How did watching porn become normalized when this behavior would be absurd if acted out in real life?

Zayelle · 2020-12-27T07:28:45+00:00

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Espionagess · 2020-12-27T07:53:08+00:00

I still think before you ditch a scrote who is pornsick, show them some porn you watched of an insanely well hung chiseled god of a man with full scalp of sexy hair. If he ever made comments about you, turn it back around on them. If they say why don't you have x quality, whip it out and say well why don't you have y quality.

(Not really, only kidding. This is still giving views and therefore money to the industry. However, if you've already got some downloaded though... is giving them a taste of their own such a bad thing? I think not 😈)

cherieblosum · 2020-12-27T11:58:43+00:00

Men who watch porn used to be considered huge creeps and losers. Back in the days when they had to get porn from adult video stores or adult theaters. Any guy who went to those were considered loser pervs. Why'd the perception suddenly change?

Pornruinedsociety · 2020-12-27T08:50:11+00:00

I've got a question or few, If porn is so sex positive, then why are more people than ever unhappy with their looks and more anxious than ever about their sexual performance? Why is pornsexuality on the rise, people who prefer masturbating to porn over sex? Why is fear of intimacy on the rise? Why are deadbedrooms on the rise? Why are many young people having less sex and losing their virginity much later? Why can porn viewers spend time staring at naked people having sex but feel uncomfortable in their own nudity? Why has sex more often than not now become to include a measure of hatred in varying degrees, that often includes abuse, degradation and humiliation? Why are so many women complaining about men wanting pornified sex acts? Why are so many men complaining about women not wanting pornified sex acts?

Platipus6 · 2020-12-27T06:45:11+00:00

To me, men who lay in bed alone and fap over pictures of women way out of their league were always losers. It just became more and more advanced and depraved. This new "step-sis/bro" is just... men who suck so badly can't even leave the house to approach women so have to prey on women related to them and trapped in the same house MY GOD.

Social media was always pretty weird.

Imagine your best friend coming over with 15 document boxes filled with photos of their cat. Or distorted pictures of their own face.

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2020-12-27T13:39:54+00:00

Right?

Who decides what is ok? Am I allowed to pay for what turns me on? And it's not cheating?

As long as I don't touch him right? And it's a "professional service"?

What it were an "amateur service provider" who wanted to give me a free experience so he could get feedback?

Where's the line?

Who gets to draw it?

Why don't women get any options in virtual prostitution services, as a consumer?

-DD · 2020-12-27T11:31:24+00:00

I would say this even about guys that're friends with all their exes or a whole bunch of women they know on their social media as well. It supplies them with so much that without computers would be inappropriate.

They argue "that's their friend" (even though they never hang out or genuinely talk) will like or comment on their photos, but imagine if your man had a random female he knew from highschool or thought was cool at work call him and say:

"I just took some hot photos and some I think i'm cute, want to come over and tell me if you like them and make comments about me?" or "Want me to mail them to you so you can tell me witch ones you like and comment to me what you like and make me laugh?"

In real life, this is not okay. add a screen and it's just "online friends"? Before computers this would be cause for breakup or concern.

I'm not saying it's all bad but it does make you picture how much men try to hold onto that is inappropriate or borderline inappropriate under the manipulation that if you don't let them you need mental help for your insecurities.

Now when their wife/gf is mad they get comfort and emotional/mental fulfillment from Pickmesha, (lonely SAHM of 2, the army wife, they met her in highschool and wanted to date her but she never showed interest), making him not truely think about his actual relationship or issues or his wife/gf's needs.

Usually Pickmesha's own loneliness and desire to feel she's still got it and could have him if she wanted, makes her kiss his ass and be "on his side" when he shares your personal issues with her, further complicating your relationship with advice she wouldn't want used in her own or on her.

Because secretly she wants him to be single because it makes her feel powerful and like she's still playing the dating field, but of course, she's not ever going to leave her husband so even if he is convinced, he ends up masturbating at night and using her (and other online girls) for relationship comfort.

There's more of these types than just SAHM's. I've seen successful women in between relationships, college girls who prefer just sleeping around, pull this too to feel like they have some control over some guy so they feel like a big catch, but would never date him, just encourage ruining any relationship he tries to be in with bad avice that usually flatters his ego.

They almost always "get along with guys better" and have no really deep female friendships outside of family and one girl. There's a serious lack in women supporting women.

janetheautomaton · 2020-12-27T06:20:51+00:00

CHRISTMAS but people are so fucking smart, why have I never made this logic.

Diamond_fairy · 2020-12-27T07:16:21+00:00

I'm definitely going to ask this question each time one of my friends defend porn. I can't wait to hear the stuttering.

TheSuspiciousChard · 2020-12-27T12:22:55+00:00

The only thing invalid is the wet noodle choked to death. Get all these slime balls out of your life and start calling them out in real life.

Even the ones that aren’t partners. If a man brings up porn (and they do) ask him if he’s aware that exposure to explicit images is correlated with reduced gray matter in the prefrontal cortex. So it’s not just that women find him disgusting because it’s disgusting there’s some science to it too.

Softrito · 2020-12-27T07:56:29+00:00

I became exposed to porn because I was looking up the Josh Duggar scandal and checked the name of the woman he supposedly slept with. I wanted to see how she looked in comparison to his wife so I clicked images and all there was was pornographic ones.

BabyBlankieieieieie · 2020-12-27T18:51:33+00:00

I think it’s like a lot of the rest of the internet. Hiding behind a screen/keyboard gives people power to hide, to become someone else. I think you hit the nail on the head, here. “Oh, it’s just entertainment, and they’re getting paid, so it’s justifiable” but for so many reasons, as we know, it’s not justifiable. Just bc you’re hiding behind a screen or staying anonymous doesn’t mean nobody is being harmed.

randomgirlimok · 2020-12-27T20:26:33+00:00

Right, how is watching people have sex via live cam not cheating, but what if you were in the room with them watching them have sex? Is it cheating now? I think both are cheating and are technically the same thing.

What if he hired a hooker and watched her masturbate in person? Most people would say it is definitely cheating. I don’t think it’s any different than watching live cam girls. Porn is cheating!

snootdidanoot · 2020-12-27T11:39:00+00:00

I seriously needed to see this, thank you

mtan15 · 2020-12-27T11:19:35+00:00

This is a very good point and a very good argument for the next person that tries to tell me its 'just porn'....

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-12-27T14:41:50+00:00

Exactly!!! This is so true. I am sick of how normalised porn is, when if you think about similar scenarios, like the ones outlined, it would be seen as completely weird and gross.

ItsFreezen · 2020-12-28T18:16:42+00:00

That's why I don't understand women who don't care if he gets a lap dance from a stripper. If he got one from a women at the grocery store is that still acceptable? probably not.

liliH100 · 2020-12-27T12:57:39+00:00

Yes yes this right here 👏🏻

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Title	How did watching porn become normalized when this behavior would be absurd if acted out in real life?
Author	Phoenix__Rising2018
Upvotes	653
Comments	46
Date	December 27, 2020 6:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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