/r/AskReddit thread about make rape victims sharing their experiences. Very disheartening to see the number of victims who were told "men can't be raped."

50PercentLies · 2017-04-21T11:53:53+00:00

To be fair the large general answers to the victims on that comment section were sympathetic, I'm glad to see that, in my country rape is not even defined by law as something a man can be victim of or a woman can commit.

EricAllonde · 2017-04-21T12:08:08+00:00

This post is making me think that maybe universities should have mandatory consent classes - for women.

There are far too many stories in that thread of female rapists getting the pussypass.

Clearly they, and everyone else, need to be taught that it's still rape when women do it, that witnesses should report/intervene when they see a woman doing it and more of these women need to be sent to jail.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2017-04-21T11:49:06+00:00

I don't see how anyone can read that and think we live in a rape culture for women.

SolongStarbird · 2017-04-21T13:36:25+00:00

I sat awake last night reading most of that thread. I guess my deep fear that I might meet a female rapist wanted to be fed or something, because I just kept reading... It was so disheartening. A lot of them seem to be from over ten years ago. Has the whole "men can't be raped" attitude changed at all?

JustinTrudeauLPC · 2017-04-21T16:24:22+00:00

I had a friend in college that I played rugby with. Good guy but smaller in stature, maybe 5'6" tall, 150lbs. Our team had a tour that went to Ireland to play for a couple of weeks and when he got back he seemed "off" somehow. He got drunk after a game shortly afterwards and related the story of during the tour being billeted to a family and their daughter was a very large woman and got him extremely drunk and then raped him. He was really fucked up about it because she was apparently really unattractive and the experience of having a woman completely overpower him left him feeling emasculated. I'm pretty sure I'm the only person that he told from the team and I'm sure if the team had found out it would have been a source of great humiliation for him.

-redditardation- · 2017-04-21T11:51:46+00:00

"If he gets raped he should be happy because she's pleasuring him furthering the patriarchal notion that women simply exist to provide men sexual gratification."

Pretty sure I'm feminisming right.

TheSummerain · 2017-04-21T15:32:45+00:00

The comments though are amazing and supportive.

Imnotmrabut · 2017-04-21T17:32:01+00:00

For Future Reference When Dipsticks Say Men Can't Be Raped.

Sexual Assault Of Juveniles In Prison
Approximately 95% of all youth reporting staff sexual misconduct said they had been victimized by female staff. In 2008, 42% of staff in state juvenile facilities were female.
Beck, Allen J. *Sexual victimization in juvenile facilities reported by youth, 2008-2009.* DIANE , U.S. Department of Justice Publishing, 2010. NCJ 228416

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Men Don't Get Raped?
"A total of 43 percent of high school boys and young college men reported they had an unwanted sexual experience and of those, 95 percent said a female acquaintance was the aggressor, "
*“Sexual Coercion Context and Psychosocial Correlates Among Diverse Males,”* Bryana H. French, PhD, Jasmine D. Tilghman, MEd, and Dominique A. Malebranche, BS, University of Missouri; Psychology of Men & Masculinity; online March, 2014.

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The Real Rape Culture
"The torture of inmates in U.S. detention facilities through sexual assault has long been allowed to occur with impunity.".
Just Detention International

HeForeverBleeds · 2017-04-21T16:28:30+00:00

One thing I'm thinking while reading through these is how many of them never resulted in any kind of conviction. Of course, this is both because many of them were never reported in the first place and also because in many of them they told others but weren't believed, and honestly I'm have my doubts that going to the police--usually with little or no evidence--would have resulted in a conviction anyway

Either way, it remains that the vast majority of these perpetrators will never end up in the statistics of how many sex offenders are male or female

l3lueman67 · 2017-04-21T15:41:04+00:00

I made a thread like this and it got a fair amount of serious responses and only a few assholes.

thalos3D · 2017-04-21T19:03:17+00:00

Exact same reasoning as the idea that only white people can be racists -- and just as vile.

iiooiooi · 2017-04-21T11:53:23+00:00

EDIT: Male

akamustacherides · 2017-04-21T18:34:32+00:00

If being to drunk to consent is enough to claim rape, think of how many ugly women are rapists.

lagrandenada · 2017-04-21T18:54:23+00:00

Isn't it interesting that the same source of this archaic nonsense (men can't be raped) is English common law, which also stated a husband can't rape his wife, and that being under 14 was a defense to an accusation of rape because that person couldn't ejaculate?

Queen_Jezza · 2017-04-21T20:42:05+00:00

I don't see any, I guess they got removed.

ReefNixon · 2017-04-22T00:35:43+00:00

It takes a while to realise that this attitude is even a problem. I might delete this comment because people know my /u/ but I was raped by my ex at least 50 times and it took me years to realise that that's what it was.

Before then I'd just thought of it as "my fiancé forced me to have sex with her", as if that and "my fiancé raped me" were two different things.

I'm not sure what triggered the sudden clarity though, unfortunately.

damac_phone · 2017-04-21T15:25:32+00:00

I used to work with a guy who had been raped and he even said himself that it wasn't rape, because that can't happen to a man.

EricAllonde · 2017-04-21T15:53:05+00:00

This women's blog has done a story about the thread now:

http://www.mamamia.com.au/stories-of-men-being-raped/

crazypants88 · 2017-04-21T21:22:30+00:00

That is very sad.

