This is why FDS is so important !

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-01-13T08:51:10+00:00

This is why we don't give wife benefits to men who aren't our husbands.

She was looking at this as an investment into their relationship. He ran out 13 of her reproductive years and rode the gravy train through med school and probably never intended to marry her. Fuck this guy.

Determinedblonde · 2022-01-13T08:58:13+00:00

I used her and now she UN reasonably wants to be paid for it?

The best question to ask, is if the genders were swapped, wouldn’t he complain about what he deserves too? Men do it all the time.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-01-13T09:11:26+00:00

“Too busy with school” funny how when I was studying I could still manage to do all my basic adult tasks 🤡

“she payed for all the nice dinners”, oh lord.

Funny how now that he has a good income, they want “different things”. This is why we are never forever girlfriends because if we settle, they stay until they’ve gotten what they want from us then they flee!

Men don’t get wife benefits unless they are our husband.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2022-01-13T09:03:10+00:00

That's so funny, because when I was in med school I somehow had time to cook, clean, and maintain my own social calendar. I remember doing just fine on my loans (and before that when I was doing my PhD, my stipend) without having to mooch off of anyone else. Jesus Christ, the playing field for men and women isn't even in the same galaxy.

Also, what the fuck are you doing, forever-girlfriending on some dude for 13 years? Sweeping and mopping and cleaning up his shit and remembering his mom's birthday because he's got to read a book or two? Lmao if he's got time for the vacations you're paying for, he's got time to make his own lunches? Sis, some accountability needs to be taken. We need to not let this happen to us. We need to not allow men to use us like this just because we're afraid of being alone... and we need to not guilt other women out of having standards, either.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2022-01-13T08:53:05+00:00

What a piece of shit. He didn't even have the balls to break it off immediately when he decided he was ready for his new upgrade bangmaid, he had to waste a whole extra year of her life being petulant. He'll have his upgrade girlfriend knocked up ASAP.

fuckbeingautobanned · 2022-01-13T09:07:26+00:00

Some people in the comments are bashing OP for bringing her 'post-wall' and that no-one will date her any more. What the fuck, how fucked up is society to think that?

How freaking long did it take this son of a bitch leeching scrote to:

A. Find out he didn't want to go on.

B: Tell her.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

keep_my_stuff · 2022-01-13T09:32:50+00:00

i NeVeR AsKEd

Xlunas · 2022-01-13T09:56:01+00:00

If you aren't employed, do you pick a place and start working there hoping that one day they will pay you? No. Do not do the same with men. Always make sure that the fruit of your labour is secured.

Novemberinthechair · 2022-01-13T09:02:21+00:00

So, he's a gold digger.

loud_opinions · 2022-01-13T09:16:26+00:00

Mariah Carey sued her fiancé for wasting her time when he broke off the engagement… and she won. I hope this queen follows suit.

xfelugirlx · 2022-01-13T09:22:19+00:00

Girll the part when he says “but i didn’t ask for anything” such a coward asshole. Obviously you wouldn’t stay alone, she’s not an asshole like you. Poor woman feeding this scrote

SayNad · 2022-01-13T09:59:09+00:00

Can women stop, stop, STOOOOOPPP doing wife duties and financially backing men when they are studying?

He can get loans and grants and work part-time - and much more importantly live within his MEANS and not waste time dating! Student live a student life - myself included and know how I did it? By living within my means and not tricking some poor woman into financially backing me.

Yeah he going to med school and is busy and will be a future doctor and whatever - but he ain't that special that he need a mommy bangmaid to clean his mess and give him money.

Single mothers go to med school and nurse school too, while juggling childcare, housecare, and finding work to financially back herself. Women in similar position can do alll that and not trouble other people - and men want us to believe that they are soooo "helpless" while in medschool, we literally have to mommy them all the way to graduation?

Give me a f**king break.

StatusPop- · 2022-01-13T09:21:11+00:00

This is an important lesson, she thought that being loyal to him while he was at his lowest meant that she would reap the seeds she sowed into him when he is at the top but what pick me’s don’t realize is that men don’t function like that. They don’t believe in reciprocity when you’re the one giving to them, so NEVER give yourself away for free.

He boasts about how he is now making doctor money but yet when she asks him to pay her back he said “but-but I’m still in debt.” There were so many red flags that his gf chose to ignore but one thing in particular that pissed me off is when he said “…in return I promised her she could be a stay at home mom” whenever I hear the male gender mention promises I roll my eyes so far back into my head. You can never believe promises because men are not trustworthy, he said she COULD be a SAHM but he didn’t like her enough to propose to her and fast forward his promises. The false promise of being a SAHM to me was a way of patting her in the back like “good mule, I promise someday I could-maybe pay you back for all the muling you did for me you silly pick me.”

