A man insisting on paying for dates is definitely a sign of him being interested in courting you the right way, but it is NOT the whole story.
I recently dated a man who paid for all our dates, and I was very appreciative and happy because that's literally the first time in my dating experience that a man insists on paying. However, this same guy began having me hang out with his female bff, and we literally stopped having dates with just the two of us together, she was always there! I also learned that he just paid for things for everyone in his life, he bought his friends booze and cigarettes, he paid for meals and random items for shopping.
Ultimately this was a man who hit me with the "you can come over or not, I don't care either way". He belittled what I said more than once, and even after I called him out and told him I was feeling unappreciated, and hoped that we can have dates with just the two of us, he still had us hang out with his female friend.
I dumped him, of course. But keep in mind ladies:
Just because he pays doesn't mean he values you! Pay attention to all the signs and don't be super duper grateful (like me) for him taking the initiative to pay. There's more to dating than who pays for dates.
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