-out tears and theatrics and as soon as they get the slightest inkling you're starting to cave, it's amazing how fast they're able to switch it off.

ElegantCategory · 2020-05-04T15:53:14+00:00

This hit home so hard it triggered me.

2020-05-04T17:23:42+00:00

I personally think it's so fucking evil to act like this towards anyone, my ex use to mention he was suicidal while I lost a family member to suicide. Guess what? he still alive today he a piece of shit to use suicidal thoughts for sympathy but he never gave me sympathy for all the horrible shit he did to me (the abuse). I call him out on facebook in direct messages once about what he put me through and he spin it where I was overreacted and I was a "bad" person too. Evil person all around, only evil pieces of crap will be like this.

queencarter · 2020-05-04T17:57:46+00:00

Males only know how to weaponize emotions. If you see a male crying he's doing it to manipulate.

JesusisKingisLord · 2020-05-05T02:44:29+00:00

Someone broke up with me at my apartment and then stayed just staring at me cry. I literally cried myself to sleep. When I woke up, I was shocked to see him there still sitting in the same chair. It had gone from afternoon to evening. I was like gtfo!

artbyVictoria93 · 2020-05-04T17:43:33+00:00

Don’t love what you cant trust. No trust no love If you give to much of yourself You lose too much of yourself..

2020-05-05T05:43:28+00:00

This is the most important lesson of all.

hellau1234 · 2020-05-05T13:11:43+00:00

Urgh. Yes.

Title	#Fact
Author	PicklesNBacon
Upvotes	2141
Comments	61
Date	May 4, 2020 2:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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