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OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?

lzbth

November 7, 2021
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Title OLD: Who needs personality when you’ve been on a boat, caught a fish that one time or go to the gym?
Author

lzbth

Upvotes 242
Comments 44
Date November 7, 2021 12:28 AM UTC
(4 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/qod3il/old_who_needs_personality_when_youve_been_on_a/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/old-who-needs-personality-when-youve-been-on-a.1085517
https://theredarchive.com/post/1085517
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Comments

[–]KimpracticalFDS Disciple 259 points260 points261 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

I saw a video recently that said basically almost everything put out by the media is for the male gaze only. Because of that, men don’t understand what women want to see. They don’t get that things that are typically masculine (fish, cars, gym muscles, etc.) are things that would be impressive only to other men. And yea, I believe that men who don’t understand that are basically not very smart at all, not creative, and don’t have their own identity. That’s why OLD is a shit show

[–]shockingupdateFDS Newbie 105 points106 points107 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Not only are they unaware of what women actually like, instead of listening to women when we explain over and over how we want to be treated upfront, in their native language, with examples…they ask their equally clueless bros. More fish pics it is!

[–]KindredMaximusFDS Newbie 69 points70 points71 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Why would they trust our lived experiences? after all, ''women don't even know what they want''./s

[–]All4GoldieFDS Newbie 85 points86 points87 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I hate the fish pics, and they were on most of the profiles! I was like WTF?! Why do I care about some fish?

Or in my area there were some hunting pics with the dead animal. 🤮 Fuck no.

[–]scorchedsouIFDS Newbie 84 points85 points86 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This lack of exposure to the female gaze through media also shows just how many men lack abstract thinking and cognitive empathy. A man showing me things that would only impress other men tells me all that I need to know about his intelligence.

[–]shaezammFDS Newbie 71 points72 points73 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Finally… someone explains the real reason dick pics exist! THANK YOU!

[–]lzbthFDS Newbie[S] 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn, you get it. Cheers to you! 😆

[–]shaezammFDS Newbie 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh bloody hell man, I went for a closer look at the link, and the gif that some idiot replied with just proves the dick pic theory… just wow dude, seeing your dick is the least appealing of all these unappealing images… NO woman is keen to see it! Maybe show your mates

[–]ccro7FDS Newbie 31 points32 points33 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That makes perfect sense. Thank you!

I quit OLD about a year ago and one of the last photos I saw in a guy's profile was of him standing next to his mother. He thought it was something a woman would want to see. We even exchanged a few messages because he was very attractive but I ended up deleting him fairly quickly. It was the photo.

[–]arnezuaraFDS Apprentice 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Women should just abandon OLD altogether. It’s time.

[–]driftinglochaweFDS Newbie 148 points149 points150 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

My favourites are looking angry at your friend's wedding, leaning against a fancy car which you clearly don't own, out on the town with the lads (which one are you in the group photo??!), and posing with a wild animal doing your best Joe Exotic impression 👌

[–]NinjaCynicFDS Newbie 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I choked on my bubble tea 🤣🤣🤣

They don't seem to understand that drinking beer is not a personality either.

[–]peaches88888FDS Newbie 115 points116 points117 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes I’m tempted to try OLD just one more time and then I see posts like these. Men are boring to look at.

[–]asupernova91FDS Newbie 85 points86 points87 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

They’re boring to talk to most of the time too.

[–]FURYOFCAPSLOCKFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy shit, yes.

[–]lzbthFDS Newbie[S] 81 points82 points83 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

The bane of my existence is the bro’d out group photo. Especially when there’s more than one of those photos in a single dating profile. Or when the same woman is also pictured more than once.

[–]bonghits4jessFDS Newbie 93 points94 points95 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

The one that kills me is when they have one picture with a kid and they write a whole disclaimer in the bio “kid isn’t mine haha it’s my nephew.” Like if you didn’t wanna give off single dad vibes then post a picture without a child in it??? Even before i was a parent I still never posted pictures of me with children on my dating profile lol it’s just so weird to me!

[–]pompommom31FDS Newbie 53 points54 points55 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I’d be pissed if my brother used my daughter to pick up women on OLD!!! That says so much about a dude right there. Like, did your sister approve that a-hole?!

[–]bonghits4jessFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly! it just screams complete disregard for the safety of the women and children around them. I’ve even seen some that blur out the kids face which is like I GUESS but even then, what was the reason?

[–]asupernova91FDS Newbie 41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think they think women instinctually want men who are good with children. Fair, but a photo doesn’t prove it. It’s the same as guys who have a random photo holding a dog or puppy. 9/10 times the dog is cuter than the guy.

