The comments on this are so sad...

yomommahouse · 2020-12-04T11:11:02+00:00

I wish I had known sooner in my younger life or had been taught that if you are uncomfortable with porn use, you absolutely have every right to feel that way and for it to be a valid reason to run...not walk away from your relationshit. Ladies... especially you younger girls...if you tell your SO that you don't want porn in your relationship and he continues to watch it...this is emotional ABUSE! You need to leave the minute he breaks your boundary. No second chances because trust me they have no intention of ever stopping. Save yourself before it's too late. I'm a firm believer that men that watch porn cannot and do not respect women. Not only that but it ALWAYS escalates. Don't think for one minute that he's a "casual" watcher like he wants you to believe. Not only does the depravity of the porn they watch escalate, but most likely it will escalate into physical cheating, and them paying for prostitutes or cam girls and you being left in the dust with a broke loser with a limp dick where you will basically just be a mommy and maid to take care of a grown man. Is this what you want your future to look like? Because if you accept porn in your relationship...any amount, this is your future. Ask me how I know.

rebel4acause · 2020-12-04T07:16:56+00:00

So many girls (and I say girls because most are teens) are in the comments saying they found out their BF goes on OF. Thankfully, some are saying they are ending things. Sad that it has come to this.

Some of the comments:

"My stomach hurts and i havent even looked yet"

"i'm literally crying and shaking."

"just found it. when he lied. more proof. thanks. i'm done"

"just broke up w my bf of 4 years bc I did this bye imma die now"

"Thanks😄now I'm not gonna eat for two weeks"

"He said he got hard to the girls but didn't get off to em, Idk what to do🥺"

pinkcloudzzz · 2020-12-04T09:08:42+00:00

I feel so bad for these teen girls. I’m in my 20s and it’s difficult for me, I can just imagine how awful and world shattering it is for them to experience this.

harrohamtaro · 2020-12-04T14:03:49+00:00

Off-topic but... I’m not on TikTok and wondering why people post videos of themselves preening and mouthing something with random text placed over the screen? I have seen so many of such videos and feel confused.

Pornruinedsociety · 2020-12-04T08:11:14+00:00

I'm glad some of the girls said they are ending things, nice to see they have self respect and do not allow society and their boyfriends to gaslight them into thinking it's normal and not a big deal and they are just being jealous.

I found porn before my marriage and really wanted to end it there and then but I thought people would think I was overreacting, I seriously regret marrying that pornsick spineless creep and not ending it there and then. If I was in that situation again right now and it was the first time I found he was watching porn, I would have no hesitation whatsoever in walking away with my head held high. Now I respect myself and will not be second best to or feel I have to compete with porn and the shitty impact it has on a man, his behaviour and lack of effort in the relationship.

Ladies divorcing men where their porn use is involved please state it loud and clear in your divorce petition and don't feel ashamed to tell people that's why or partly why your divorcing him. I'm proud of myself for leaving him, just wish I'd done it much much sooner.

Surprise-Turbulent · 2020-12-04T14:28:49+00:00

did it to my bf

so many chess strategy links

FortisEtLiber_ated · 2020-12-04T17:06:18+00:00

I remember when Snapchat started to really be a thing back in 2012 or so. I was with my ex and I just remember thinking, “Great. Another means for him to be creepy and porn-addicted.” I should have left then!! Now with Tik Tok & OF, I really don’t see the point of dating. I honestly cannot feel attracted to a man who spends hours and hours looking up other women. I feel like it’s training them to never be satisfied with one person, and I’m not going to waste any time fighting for attention from a man. One of the first things I do if I meet someone now is go to their social media. It’s saved me so much time 😎 My life has gotten exponentially better as a single woman anyway, and now I sleep GREAT at night.

2020-12-04T16:47:50+00:00

Whether or not he's supporting the female sexual exploitation industry is YOUR business. All pornsick men get dumped. It's your duty to find out if your man is one of them and DUMP HIM.

liondale · 2020-12-04T10:56:27+00:00

This doesn't even work anymore. Instagram took that down for this specific reason

Unfit_Needleworker · 2020-12-04T15:04:42+00:00

It’s disgraceful that we even have these thoughts. Most men are awful. I hope all these women leave and go find themselves and do better overall at life. ♥️

I remember being young (Already with child, unfortunately) and in an argument with my POS, his mother shouts “Why do you want to be with her, she won’t even let you look at porn?!”

Inthefullspectrum · 2020-12-04T14:14:34+00:00

Thanks so much, I've lost so many useful links without this trick.

daisy_0720 · 2020-12-04T15:50:44+00:00

I refuse to date a man that has Instagram. I'm in my 30s and there is no excuse for a grown man my age to be messing around with that shit.

(No judgement if you're younger and were raised with it, but for a man over 30, it's creepy as hell. Why the hell you messing around with something teens and early 20-somethings use? No good reason as far as I'm concerned.)

OpenCelebration3 · 2020-12-05T08:01:03+00:00

This brings back dark feelings of anxiety I had in my last relationship... yup I knew all the tricks and it’s how I found out about some shit that eventually made me dump my LVM ex. So glad this is not my problem anymore

2020-12-04T16:50:45+00:00

Hmm... I’m not seeing an activity option on people’s profiles

Title	The comments on this are so sad...
Author	rebel4acause
Upvotes	231
Comments	54
Date	December 4, 2020 7:14 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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