There are men out there who think periods are disgusting and claim they don't want to hear any word of it. If they see any sign of period products or period blood, they freak out.
This didn't happen to me but at my university, I heard about a guy freaking out over finding used period products in the shared bathroom bin. The guy was interrogating the women who lived in the flat to find out who put the bloody pad/tampon there. How dare she do that!
Extreme example but it shows the disgust some men feel towards periods. You don't want to date someone who lacks maturity in this way because if they can't handle a little period blood, then they won't be able to handle anything beyond that if need be.
Like in the case of childbirth. For the ones that do want kids, childbirth can be so horrifically messy in terms of amneotic fluid, blood, even poo in some cases. I know most of us here are thinking long term in terms of HVM so giving birth is something you might experience in the future. You don't want to be in a situation where you're lying on your back in labour, you're sweating, you're in so much pain and stress & then have your partner take one look between your legs and have a look of disgust on his face when you're so vulnerable. Imagine how awful you'd feel when you're fighting to bring his child into the world.
There's also men who lack sympathy towards the side effects of periods like nausea, cramps, headaches etc etc. We all know how varied the symptoms can be and how disruptive they are so if you're feeling unwell and he knows it, but doesn't seem that bothered, red flag.
If he can't support you or even show he cares for a little period, don't expect him to give a shit if you experience more serious medical problems down the line.
I think we can gauge how a man feels about periods by just casually talking about periods in general, doesn't have to be yours. Could mention some new products on the market, new ways of advertising, pms symptoms, or issues around period poverty for example.
If you're feeling bold, you could straight up ask him to buy some tampons/pads for you, even if you don't need them. He can feel embarrassed doing it, but if you ask him and he does it, it shows he cares more about your wellbeing and needs.
If he shows he can be mature and respectful about situations like this, then it could be a green flag. Long term, he could end up being the sort who wouldn't act weird if he saw any used products in the bin or new products in a box and who might even buy you some new ones himself without being asked, to ensure you're topped up. We all know how inconvenient it is when your period comes and you're not prepared.
He could be the sort who'd understand if you didn't want to go out because your period zapped out all your energy or if your cramps had you bed bound. And to comfort you, he could even have your favourite craving snacks ready and waiting with a good show on TV.
If a man is respectful towards your period, its a good sign, but doesn't point to him definitely being HV. Got to keep vetting.
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