That's on that - period.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-01-23T04:39:02+00:00

I’ve noticed a lot of my coworkers say they are “talking” to someone like it’s a “thing” but they like to be “talking to” many at once - mostly it’s men that are 30 and under. I’m over 40 so I don’t relate to this at all. And by “talking” it’s texting or snap chatting and they make it seem like it’s going to lead to a FWB situation; the goal is to have sex with the person for awhile, and do things like “Netflix and chill” til something else comes along or they’re bored or find better

kcookie94 · 2021-01-23T08:17:24+00:00

I’ve never had a man look at me and say the words “Will you be my girlfriend?.” It has always been a “what are we?” conversation that I have prompted. Thanks to FDS I now understand my worth and strive to never settle for a man who can’t even discuss commitment with me.

simplicityduplicity · 2021-01-23T06:55:40+00:00

Thissss. I just got out of a situationship with a dude a week ago. He had me delete my OLD apps but refused to call me his girlfriend. His reasoning? “Terms like that are juvenile.” 🤦🏼‍♀️

Jiou112 · 2021-01-23T05:08:53+00:00

Oh and there won't be any quotation marks around the word talk. There will be no question that it is not a relationship. Don't forget that part. Because men will do this same thing but act like they are in a relationship, only to pull this card once they get caught cheating.

katthekanuck · 2021-01-23T18:13:10+00:00

A ex-friend of mine got into a situationship mess. She had other issues as well that made me want to distance myself from her, but this was the last straw.

She started seeing a guy who wanted all the wife benefits but wouldn’t even call her his girlfriend, let alone wife. He was ugly, out of shape, terrible in bed, wouldn’t use protection, didn’t even attempt to please her, got angry and sulky at the most irrational things and clearly had no interest in her other than for (bad) sex. His idea of a “date” was McDonalds. Her own parents (who were from a culture that really pushes marriage on young women) didn’t even like him, and wanted her to leave. And yet, she stayed because “he’s really funny and I’m lonely”. Girl, I’m lonely too but you couldn’t pay me to be in this mess! At least a vibrator gives me an actual good time and doesn’t throw a spontaneous tantrum later!

This was long before FDS but even then I was so frustrated and kept thinking, WHY are you rewarding bad behaviour?

naeviablue · 2021-01-23T07:06:01+00:00

In 2021 I’m looking for my future husband - not a boyfriend, a fwb or a situation. The time for wasting time ended long ago.

toddhowardseviltwin · 2021-01-23T08:37:30+00:00

Omg that brings an old memory back...a guy confessed his crush on me once. It was nice and sweet but I was overwhelmed. We started texting here and there because why not and one day he asked me to come over to his place to which I replied that I have something other to do. To which he replied "i guess it's best we break up then" ??? When did we get together sir??? The fuck???

Barbie-girl · 2021-01-23T09:27:49+00:00

My belief is "I am single till I am married". Words are just words and people can lie. Men certainly are in no position to complain as most of them are still on the lookout even after marriage. And don't even get me started on their virtual cheating by means of porn. The only thing that worries is me is their ego, violent tendencies and inability to see their own hypocrisy. So many women tell about how they have to deal with the jealousy and insecurity of the guy they are dating. This is frankly one of the reasons I choose not to date for a long time. I am now trying to come up with some strategies to manage male jealousy and ego as explaining things logically to them doesn't work most of the times.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2021-01-23T07:59:00+00:00

You're single till you're married

myeggsarebig · 2021-01-23T11:59:11+00:00

So, I was a single mom at 18. Baby daddy LVM. I was home with a baby jealous of my friends who were out having casual sex. I was jealous at the time. I’m not still friends with them today 20 years later, but guess what?! They’re still single and still giving up the goods. C’mon ladies, we’re in our 40s. Stop that. Stop that right now. In fact, my ex-BFF, chose her jealous husband over me when my mom died bc he was jealous of the time she and I spent together (grieving!!!!!). I just couldn’t forgive her for that.

This makes me think of other valued relationships and the standards I have around them as well. Don’t say you’re a friend when you’re really a playmate.

My real relationships show up, and hold space, when the shit hit the fan.

**btw, my exbff husband was running from the police, across country, because she finally reported him, he raped a woman, was wanted for that, he had a 24 hour stand off with cops, escaped that, then escaped prison, while being transported, then he was finally caught in Iowa. I’m saying this to impress that if he wasn’t a white man, he would have never “escaped”.

Ya’ll my last straw when I was over her house, and she pulls out a box of letters from him “he was my true love”, AND a recent letter. And, “oh, by the way, he has a phone and we’ve been talking.”

Wwwwwwwhhhhhhhaaaaaattttttt?!?! No wonder the cops don’t take you seriously.

Anyway, morning rant. Love ya’ll ladies, love this sub, and love being a fierce woman in company with other fierce women! 💜

BasieSkanks · 2021-01-23T05:38:59+00:00

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bravebeautyx · 2021-01-23T06:37:04+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Hypsibremetes · 2021-01-23T08:41:45+00:00

This came at the right time.

No-Income-3821 · 2021-01-23T09:42:16+00:00

It's a whole mood of self 💘 love

ijustcantwithit · 2021-01-23T06:51:14+00:00

Yes! I had a LVM, 26 to my 19 at the time, decide we were in a relationship after 1 date and then got butt hurt when I went on a date with someone else. He found out when he picked me up for date 2 and called me his girlfriend and I asked when that happened. Being young and not as wise, that lasted 6mo before I wised up to his man child ways: we are talking Christmas wish list, with links including toys, collection items and robot house shoes he thought were silly. I blew a tire late at night he came but didn’t know how to fix it, glad mom didn’t let me drive until I could change a tire and my oil.

divinedivadivyaa · 2021-01-23T12:10:25+00:00

this.

spicyspa · 2021-01-23T12:37:09+00:00

Great attitude! We should all have this mindset.

fairywakes · 2021-01-24T05:38:12+00:00

I’m so lucky I’m seeing someone who asked me to be exclusive after ~3 weeks or so. So attractive when a guy knows what he wants.

Title	That's on that - period.
Author	Myplummms
Upvotes	3086
Comments	98
Date	January 23, 2021 3:55 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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