Should we split the bill?

lisanolisa · 2021-03-08T01:29:27+00:00

I don’t know how to explain my view on this. I like to pay for people and treat them... but I would not want to pay for a man that thinks women should pay? Is that dramatic?

Men who demand women should pay usually do the wallet test and the whole ‘men and women are equal now’ spiel so it really turns me off and I just hate men like that.

I’ve gone Dutch on dates before because it made me feel uncomfortable to let a man pay for me and tbh all it did was set the precedent for them being stingy.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-03-08T04:25:18+00:00

Years ago, some wealthy ad producer decided my feminism meant I should take him to dinner. He called me to tell me this. I told him I'd take him to Coney Island for a Nedick's hotdog. He was flustered but actually sounded game.

There hasn't been a Nedick's in Coney Island for decades.

CandidKick · 2021-03-08T15:17:15+00:00

A friend of mine would split the bill with her partner. She also always cooked when they got together. She asked him to cook for her one time and he agreed.

When she came over, he was so frustrated with how long everything took to make. The food was nasty and undercooked but she ate it to be polite. Afterword, he asked if she would pay for the ingredients because he had to buy extra groceries (as opposed to his man meals). She said no because it costs money when she cooks for him. He disagreed saying that she would have had those ingredients, anyway. Her response was that she buys extra ingredients to cook for him but even if she doesn’t, that was food she could’ve ate and he basically ate her money.

He grudgingly decided to let it go about the cost of groceries. When she got home, however, he called her to let her know he was mad at her because she didn’t even offer to clean the dishes. Mind you, she cooked EVERY time he came over, bought her own groceries, took the time to make a DELICIOUS meal and cleaned up on her own. At that point, what I said to her about man children finally clicked. She laughed at him mid-narcissistic rant, said it was over and hung up on him, never talked to him again.

She still does offer to split the bill, but only if the guy agrees to split the cooking. Her now HVM refused to split the bill even when she offered. He pays when they go out about once a week and she makes something for them at her place about once a week. Helping women get away from LVM is a big part of why I stay on this sub. I never want to get sucked back in to the propaganda.

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-03-07T20:24:43+00:00

Fool had to try it 🤷‍♀️

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nyclaurco · 2021-03-08T00:41:19+00:00

guys think that they’ve lucked out when the woman wants to split the bill, but really, for so many of us it just means that we don’t plan on seeing them again lol

donttextme_k · 2021-03-07T20:53:37+00:00

I had someone asked if I always expected man to pay. I was stupid to say no. He end up paying for the dates we went on but not sure what he was trying to go with that question

Rowbloks · 2021-03-08T10:57:06+00:00

Proof that when men ask you uncomfortable questions and justify that because "cOmMUniCAtion is important", they're just playing dumb and testing you to see how much they can get away with by putting you on the spot.

That's why it's fundamental to learn to be unwavering, unafraid to be straightforward and honest when it benefits you.

HVM know that women are caught between a rock and a hard place when it comes to honesty. Because dishonesty gets them called dishonest and honesty often gets them unfairly called the b-word. These men know that if they ask very confrontational questions that don't allow for any plausible deniability or any sort of gracious escape, they are using a communication style that is infinitely more advantageous for men than for women. It is NOT an even playing field.

Because of this, HVM avoid asking delicate questions in such a confrontational manner like that guy did. Lower value men ask but then they immediately suck it up and move on when you give them a straightforward answer, like this girl so admirably did. And NVM will ask and even go so far as to ask even more after that. They'll ask stuff like: "why don't you want to split the bill? Isn't that anti-feminist? I'm not judging I'm JUst cUriOUS, I just want to gEt tO KnoW You".

I used to be really tempted to take the bait and to start explaining myself, but now I know that if he even had the audicity to ask that question, he's already made up his mind that you're the type of chick that he's not very afraid to lose so he's going to bother you and test you and use you as a way to gain experience for the chick he really wants. At this point, if they bother me with confrontational questions about my boundaries, I just change the subject or I double down very hard in a way that shows that my opinion is not going to change so you better drop it. There are too many fun and non-controversial ways to be cUriOUs and gEt TO KnoW me for you to be asking me this.

Not being okay with being put on the spot as a woman doesn't mean that you're "against cOmmunICatioN", it means that you're a non-naive self-respecting person who understands the rules of the game.

This girl is a hero.

Warm_Ad6994 · 2021-03-07T21:19:03+00:00

I started getting brainwashed by the libfem “going dutch” bs too and then I had an epiphany... if I’m expected to doll myself up and be well manicured which all takes quite a bit of time, money, and effort... because men are “ViSuaL CreAturEs” then I most certainly expect a man to play a gentleman role and pay for the date HE asks ME out on. Sorry not sorry.

eaucitron · 2021-03-08T01:17:26+00:00

I was on a blind double date with a friend years ago and she pulled me to the washroom and was like “they want us to split the bill, let’s bail”. So we did lol 😂

Edit: lmao scrotes be mad at this

Peengwin · 2021-03-07T23:36:12+00:00

Real question: what should a woman say when a guy asks this, other than just "no"? In the past, if a dude asked this, I'd pay my half and never see them again. The price of knowing he's pathetic

7Cuervos · 2021-03-08T04:37:39+00:00

In my country it is well known that whoever asks you on a date (the man duh) has to pay for both.

That sadly doesnt stop scrotes from making women pay 50/50. I stay away from it.

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2021-03-08T06:57:21+00:00

I have absolutely no issue splitting the bill.... with a man that I will never date again. I’d rather spend $50 for a quick lesson about how cheap and / or thoughtless he is than months or even years figuring it out the hard way.

veniphyl · 2021-03-08T08:11:07+00:00

No, because no.

CatSweets · 2021-03-07T23:21:00+00:00

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happyduck18 · 2021-03-08T01:00:07+00:00

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Title	Should we split the bill?
Author	denverkris
Upvotes	673
Comments	52
Date	March 7, 2021 8:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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