Hey all,

I was looking for posts on this in the sub but haven’t found too much so I thought I’d make a post.

Delighted at how much more selective I am now because my eyes are very open.

On that note, I’ve noticed an interesting trend with men on dating apps. Almost instantly (within the first 1-2 short conversations on the app) some mention is made of ghosting or being rejected.

Ex. “I’m going to go to sleep now but I hope you’ll still want to talk to me in the morning. I’ve been ghosted a lot so I hope that’s not too forward.”

Or…

Ex. “I wouldn’t know because, to be honest, I don’t get a lot of women wanting to have conversations with me/matches expire before I can do anything” etc.

2 times this was brought up in two separate conversations with two separate men recently and I was seeing red as in 🚩 🚩

And who knows how often it was said/implied in my pre-FDS days when I certainly wouldn’t have picked up on it.

I have to wonder… is this some kind of badly thought up manipulation tactic designed to endear me to you? Is it meant to make me want to give you a chance?

Either way, it didn’t sit right with me.

Blocked/deleted.

IMO, if another woman (or many) has ghosted you, then that’s a pattern. A pattern that is the direct result of something undesirable in you. I do not care to find out what.

Bye.