Firstly, I just wanted to say how unbelievably thankful I am for this community. The mods and every single one of you ladies make me feel so not alone. It's one of the only safe spaces where I can be honest about my standards, and there are just no words to describe how lucky I am to have found you.

I recently made a comment & wanted to turn it into a post. The OP posted a video for discussion in which a PickMe was arguing that emotional vulnerability was "risky" for men (comparing it to how sex is risky for women) due to how we've been socialised.

Essentially, this video was rationalizing the burden of emotional labour that is placed disproportionately (and often solely) on women, and quite frankly, we need to call that out for what it is: another form of weaponized incompetence used to further favour and advantage men.

Men aren't socialised to be "emotionally repressive", they are socialised to be selfish and entitled.

Have you ever been alone with a man? These dudes will try to unload an entire lifetime of emotional bullshit onto you before the fucking door even closes. They will whine about ex's, about bosses, about girlfriends, wives, family, and friends. They will whine about the state of the world, every little thing they don't like about society, and whatever goddamn minor stupid problem is irking them at that very moment. They will punch holes in walls, scream, and demand whatever it is they want with such fervent emotion, and if you let them, they will exhaust you by demanding free emotional labour for the rest of your life. I'm not exaggerating: I have seen women revolve their entire fucking lives around coddling a string of men. Sometimes husbands, sometimes boyfriends, sometimes bosses, and sometimes a string of losers on dating apps.

Just because they don't give back what they take does not mean they are emotionally regressive. They're not stupid, either. They know how to behave to get the promotion, to get that recognition, to be able to run entire countries and corporations. You think you don't need social and emotional skills to do this shit?

Listen, this woman was asking us to believe the same men that demand sex from their wives and complain about dead bedrooms are incapable of understanding her when she asks for the fucking vacuuming to be done. When she asks for him to buy his own mother a Christmas card, or spend some time looking after his own kids. She spells it out for him, but he's too "emotionally repressed" to get it? I don't buy it.

It's not risky, they just don't give a shit about other people unless it benefits them.

So ladies, the next time you see a man acting like this, turn around and leave. Block & delete. Don't enable this nonsense behaviour - put that time & energy into yourself instead. Prioritise your education, your career, your finances, and your loved ones until you find a man who gets it - or stay single.

And to the scrotey, emotionally constipated lurkers: die mad 😘