Here are the sequence of text messages since my wife refuses to speak to me face to face. I called her and let her know that if she wants to pursue counseling and reconciliation I'm willing. Because, if shit his the fan there is evidence that I attempted.

Her:

So, fixing your marriage was last on your list. You are a joke. You verbally abuse your wife, ignore her for days, act happy about what you did whistling, laughing exaggerating, somehow finding all this time to be with everyone else but yet no time to fix your marriage issue you created and do nothing about your actions for days and that's what I get. You are a joke. There's no fixing this. You made your bed. I don't want anything to do with you. If it takes this long for you to even "see" there's conflict in your marriage, you have issues and I don't care to be apart of them. You can fix them on your own.

Me:

To clarify: you are the one who locked yourself away from me, choosing not to interact. You're an adult, if you see conflict then be responsible and engage. Don't wait for someone else to initiate. It's your marriage too. This will be my last text message. If you want to talk face to face I'm willing but will not engage you over text or voicemail. If you are not willing to engage and take steps to resolve these issues then we will have to decide where to go from there.

Her:

This will be my last message: I will not peruse my abuser. The abuser is the one who comes and apologies. Seeks the resolving. I didn't do anything wrong. My husband verbally abused me and left me wounded for days without a care in the world. I will not come face to face to an abuser. When the abuser is ready to face his actions and seek forgiveness I will face him otherwise I will lock the door so I know when he is coming so I can protect myself as advised. I will seek to go do other activities as advised and spend my days away from the abuser, as advised and as my abuser did so to me in a form to torture me. It is not my job to seek out the abuser and do his job to fix his problem, as advised. For he is an adult acting as a child caring on his abuse in the form or ignoring his abuse. I am just a woman caring the pain of her abuser, waiting for her abuser to start acting like an adult. Doing nothing wrong...I checked...I'm am in the right, with my feelings and actions. I will wait and carry on as long as it takes and will never peruse my abuser. He is one lucky abuser.

Kind of answers those questions.