TrashTierZarya · 2017-04-21T17:27:56+00:00

I don't see anything saying men can't be raped. Do you have th comments

2017-04-21T20:44:36+00:00

But very unsurprising.

Aidernz · 2017-04-22T03:52:58+00:00

Yeah I saw that. I couldn't get through many stories :/

Cmart1984 · 2017-04-22T03:55:53+00:00

Men can be raped, I was 16, she was 24 and my best friends brothers girlfriend.

She came over my house with my friend for Super Bowl. She had been kind of hitting on me for a while. My buddy had to leave for a while. She told me she wanted to have sex. I said no. She went into the bathroom, and no shit, started cutting her legs with a razor blade.

She told me if I didn't fuck her, she'd kill herself on my bathroom. I felt like my choices were to do it or explain to my mother how a chick killed herself in the bathroom.

Needless to say it was the most disgusting thing I ever did in my life. My friend came back while it was happening and it turned into a huge mess.

UDT22 · 2017-04-22T05:30:55+00:00

I Googled women convicted of the rape of a man and this is all I could find

http://fox4kc.com/2015/05/17/woman-convicted-of-breaking-into-apartment-raping-man-headed-to-prison/

Akesgeroth · 2017-04-22T13:11:40+00:00

Wow. I'm surprised the mods there didn't memory hole the thread.

Underwater_Karma · 2017-04-22T17:25:55+00:00

When I was in college I'd lost my sublease and was crashing at a friend's house for a few weeks, and we had a big house party. I drank way to much and was being aggressively pursued by a girl I was in no way attracted to. I was fading fast and every time I started to drift off, she'd be all over me..slobbering on my mouth and pawing at my crotch.

After pushing her off the third time, I went in my bedroom, locked the door and passed right out. And you can guess, I woke up to find she'd jimmied the crappy lock, was naked, and was sucking my penis to get it hard enough to jump on.

Id been trying to put her off politely all night, but now I was just mad. I started yelling at her to "get the fuck out" and called her a "fat pig", and threw her clothes out into the hall. When she went after them, I locked and blocked the door with my body..eventually passing out there. In the morning I found out everyone in the house was mad at ME. they'd all seen her pawing at my drunk ass all night and thought it was hilarious, and said that what I did (locking her naked into the hall) and said to her was horrible and uncalled for. Nobody gave two shits for the fact that she'd sexually assaulted me, and would have full raped me if I hadn't woken up. No... calling a girl fat was way, way worse. I ended up having to move out over the incident...I was literally sexually assaulted and victim blamed to the point I had to find a new place to live.

Imagine if a man jimmied a drunk woman's locked door to get access to rape her, then undressed and began performing oral sex on her to get get ready for penetration...Nobody would have faulted the women for literally shooting and killing the man...But reversed the sexes and the guy is in the wrong for not wanting to be raped and being rude about it. Think about that, a behavior that could result in a man legally being killed (and the killer called a 'hero'), but if a woman does it somehow she's still the victim.

Does anyone really think the police would have cared if I'd filed a complaint? I couldn't even get my friends to care. That's the reality for male victims of female sexual assaults, nobody cares...or rather the only level of "care" that it rises to is "pretty funny".

Colonosco-Peter · 2017-04-21T15:44:37+00:00

Anyone care to link the thread?

asdrojas · 2017-04-21T16:51:46+00:00

link?

2017-04-22T03:21:23+00:00

i literally don't see a single upvoted comment denying men can be raped

you faggots are so triggered about everything

eixan · 2017-04-22T09:14:34+00:00

I don't see why we need to borrowwomen victim mentality when it comes to rape. In most cases it's just shitty sex. That being said of course I'm not agruing that it should Edit: not be illegal but comeon it's far from the end of world. Especially for men, and all the plethora of other far more important issues that we have to deal with.

In fact I think the hysteria that women have when it comes to rape comes from a place of misandry. Remember when we hung black men for raping white women? Why? Because a white woman was defiled.

Im not the only craze person who has this view. Here's a WOMEN from REASON tv who has a very similar view(basically a libertarian think tank but its not like their a redpil rape apologist group)

https://www.youtube.com/D2fCPvuoHx0?t=20m16s

We've come back around to again to these very victorian notions that a women is damaged by sex. That a women is hurt by sex. That when a women is raped for example that her life will never be the same again. That she's ruined. They used to call it a fate worse then death. And I think that this is an instrisiticly anti-feminist view because it gives tremendous power to men

orcscorper · 2017-04-21T20:34:54+00:00

I think there is a fundamental point this thread is missing, namely the fundamentally different way males and females interpret the act of sex. Cuz evolutionary biology, and with all other things equal, the pure act of non consensual sex affects the psyche of a female more deeply than it does a male on average. Throw in the fact that the physics of the act itself incorporating a penetrator and a reciever, and it makes perfect sense to me that a man being raped is generally less of a "thing" than a woman being raped. I am male, and have been in situations in my younger drinking days where I "came to" in the middle of an otherwise unwanted sexual encounter, in one instance full blown banging, and this had zero negative effect on psychologically and thankfully biologically. (read: no STDS) All rapes are not equal, and although some cases I'm sure are awful and akin to tradional views of the terrible act, lets not belittle the tragedy of male sexual aggression vs women, by comparing it apples to apples to its generally more benevolent counterpart.

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Title	/r/AskReddit thread about make rape victims sharing their experiences. Very disheartening to see the number of victims who were told "men can't be raped."
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Date	April 21, 2017 11:40 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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