[–]shockingupdateFDS Newbie 42 points43 points44 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I was really hoping that by now we’d have moved past sharing pics of small children who can’t consent to entering public life online but alas, it’s 2021, parasocial relationships and family vloggers are still a thing, and men are still using kids as props for their fake dating personas. Cool!

[–]lzbthFDS Newbie[S] 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Totally, super transparent manipulation.

[–]scorchedsouIFDS Newbie 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've seen them tell each other to post pictures with children and small animals to seem nurturing to women, so that could be why. It's certainly a step in the right direction from holding a dead fish and staring blankly at the camera, but it's still manipulative and inconsiderate to involve children in this.

[+]asupernova9146 points 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

I’ve seen men who choose a picture with a woman as their main OLD picture. Like, are you stupid? Biggest turn off, don’t care if she’s your sister.

[–]pompommom31FDS Newbie 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The worst to me are the single dads posting with pics of their children to show how ‘involved’ they are. Not only is that just awful to exploit a child for dating purposes it’s always the men that are shit dads that do this. My ex husband used a picture of our daughter on his OLD profile and I hit the roof. Not only was I pissed for using her picture it’s also extremely misleading to his potential partners because he’s never been involved in her life!!! It’s so misleading I just want to go on his profile and say, ahem, this is his ex-wife and he moved away from his daughter the minute we divorced and sees her twice a year. This picture is NOT an accurate portrayal. Buyer beware. 🧐

[–]bizzybumblebeeFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

or the hiking pics

[–]NonnasaysfuckoffFDS Newbie 70 points71 points72 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Those are just serial killer pics to me now. Nothing good can come of that imo.

[–]bizzybumblebeeFDS Newbie 39 points40 points41 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Lmao he took the pic after burying the body in the mountains

[–]NonnasaysfuckoffFDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Too real. But honestly didn't we have horror stories just these past two months alone about that??

[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice 33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You then can already see they'll be asking you on hike/walk dates. Instant swipe left.

[–]pipeuptopipedownFDS Newbie 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

The photos where he's trying to look "cool" with a lighted tobacco product in his mouth or hand -- saves me a lot of trouble, you've weeded yourself out so to speak... so true, most of them are leaning into what impresses other men.

[–]pompommom31FDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

What is this Mad Men? A cigarette (or worse a vape) looks so unappealing and gross. What man thinks this is cool???? Lmao 😂

[–]pipeuptopipedownFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Often it's an (obviously) expensive cigar -- such a Hefner-era signifier.

[–]lzbthFDS Newbie[S] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I HATE this. Instant left-swipe.

[–]pompommom31FDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Where I live there are exactly 3 pictures every man here posts on OLD (and usually in this exact order): 1) Holding a fish on a boat in shorts and brown flip flops 2) At the football stadium with the guys and one random girl while holding a beer and wearing brown flip flops 3) Sitting down at a family bbq outside on a lawn chair with the fam behind him. In brown flip flops.

[–]xfelugirlxFDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

The gym guys so boring like their life depend on it. I run and do lifting too but thats just something more to it no my whole ass personality

[–]lzbthFDS Newbie[S] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[–]aluriaphinFDS Newbie 78 points79 points80 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's always the obvious groomsmen photos. Makes it SO clear that they would never usually wear a nice suit or put effort into their appearance, it's just a special occasion thing so they use those pics. Yawn.

[–]Serious_Papaya8615FDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Honestly the gym bros are the lamest. To so many of them their whole entire lives seem to be centered around going to the gym. They’re also most likely the kind to start complaining about your physical appearance or lifestyle habits if you date them. To me they come off as shallow, narcissistic and self-centered. A big no.

I also get similar vibes from men who post pictures of themselves leaning on very expensive cars which they obviously don’t own, as another commenter said. I’ve seen so many of these and they make me want to barf. Also, if he seems to have a lot of pictures from nights out it’s usually a strong indicator that he will sacrifice a lot of evenings with you for nights out getting drunk and possibly even cheating.

[–]Jandi18FDS Newbie 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The ones that have pictures of them partying…like all their photos is of them partying. That just makes me think he is a fuck boy.

[–]Fun_SherbetFDS Apprentice 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Aw, men and their widdle bwains cannot muster the creative flair of an actually nice photo

[–]BekinditsfreeFDS Newbie 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol

[–]pipeuptopipedownFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

The idea that men are not considering what women might be drawn to also at least partially explains the negative and hostile text in so many of these profiles, where he's going on in very nasty and misogynistic detail about what he doesn't want. Why would we be attracted to that?

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