Patterns don’t lie!

shoelaceys · 2020-11-16T06:39:02+00:00

My ex would pull this shit on me all the time. It was like prior occasions didn’t matter when I was pointing out how consistent the behavior in question was. He took it as me making things personal and start attacking me for unrelated issues in retaliation. God he was such a trash partner.

fierce_and_mighty · 2020-11-16T09:32:21+00:00

Exactly, and maybe I wouldn’t bring up “old shit” if it had been acknowledged, apologised for and had it not happened again!!! Its like some guys just see what they did right and forget all the times they were a bad partner... good partner my ass

Betty_Bottle · 2020-11-16T12:08:56+00:00

Ugh I got "you just keep thinking of the bad things, you gotta remember the good things too"

As if the good times automatically cancelled out every bad thing.

fireforestfairy · 2020-11-16T09:28:59+00:00

LVM say this all the time as they don't want women calling them out for their bullshit.

AprilMoon9 · 2020-11-16T07:13:17+00:00

Yet they have the audacity to ask for "examples" of their trash behaviour.

seawitchbitch · 2020-11-16T06:53:32+00:00

I always used to wonder why it felt so wrong when criticized for “keeping a list.”

libralia · 2020-11-16T04:43:33+00:00

Ding 🛎 ding 🛎 ding 🛎

Elisa_LaViudaNegra · 2020-11-16T06:12:04+00:00

🏅🏅🏅

“You keep bringing up old things I said that aren’t how I feel anymore.” -My ex, three weeks ago when we were breaking up. I’m sure he would have loved for me to believe a tiger changes his stripes.

lightanddaffodil · 2020-11-16T04:53:58+00:00

That, and "I wish you didn't remember..."... ugh, just reminding myself of that makes me feel annoyed

SarcasmSlide · 2020-11-16T15:35:10+00:00

Never let go of your elephant memory, ladies. Gaslighting can’t work if you acknowledge objective reality. But always pause for self-reflection if you find yourself filing away specific examples and behaviors to bring as evidence before the court in later arguments. This indicates the male in question has a pattern of making you doubt your own feelings, experiences, and memories. Males who love you don’t do that.

Never stop self-reflecting my fellow queens. Never ever not even on your death bed.

fermata102 · 2020-11-16T08:33:23+00:00

YAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2020-11-16T13:09:19+00:00

I HATE it when someone tries to use that as an excuse.

AlextheAnalyst · 2020-11-16T14:17:41+00:00

Correction: you keep doing old 💩💩💩.

atuan · 2020-11-16T19:02:37+00:00

I just got told “I don’t have time for these constant conversations about your needs.” The conversations wouldn’t be constant if we had one true respectful one and then actions followed the words. The constant conversations are because you’re full of bullshit when we have then.

imandotjpg · 2020-11-16T10:06:07+00:00

!!!!!!!!! Thank you

2020-11-16T22:17:56+00:00

People are not as original or unique as they think. We all operate in patterns. We must start with recognizing our own and taking an action where the change is needed. Then notice the patterns in the people around you and don't doubt your intuition when it screams "I've seen this before! I know how it's going to end!" That's your pattern recognition at work.

2020-11-16T14:16:06+00:00

Ew. But its a boy named Caleb and he's using a misogynist slur for 'comedic' effect.

Title	Patterns don’t lie!
Author	Ok_Ad_67
Upvotes	3192
Comments	38
Date	November 16, 2020 3:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jv01dg/patterns_dont_lie/
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