🚩 when he asks “are you the jealous sort?”

miwamus · 2021-07-19T17:03:13+00:00

Onehundredpercentomundo redflag.

MissouriBlue · 2021-07-19T17:28:36+00:00

Yup. The narcissist I just got rid of asked that exact question — because he’s made his last two wives insane with his compulsive lies and porn addiction and phone hiding and gas lighting.

He then proceeded to go through my entire computer (pictures, eMails, ten-year old Christmas card inserts, everything) and critique items. Putting me off balance and beginning the abuse.

I had no clue.

I’ve never had to lock my own computer at home… why would I want to lock a desktop computer in my own home?!

The answer IS because allowing them access to your private thoughts and experiences gives them ammunition for How best to exploit you. It’s the complete private record of your life for the past 35 years.

_queeeen_ · 2021-07-19T18:56:01+00:00

This is when you “what do you mean?” him until he tells on himself. Should only take 2-3 WDYMs.

ChocoBananza · 2021-07-19T21:51:36+00:00

‘No, I’m not. I simply leave.’

I said that with my best resting bitch face, and let me tell you ladies… the squirm was out of this world. 10/10 will do again 👌🏻

Platipus6 · 2021-07-19T23:27:06+00:00

Absolutely. "Are you the __ type" is "I'm going to MAKE you that type".

Are you a nag? I'm going to sit in my ass and do nothing until you explode, then frown because I thought you weren't a nag.

Are you a gold-digger? I'm going to be stingy until you beg for grocery money, then sigh with disappointment.

Also "I've been cheated on before" = I'm going to be intrusive and controlling and you better let me.

They tell on themselves. We need to listen.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-07-19T21:51:55+00:00

Translation: Are you open to gaslighting?

_electrafire · 2021-07-19T20:30:43+00:00

An LVM once said he’s glad I’m not the jealous type and said he was talking to his friends and saying I scored high on the “hot/crazy matrix” a manosphere concept. Lmao little did they know I couldn’t give a fuck because I’m a “mIsAnDrIsT” and my identity doesn’t need the validation of a man

idiosyncraticg1 · 2021-07-19T17:40:14+00:00

In my opinion, any question along the lines of “are you the ______ type” is a red flag. They’re generalizing women and trying to get you to bend over backwards to prove you’re the cool girl.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-07-19T17:48:41+00:00

Yep, you're so right. But I'd also be wary because a man asking this question is likely to be a very jealous one himself. If there's one thing I've learned about these scrotes it's that they project more than an IMAX theater.

modernmedusaa · 2021-07-20T00:33:58+00:00

FDS translates : I cheat and like to cause drama triangulating women bc I’m a little sissy ****. Are you the sort of woman who doesn’t like being a doormat? I like a ‘confident’ woman who lets me physically/ emotionally disrespect her whenever I want and beams at me smiling when I come home fresh from sticking my dick in yet another random woman from Bumble. Without using condoms. Yes I will gaslight you on this if you dare to question my whereabouts.

Remember cheaters are statistically more likely to get violent / turn into batterers in the future. It is abuse. It’s a boundary violation. It’s disrespect.

Manipulation is trying to frame you as ‘irrational’ for having a normal reaction to his deliberate calculated bullshit.

The more nasty covert skilled abusers who’ve had plenty practice will say something along the lines of ‘you’re so insecure! Get a grip and don’t think so low of yourself!’.

It’s all projection & trying to throw off scent.

Put that dirty rat back in the BIN!!!

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-07-20T03:24:12+00:00

So glad I found FDS. All my thoughts and feelings about these things were finally validated. Now I actually run in the other direction and feel turned off when I see a man trying to justify weird creepy female friendships and jealousy inducing tactics on social media. It’s like a breath of relief to admit these things are not OK and never were.

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-07-19T23:05:26+00:00

Aka "do you not tolerate triangulation"?

londochig · 2021-07-19T17:17:02+00:00

Very true. No HVM has asked me such a question.

Protoetype · 2021-07-19T19:59:28+00:00

I am the jealous sort. I'm also the cheating sort, I can't be bothered to stay jealous for too long. His loyalty buys mine, it's certainly never the other way around. Fuck around and find out, boy.

mashibeans · 2021-07-19T18:49:20+00:00

Yeap, I'm jealous, jealous like a man is jealous when it comes to their partner giving their attention and sexual interest to other men. Double standard much? Byeeeeeeeee scrote!

Hopeful_Condition_58 · 2021-07-19T17:16:49+00:00

Then he's definitely the negging sort.

Big-Paleontologist13 · 2021-07-20T03:31:49+00:00

my lvx found jealous behaviour sexy...i remember him getting really down once when he realised he could never ‘fully possess’ me or some shit. i thought it was romantic, though my stomach started twisting and alarm bells rang. listen to instincts always ladies

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-07-20T05:40:28+00:00

Uhu... If someone were to spit in your food and then ask you: will you eat that?

That's what they want. To crush your ego, to turn you into a spineless, mindless, all-accepting fool.

Title	🚩 when he asks “are you the jealous sort?”
Author	catsarepawsome
Upvotes	454
Comments	31
Date	July 19, 2021 4:43 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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