Hi!

I've been a long time lurker here but I've never posted. I was going to be single for more than a year after I broke off a unstable relationship nearly a year ago. I met this guy 2 months ago and he seemed nice. It felt like he was crushing hard. Constantly messaging me, calling me, trying to meet me when I'm free, etc. BUT I do get this gut feeling around him sometimes. I'm not sure if it's anxiety or if I'm actually picking up on something.

Today we were talking on the phone, I decided to open up about a semi vulnerable topic (Which is that I'm still paying some debt after I took a big loan 2 years ago, and that it will be payed off in August).

When I told him, he said to me: "What the fuck, Im shocked. I would never trust you with my money in the future or let you come near it."

I said: "Well, I know others who have had this happen before. My brother had this problem a year ago".

His response: "Is your brother also retarded?" Me"..What?" Him "Is your brother also retarded?" I responded "Wow, why are you so fucking mean?" Him: silence

Then he proceeded to say that he wasn't judging me, that he was tired and was going to sleep. Is this normal or should I ditch him?

Edit: Thank you everyone for responding!! I really appreciate it. :) I have complex PTSD, so I have a hard time trusting my own judgement.