How I've been feeling.

TheFreckledGoddess · 2021-02-05T15:37:08+00:00

Same! But I’ve realized that I’d rather feel lonely occasionally than have a false sense of intimacy with a temporary person that I’ll end up regretting anyway.

fvck_ur_throwaway · 2021-02-05T15:43:55+00:00

THIS. Sick of having the option of one night stands handed on a plate yet finding something deep and genuine is MUCH harder.

cabdefab · 2021-02-05T14:24:18+00:00

I feel the same way. So tired of the temporary.

2021-02-05T14:46:16+00:00

Men know that women pair bond more deeply than they do, and they enjoy taking advantage of it, only to drop it later.

Give them nothing.

chokkolate · 2021-02-05T16:03:34+00:00

Exactly how I feel. Even because having a stranger in our bed just to leave the next day is not true intimacy at all, just a travesty of it. It won't fulfill what I search for.

ijustwannabefree- · 2021-02-05T14:52:00+00:00

I can relate to it so much, temporary isn't worth it.

UnstrirringCoffee · 2021-02-05T17:44:45+00:00

What I want with regards to intimacy, in exact order of priority:

Genuinine and mutual feelings of intimacy
Singlehood with the occasional feelings of loneliness
Nothing else. There is no "3."

LuciannaVamp · 2021-02-05T14:19:29+00:00

So very much agreed. I might start reading romance novels. 🤷‍♀️

maroonwolf24 · 2021-02-05T16:14:56+00:00

Are there actual women who enjoy one night stands? I read all over Reddit how dudes are all about it but it takes two to tango. I just know from my pickmesha phase that I only had sex with these men because I thought sex=intimacy but after the guys left I was always left with an empty feeling.

iamtoopretty · 2021-02-05T14:21:09+00:00

This 🙋‍♀️

Maude2010 · 2021-02-05T18:08:11+00:00

I recommend getting a pet if you can make the commitment. My dog obviously isn’t a substitute for a person (much better in many ways!), but the closeness and touch are healthy, and of course PAWSOME! (Sorry, I’m such a dorky dog mom, my autocorrect does that now). Plus, the love is pure and completely mutual and drama free.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-02-05T16:43:10+00:00

ever since watching Love Guru (bad mike myers movie, but good/bad) I always read intimacy as " Into- Me- I See" *TM I like it because intimacy truly begins with knowing who you are and loving the person who you are, consistently.

2021-02-05T15:38:30+00:00

So relatable.

InsanityIsSaneHere · 2021-02-05T17:15:11+00:00

This is how I'm feeling too. In no rush & don't need a man to feel happy.

SPdoc · 2021-02-06T02:01:56+00:00

I mean nothing wrong with getting intimate with someone you’re seeing but not serious with yet, especially if it’s on your terms. You can totally be the one to like someone enough to date and sleep with but not see them as long term material. The power is in your hands if they’re short term on your terms.

yolosunshine · 2021-02-06T02:27:58+00:00

Is it really intimacy if they don’t care to know you?

2021-02-05T15:51:15+00:00

Same tbh...

BoBistie · 2021-02-05T16:09:38+00:00

Ugh this is exactly where I'm at

jentheleo · 2021-02-05T15:46:30+00:00

Yes I feel the exact same way these days 😔

ExTweakerNewSneakers · 2021-02-05T14:03:38+00:00

Preach

aelyssi · 2021-02-05T14:53:43+00:00

Yessss

stg21987 · 2021-02-05T19:03:12+00:00

This is me to a T! Putting this on my dating profile for all those nasty MFers asking to eat me out. 🤮

breadandbunny · 2021-02-05T20:42:46+00:00

🙌🏿

your_last_braincell · 2021-02-06T05:55:36+00:00

Thank you, I needed this. Because in the past I sadly have and I’m still working on myself.

halfways · 2021-02-06T02:17:26+00:00

Same

Low_Friendship_2225 · 2021-02-25T19:14:19+00:00

My life

Title	How I've been feeling.
Author	fvck_ur_throwaway
Upvotes	3999
Comments	58
Date	February 5, 2021 1:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ld7nds/how_ive_been_feeling/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/how-ive-been-feeling.1193053 https://theredarchive.com/post/1193053

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