That's why.

seraphinelysion · 2021-06-13T04:01:01+00:00

This is the "wall" that women hit at 25. It's called becoming an adult and knowing better. They want to get you before you get wise to their low effort bullshit.

MadamePotpourri · 2021-06-13T03:08:40+00:00

So true. I cringe when I think of all the LVM I dated from my early twenties. Had I met them now, none would have made it past the first few dates. I'm grateful that I ended my twenties with no babies and no husband.

Also grateful that I still had enough sense to prioritize university and graduate with a good paying job. That has brought me far more benefit than any man ever could.

smothered_reality · 2021-06-13T07:07:48+00:00

I used to be told that no one would want to marry me because I was too old all the time when I was younger. My mother would honestly have panic in her voice when she screamed at me about it. As I hit financial independence I realize more and more that I dodged a massively fatal bullet by holding out no matter how much they hated me. I don’t think even half the players even admit it to themselves. My mom is one of them that’s too deep in to realize how massively problematic this all is. It’s funny because I wasn’t even a catch in my 20s because I was so stressed out by everyone that I was miserable to be around. The only people showing interest were all toxic. I’m a happier person now and I actually get interest from the kind of healthy people that recognize that.

heroic_nincompoop · 2021-06-13T03:59:24+00:00

I can't wait until I'm older. Ever since I was a little girl I heard older women say, "You become invisible when you're older. Men stop staring at you and hitting on you. It's like a light switches in their brains and they stop seeing you that way." I always looked at them like, "Promise?"

RecordingImportant94 · 2021-06-13T07:05:58+00:00

I have found it very telling that, having had a baby in my early twenties, it took until my brain had matured at 25 to leave the abusive father of my child. I will be making sure my daughter makes it to 25 without tying herself to a scrote for the rest of her life.

lansburysoda · 2021-06-13T04:08:57+00:00

This. I’m 26 and my looks haven’t changed at all since I was 23 but my standards have.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-06-13T05:53:15+00:00

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pickmieshaexorcist · 2021-06-13T03:34:39+00:00

Even if the brain were fully formed before then, having babies just makes everything exponentially harder. Especially in America where there’s no real safety net. Finding appropriate housing, being tethered to the area because of family support, limited with jobs/hours, daycare costs (which is astronomical when they’re in the diapers ages). The list goes on.

honeydewmelonz · 2021-06-13T05:20:29+00:00

Wow I’m so excited for this

LucysFakeTits · 2021-06-13T05:38:35+00:00

I got pregnant at 21, 2 months shy of 22. We talked about getting married and moving in together. He is African from Congo and would tell me shit like Africans don't get pain medicine to have the baby. I'd be like well good thing I'm not African. No no, i misunderstood what he meant. The men dictate for the women they can't have pain medicine because they need to suffer for the baby...... Gee I wonder why I fled the state to go live with my mother and blocked him on everything? Unfortunately, my conscience got the better of me.. I didn't get a fulfilling relationship with my dad because my mom poisoned it and I didn't want to do that to my child. I love my son very much, but his father is a controlling moron and my life would be easier if he (father) wasn't in it. When i went to my first OBGYN appointment he went with me and my blood pressure was high because I hated being around him so much, it hasn't been high since then and I have had 2 more children. Promiscuous sex is my biggest regret in life. I wish I hadn't placed so much value in men finding me fuckable when it literally means nothing. Being married and having children has been so much less stressful and fulfilling. I feel bad for my son. I failed him and there's nothing I can do about it, his father and I can never be together and he has to split his time between us. It's all my fault for not telling this stupid man no when he asked to have sex without a condom. I met him on Tinder 🙄 I get so frustrated with myself in the past

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-06-13T03:53:30+00:00

I love her twitter account - I am already a follower!

She is sharp, incisive and perfectly articulates complicated issues.

thatrecoilwhenyoucme · 2021-06-13T06:13:56+00:00

Silent collusion.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2021-06-13T10:04:46+00:00

This!

dragon_wolf4 · 2021-06-15T15:30:28+00:00

Why was this post removed!??

Title	That's why.
Author	denverkris
Upvotes	1382
Comments	35
Date	June 13, 2021 2:53 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nyn5xv/thats_why/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/thats-why.782704 https://theredarchive.com/post/782704

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