I hope his gf finds a good lawyer because she can still get some money out of him depending on how long they were together, how much she invested into him, and what their living arrangements were. If she plays this smartly she can gather evidence against him especially if she has proof of her saying she invested into him because she can claim that money was an investment in which she expected a return from but I doubt a pick me could logically think about anything other than male worship.

mfgfvd · 2022-01-13T09:30:21+00:00

Reading posts like this makes me wanna throw up. What a fucking scumbag wasting his GFs time.

engineergorl · 2022-01-13T10:00:44+00:00

If only the poor woman had invested in herself rather than this scrote. Now scrote’s new gf will reap all the benefits of her 13 years of “investment”. There’s a TikToker Miki Rai that has this same setup going on (she’s a nurse, her bf is a resident, she currently makes more money, and he has a hellish on-call schedule). She’s so smart, beautiful, and creative. Even though they look like a super happy, cute couple, I’m kinda terrified that this exact thing will happen to her.

europoor24 · 2022-01-13T11:20:32+00:00

admits all she did for him and still doesn't want to return the favour.. damn. this reminds me of betty broderick so much, glad I couldn't be bothered to do all of that for a dude.

merlinscalculator · 2022-01-13T10:12:17+00:00

He’s a dick and she’s an idiot. Ladies, don’t be an idiot.

the-worst- · 2022-01-13T10:58:29+00:00

They could be considered to have been common law married. She lived with him for 13 years and was THE MAIN REASON he has this "lucrative job field" in the first place. She could have a court case here to PROVE he OWES HER alimony. Or at the very least she could sue for all the money she spent on him with the assumption they would have kids together and that helping him would help them both.

Also, his job is supposedly SO lucrative... but he can't afford to compensate THE PERSON WHO GOT HIM THERE because of student loans? Really? What, is he literally sinking in EVERY unnecessary spendature toward this loan?

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-13T11:44:01+00:00

kept her as a forever gf too... she was mommy bangmaid for 15 years and now he's making "doctor money" - whatever that means and thinks he's suddenly superior to her. he's a douche and she should have taken off the rose colored glasses after the 1st year. never build a scrote, never do wifey shit for a BF.

extraodi · 2022-01-13T11:25:30+00:00

This is precisely why being a forever girlfriend isn’t beneficial to one’s self, and a major red flag.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-01-13T10:48:06+00:00

I believe he knows what the right thing to do is, but he is turning to the brigade of incels to pat his limp dick and tell him that it's okay, he doesn't need to man up and take responsibility for his decisions, She's the entitled one, after all...

phulkari2784 · 2022-01-13T12:06:19+00:00

Such entitled pricks. Men like him should be blacklisted on dating apps.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2022-01-13T11:38:48+00:00

My heart actually breaks for her. He knew what he was doing.

I hope she gets a lawyer and takes him to the cleaners. I think it'll be recognised as common law marriage.

cml678701 · 2022-01-13T11:32:34+00:00

It makes me soooo mad when I hear stories like this!!! My grandma put my grandpa through dental school, and he never forgot it, and did everything he could to make it up to her the rest of their lives. He was a stand up man, and back then, society would have judged someone harshly for doing this, as well. Now, it’s just seen as fine, with the woman being the fool.

scorchedsouI · 2022-01-13T09:27:12+00:00

This may be controversial, but I lack the capacity to feel empathy for women who live in a world where investing in themselves isn't only possible, but a much smarter decision in every conceivable way, and yet still decide to pour their soul, money and effort in some random scrote instead.

I know our upbringing predisposes us to a lot of behaviours, and I hope she learned her lesson and makes better decisions going forward. Still, I feel nothing for women like this. Actually, in a way I feel betrayed.

eatapeach18 · 2022-01-13T13:49:57+00:00

I was this woman a few years ago. I didn’t waste 13 years of my life, but I was the nurse who was earning more than double what her resident boyfriend was. I made the money. I cleaned and did laundry. I ran errands. I cooked. In my head I kept thinking this was an investment, and once he started making more money, he would do these things for me too.

I dumped him after a year.

Title	This is why FDS is so important !
Author	Ellenchus
Upvotes	262
Comments	44
Date	January 13, 2022 8:46 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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